I work with a bloke and he has been back with his ex 4 times.

Its comfortable and safe and they know each other is all you get from him.

Is he ever going to move onto a relationship that lasts I ask myself or if trouble occurs will he always go back to his ex.

comfort zone an dthe desperate need to be loved. Fear of the unknown etc etc.
I believe once an ex always an ex

Never, I can't stand the sight or sound of her.. :)

Difficult to answer this one.

For several reasons and I don`t have the time.

Never Never Never Never Never Never

That way madness lies

ive known people do the sex with ex thing aswell - crazy

Originally posted by NatalieSheff
ive known people do the sex with ex thing aswell - crazy

Thats just crazy talk

I had a relationship kinda like this years ago. My then partner - lets call him Chris - was pretty messed up about some issues relating to his family. He went through some stressful times including his mothers death. Every time things went wrong he would say he needed 'time'. Being somewhat naive at the time I always thought this was it, end of the world etc and I truly loved him, he really was the bees knees.
Inevitably we would get back together, normally within 6 weeks of breaking up.
One day after it had happened for the 6th or so time I packed all his stuff that he kept at my place, called him to collect it and that was that. The odd call etc but nothing more.
Not because I wanted it to be over but because this time I was convinced it was.
I was wrong. The benefit of hindsight tells me that he would have come back again and again.
We actually ended up having another fling a few years later and there were a million signs that he would have continued.
Mutual friends who I still see ( Chris doesn't) tell me that he was like this before I met him and from what I've heard since he still is.
He's pretty screwed up but the situation of coming back to me over and over would have continued because it worked for him.
One of them has to take a strong step away or this could go on either for good or until one meets someone they feel more strongly about, then the other will get hurt.
Sometimes I think people need to realise that the person they have is the best they will have in relation to themselves.

I went back with my 'Ex' on a few occasions.
(All in the past now!)

-The sex was real good. But that was it!

We hated each other as people and 'sex' was the only thing that kept us going back ....'Time and time again.'


But as you get older, you realise that there's so much more to life than just 'Sex.'

This can depend on if you still love the person if this is the case then sometimes ones judgment becomes a little clouded,I have myself gone back with an ex only for the relationship to flounder for the same reasons as before.
As for the point that you know what your getting this is very true,it is also easier than going down the road of trying to start another relasionship with someone new.
And finally if there are children involved then this also can complicate matters,it's not a easy situation.

i've had a few exes "try it on" after, its pathetic. boys are stupid!

Nat that is a big generalisation to make,we are all human beings and we all make mistakes be you male or female.

chill out little fish! i was being jokey as in a "boys are stupid - throw rocks at em" type way.
I got one of my ex best friends together with another friend years ago, then he turned out to be a freak/n*b and noone liked him inc family and all other friends. Not because he was ex ugly and boring but because he was weird, creepy and unsocialable. She eventually finished it with him and he pestered her for over a year, crying etc...sending her presents, doing the nice person/bad person thing. She got back with him the other week. Stupid i wanna scream, but i dont, i just nod and agree and let peple make their own mistakes. I think the only reason she got back with him, was security - yes they are house hunting already, and she was single since she broke up with him
why cant people be happy on there on? and in their own company?

Little fish?? lol thats a new one on me,but I agree that people ought to be able to be happy on their own and im sure many are.
I also know of similar situations as yours and I now leave people to themselves, that way they can't blame anyone else for their mistakes
Still who knows what's round the courner eh?

Boy,

Oscar Wilde was right. He said, "Once you've loved someone, you'll do anything for them...except love them again."

I agree, once an ex, always an ex.

:) Sierra

I've only ever been out with people I've been friends with first, and having split up, we've stayed friends. Time and distance may have led to ends to these relationships, but I've never parted with somebody on bad terms.

Just coz you're not what each other is looking for, doesn't mean it has to get to the world war three state before you set each other free.

Have you noticed they can make the best shoulders to cry on too? Nobody (except another ex) knows you like they do.

Originally posted by Strix
I've only ever been out with people I've been friends with first, and having split up, we've stayed friends. Time and distance may have led to ends to these relationships, but I've never parted with somebody on bad terms.

Just coz you're not what each other is looking for, doesn't mean it has to get to the world war three state before you set each other free.

Have you noticed they can make the best shoulders to cry on too? Nobody (except another ex) knows you like they do.
Amen Strix...

Good grief are we agreeing? :o ;)

I couldn't go back to an ex for anything except friendship and that would depend entirely on the way things came to a close... Time changes things though... and in my case I've just wished my ex congrats on her engagement to her best mate of many years...

Such is life... :)

Originally posted by Strix
Have you noticed they can make the best shoulders to cry on too? Nobody (except another ex) knows you like they do.

As much as I agree with the rest of your statement Strix sometimes that isn't always the case.. People more often than not show their 'true' nature in the later stages of a relationship..

Originally posted by Deejay
People more often than not show their 'true' nature in the later stages of a relationship.. That'll be the WWIII thing I mentioned escaping before, will it? Dunno myself. Not been there.

Originally posted by Martin_s
Good grief are we agreeing? :o ;)
Have we had a tete a tete that I've forgotten about? Hope not ;)

I broke up with my g/f just over a month ago, before we dated we were good friends... we broke up once and got back together not long after, but things havn't been right since, we broke up again and it's been a month since I've spoke to her or seen her properly...

to be honest if she asked me to try again part of me would want to... but another part of me wants rid and to start again... I dont think I'd get back with her now, but I think it's going to be a while before I can only think of her as a close friend again, and not my "ex"

when you love somebody and you break up because somethings not working out it can be hard not to want to try again... if you broke up cus she was cheating on you, or something really bad then it's probably easier... but if you break up say cus you just dont have time for eachother, or things just aren't as good as they were you kind of hope maybe in the short future things might change and you can work things out...

bah, I hate relationships... they cause more hassle than they're worth I'm sure of it!

anyone know any nice single women 17 - 22? :D lol

I have never gone back with an ex.

However, I can understand someone going back once or twice with an ex because they might be able to sort things out. But so many people I know keep on and on going back with their ex and then splitting up and going back! I tell them they are mad, but people like that don't want to listen! :rolleyes:

Originally posted by xafier
bah, I hate relationships... they cause more hassle than they're worth I'm sure of it!
Why do you think I'm single mate?

Anyone know any nice single women 17 - 22? :D lol
Ditto.... ;)

Can you say you know yourself? ;) :D