... and you realise she's got a child in a pram and your immediate suspicion is that she's married/involved/etc... so you think... "Damn!"... and don't bother even trying to talk to her...

Here's a moral dilema to while away your time... Me? I was tempted to go up and say hi but didn't have the balls... (or did I just not want to risk the ones I'd got? :P)

She had nice sparkly eyes.... oh what if...


*note slight tongue in cheekness of this post*


but seriously... what would you do... would I have been completely out of my mind? gotten my head caved in by some protective hubby or is it more likely she's a single mum?!!

Ho hum....

It may be a neice/nephew...you would never know if you diddnt go and ask...(?)
Shes not likely to send you off packing...Ive seen your photo on Hot or Not.......Grrrrrrr ;)

Originally posted by cruella
It may be a neice/nephew...you would never know if you diddnt go and ask...(?)
Shes not likely to send you off packing...Ive seen your photo on Hot or Not.......Grrrrrrr ;)
Well she might send me to pack my stuff so I could move in... ;)

*cue: groans*... Yeah I know... baaaadddd..

Just to note.. this is sooooo not a "pity me, I'm single... boohoo" type thread, I've thoroughly enjoyed being single this past year... (well ok, not ALL the time, but still!)

I'm just wondering if I was just a complete loon here... and you're right... nephew/neice!... Arrggghh...



btw thanks for the compliment... time for your eye checkup dear ;)

If ever you wanted to see a women struggling with a pram then that was the time..cue knight in shining armour to rescue the day and casually start a conversation.

I think it's probably a bit unfair to automatically assume that a woman with a young child is married or taken ( but something that i'm sure we all do)... You could always just try making conversation (while looking if she has a ring on), you usually get the impression right off the bat when you start talking to a women if she is interested or not, what have you got to lose, eh?



(Apart from that)

That's the problem with trams. They're so accessible. On a bus you could have offered her a hand to get the buggy off, then you could have asked if you'd be treading on anybody's toes if you gave her your number.

Doesn't it sound easy when you're not actually there?

Originally posted by Strix
Doesn't it sound easy when you're not actually there?

Yep, but that's the problem, if you don't take the chance then you think it over and over and wonder what you should have done. If you actually act on it and burn, the embarrassment only lasts for a few minutes.

The is no sadder question than 'what if'.

Aw the one that got away, we all have one of those :sad:

Ah Martin - stop to think & you are lost :P


(I think we need to get you a pack of serviettes & some pens for Xmas :hihi: )

I'm soooooo going regret this post I know it.

And hey, if you don't see her again, something tells me you have a few (not so) secret admirers anyway. ;) :D

Chuck yourself in at the deep end!
Say to her
'Exscuse me, you don't know me but I just wanted to say you've got the most beautiful eyes'
Most of the fairer sex like to recieve compliments as long as you're polite.

Originally posted by WALLBUILDER
Chuck yourself in at the deep end!
Say to her
'Exscuse me, you don't know me but I just wanted to say you've got the most beautiful eyes'
Most of the fairer sex like to recieve compliments as long as you're polite. And learn to duck!

Not saying anything is something you will regret for a long time my friend.
The 'What if????' question will now never be answered!
If you find yourself in a similar situation again i would suggest that you tell her she has beautiful eyes. Just make sure you are out of earshot of other people.
There is nothing worse than making someone feel embarrassed in public, to make a conversation stop dead.

As long as you come across as genuine and not make her feel like you are taking the p**s, i don't think any female would be offended!

perhaps it was a 'sliding doors' moment? You may be destined to meet again!

Originally posted by Strix
And learn to duck!

I've never had to duck, a brief compliment usually gets a giggle or a thanks in return. It'd be interesting to see Strix how you'd respond if you were paid an inocent compliment from a total stranger.
The only time it ever went wrong for me was when I was in the Hermitage pub on London road and told a girl I thought she had really nice hair. She turned round on me and said and this is a pretty exact quote
'What the f*** are you looking at? My response was
'I thought I was looking at a lady, I'm sorry I was obviously mistaken'
I then moved off at speed before her ale stewed brain could think of an answer.

Man says "you have the most beautiful eyes".

Woman hears "hello ... let's hop in to bed".

Originally posted by Jamie
Man says "you have the most beautiful eyes".

Woman hears "hello ... let's hop in to bed".

You've been listening in on my conversations?!?!

Originally posted by Siân
Ah Martin - stop to think & you are lost :P


(I think we need to get you a pack of serviettes & some pens for Xmas :hihi: )
Heh heh...

As Sian has so aptly noted I've been throwing myself off the medium height board a few times in the past couple of weeks to no avail *cue: head back, hand across forehead and dramatic sigh* :rolleyes: :loopy: :D

Still n'all it was just a random moment and as for the "guys say/ women hears" thing... well I think that all depends on whether you come across as meaning what you say or have that whole "excuse me while I slime across to you" look...

So, we shall see if this is indeed a sliding doors moment *cue: beep beep beep* or just another one of those... "Brain to mouth, brain to mouth... hello mouth..? are you there?.. Ok, jaw, respond please!!! Dammit you're drooling!!" times...

:gag: :D :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Martin_s
So, we shall see if this is indeed a sliding doors moment *cue: beep beep beep* or just another one of those... "Brain to mouth, brain to mouth... hello mouth..? are you there?.. Ok, jaw, respond please!!! Dammit you're drooling!!" times...

LMAO Martin.

Yeah ... I am sure women pickup more on your intention and energy and how genuine you are that what you say ...

Revised version:


Man thinks "phoooar ... hubba hubba ... hi baby ... let's hop in to bed".
Man says "you have the most beautiful eyes".

Woman hears "phoooar ... hubba hubba ... hi baby ... let's hop in to bed".

Originally posted by Jamie
Revised version:

Man thinks "phoooar ... hubba hubba ... hi baby ... let's hop in to bed".
Man says "you have the most beautiful eyes".

Woman hears "phoooar ... hubba hubba ... hi baby ... let's hop in to bed".
Hold on a second, reality check... since when have women ever been able to understand what a guy's thinking and vice versa...

No comprende senora' :)


When in doubt, assume the worse I think is probably more accurate... but I digress, we're getting off topic here... back to the tram...

*cue: deep sigh and dreamy gooey.. "pass the bucket" look* :gag: :D

Originally posted by WALLBUILDER

It'd be interesting to see Strix how you'd respond if you were paid an inocent compliment from a total stranger.
I am always suspicious of flattery, but never rude, unless the original address is inappropriate, in which case I am aloof and terse.

But I'm not a woman - I'm an engineer!

Correctly judging when and how to deliver a compliment is a skill that you have to learn.

You need to judge the particular person, I've never really been able to deliver a convincing compliment until I'm at least a couple of hours into the first date.

Up until then the best chat up line is "hello" and the rest tends to just follow on naturally, starting a conversation and taking an interest in someone is enough of a compliment to start with quite often.

a smile and a twinkle in ur eye for starters, most girls dont like to be pounched on with "hello, how are you? come here often? where do you live???" argghh show some dark moody distance with a cheeky grin, do this for a couple of encounters and then eventually do ur hi's and door opening etc..

Originally posted by NatalieSheff
a smile and a twinkle in ur eye for starters, most girls dont like to be pounched on with "hello, how are you? come here often? where do you live???" argghh show some dark moody distance with a cheeky grin, do this for a couple of encounters and then eventually do ur hi's and door opening etc..

Looking dark and moody? yeah that sounds like a great way of sttracting the opposite sex.

That might be fine if you are very good looking, but the rest of us can't afford to be shy.

For most of us mortals a woman is not going to notice us unless we actually say something to her.

i say dark and moody cos i cant think of the words, but you know - interesting and hot!
and a smile makes even the ugliest person look nicer. i bet ud be surprised at how many people actually do check you out:D

Originally posted by NatalieSheff
i say dark and moody cos i cant think of the words, but you know - interesting and hot!
and a smile makes even the ugliest person look nicer. i bet ud be surprised at how many people actually do check you out:D

Well, OK they may be checking me out all the time, but thats my point, I've not said anything to them so I'm not going to see them again, and if they do happen to see me again they probably wont remember that they've seen me before (if that makes any sense!!)

There's been women that I have seen on a couple of occasions, and I've thought, "right, just play it cool, you'll see them again, don't want to look overkeen"

and then what happens? you never see them again, for some reason that you absolutely no idea about (like they might have moved cities, developed ne interests, whatever.....)

So basically, grab your chances with 2 hands when they come along. At least you don't die wondering.

(Also I admit that I don't always follow that advice!)

Well, you could always go across and ask if she was in the Classic Rock Bar on Monday night (you could have SWORN it was her) and if she says not, then ask her if she enjoys live music and if she'd like to go along with you sometime.

I'll get my coat....

Originally posted by Classic Rock
Well, you could always go across and ask if she was in the Classic Rock Bar on Monday night (you could have SWORN it was her) and if she says not, then ask her if she enjoys live music and if she'd like to go along with you sometime.

I'll get my coat....
:thumbsup: Now there's a tack I hadn't considered until now...

:D

Well.. it was all in fun really wasn't it... and no I haven't seen her since but that might be something to do with the lack of tram journeys... Ho hum...

There's always the New Year... Tallyhoooooooooo :D

I had a similar thing with a woman who got the same bus as me in the morning.

Saw her 4 days out of 5 working days over about a 4 week period.

Then when I was actually going to start talking to her (Okay, Okay I admit I should have done before that) I never saw her again.

That was only a coupld of months ago though, so its not over yet!

Hey Martin, it wasn't last Friday about 2pm ish. Didnt I see you getting on a tram by the university?

I was wearing a wig and had a pram with me. I was off to a fancy dress party......

Originally posted by Yodameister
So basically, grab your chances with 2 hands when they come along. At least you don't die wondering.

(Also I admit that I don't always follow that advice!)


I think you're absolutely right, Yodameister.

If you don't try, you never know what might've happened - the chemistry might have clicked in immediately you spoke, you just don't know.

And let's face it, you've GOT to take the plunge and talk to someone at some point if you're going to have any sort of relationship with them - so why keep putting it off? A great relationship is surely worth a little bit of risk?

Just my thoughts.

StarSparkle :thumbsup:

Originally posted by StarSparkle
I think you're absolutely right, Yodameister.

If you don't try, you never know what might've happened - the chemistry might have clicked in immediately you spoke, you just don't know.

And let's face it, you've GOT to take the plunge and talk to someone at some point if you're going to have any sort of relationship with them - so why keep putting it off? A great relationship is surely worth a little bit of risk?

Just my thoughts.

StarSparkle :thumbsup:

Full of great thoughts... StarSparkle :wink: :)

Originally posted by WALLBUILDER
Chuck yourself in at the deep end!
Say to her
'Exscuse me, you don't know me but I just wanted to say you've got the most beautiful eyes'
Most of the fairer sex like to recieve compliments as long as you're polite.

she probably knows she dosen`t know you !!!:loopy:
lol

I agree with SparkleStar im on my second try with a boy tha i love v much
he was very confused about wot to do but i told he that if we didnt take a chance we would neva know wha could happen.