Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o

Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

Some of it is probably accidental, I'm sure it would be easy for someone who has lost their co-ordination through drink to accidently knock someone.

You are right though, a lot of blokes seem to get wound up more easily when drinking. I guess that is just an unfortunate side effect of excessive drink I'm afraid, it brings out the worst in people.

I still like to think it is the minority that get really arsey though, never understood it myself. I've survived to nearly 30 without getting into a proper drunken fight and I've certainly been drunk plenty of times. So it can't be all blokes.

Some of it is probably accidental, I'm sure it would be easy for someone who has lost their co-ordination through drink to accidently knock someone.

You are right though, a lot of blokes seem to get wound up more easily when drinking. I guess that is just an unfortunate side effect of excessive drink I'm afraid, it brings out the worst in people.

I still like to think it is the minority that get really arsey though, never understood it myself. I've survived to nearly 30 without getting into a proper drunken fight and I've certainly been drunk plenty of times. So it can't be all blokes.

If I counted the accidental ones, the figure would be more about 15... but these three were deliberate jabs to the back! :o I mean whats their problem!?
He got close to a full on scrap with one bloke who saw us walking hand in hand and commented about what he'd like to do with me :gag: :( :cry:

Most accidental bumps through drunkeness were apologised for, but why the deliberate attempts to start a fight? Is that the mentality of young men on a night out nowadays?

...He got close to a full on scrap with one bloke who saw us walking hand in hand and commented about what he'd like to do with me :gag: :( :cry: ...
In same way the fighting impulse seems to get stronger with booze - so does the sex drive. Unfortunatly booze takes away the inhibitions that would other wise stop someone saying/doing something.

Glad you said 'almost' got into a fight over it...after all it was just words (however offensive it may be).

Be more discerning about where you go out.

In same way the fighting impulse seems to get stronger with booze - so does the sex drive. Unfortunatly booze takes away the inhibitions that would other wise stop someone saying/doing something.

Glad you said 'almost' got into a fight over it...after all it was just words (however offensive it may be).

I managed to diffuse the situation, thank god! I just reminded him whos hand I was holding and all that jerk could do is look... :roll:
But why? Why the lack of respect for a bloke going out with his missus? :roll: I can understand groups of blokes taking on other groups of blokes, but not a group vs a couple?!

But why? Why the lack of respect for a bloke going out with his missus? :roll:
Other chap just wanted a fight I suspect.
'tis sad.

I had a random stop me in the street once and say 'hit me'. He really wanted me to hit him. I can only assume he figured that would I started it so he wouldn't get into trouble.

As it was, I was going to be spending the whole of the next day fighting so really didn't want oblige 1 drunk 18yo!

U get the odd ********* out down town who purely just go for a fight. never had any trouble myself but you see it happen. it's just a minority that are *******!

I have been a doorman for quite a few years now and I am under no doubt that some blokes idea of a night out is to drink 10 pints of beer, start a fight and get beaten up!!
I have on many occasions refused entry to lads for being drunk and then they give us 10 minutes of abuse to which when they get no reaction they then say something like "go on, smack me.....you know you want to" when they still get no reaction, they then pick on the nearest person walking down the street, call him a w****r and get a smack in the mouth!!
I've seen this many times and have never understood what they gain from it!!:huh:

I managed to diffuse the situation, thank god! I just reminded him whos hand I was holding and all that jerk could do is look... :roll:
But why? Why the lack of respect for a bloke going out with his missus? :roll: I can understand groups of blokes taking on other groups of blokes, but not a group vs a couple?!

God, the times me and my OH have had funny looks and silly comments said to us, is unreal..

Me and my OH are a real case of opposites attract..
I'm quite slim, and he's rather a large fella..

Anyway, we've heard comments made like,
"what the hell is she doing with that fat g*t", and been given looks that could kill..

All we do is grab each others hands and swing our arms and stick our noses up in the air and think sod them...

My OH doesn't get mad or anything, it makes him feel quite proud that it's his hand I'm holding and that I'm happy to be holding his hand..
They're the ones that are mad.. In the head..:loopy:

Not had any probs when I've been out with our lass.

To my knowledge anyway. :)

I think most of the comments have been covered. I don't think it's specific to just men either, I have seen (and continue to see) women doing similar things but probably in more of a bitchy way.

Best to let it go over your head and not give them the satisfaction. I appreciate this will be hard for your b/f as the male ego kicks in when confronted (especially in front of ones lady friend).

I've just been informed by our lass that some guys knocked into us at Embrace once, I gave 'em "the stare" and they apolagised, apparently bricking themselves.

:)

Only prob i have is when people try grabbing my other half, in the sexual way.. Dont really know why there aggressive, i put it down to being drunk.. Personally winds me up!

I've just been informed by our lass that some guys knocked into us at Embrace once, I gave 'em "the stare" and they apolagised, apparently bricking themselves.

:)

Lol I bet they were! :hihi:

Do not underestimate the power of ................'The Stare'.:hihi:

Yes went out on friday night in sheff wi 8 other lads all of us just out for a few beers and a bit of a laugh. My mate sheffbloke and one o tother lads was in front, 3 young lads lads early twenties approached them and they tried tripping my mates up. Sheffbloke not being the most diplomatic of fellas when treat in this type of manner, asked them what was all that about. Obviously they had a problem, which you could tell by the way they were bouncing about givin it all that! At this point the 7 stragglers including myself had arrived to this fascinating show of "alcohol and testosterone". two of the youths regained there composure when they could see now it was 3 against 1. However as we were out for a bit of a laugh didnt take it too seriously and accepted their apologies as their other mate who did appear to want to die young carried on. Anyway we parted company and carried on for the rest of the duration :hihi::hihi:

its not just blokes though, some women are like that. Its the beer, you see the same people sober and they are totally different!

I think most of the comments have been covered. I don't think it's specific to just men either, I have seen (and continue to see) women doing similar things but probably in more of a bitchy way.
Best to let it go over your head and not give them the satisfaction. I appreciate this will be hard for your b/f as the male ego kicks in when confronted (especially in front of ones lady friend).

It's only happened to me once, at the Leadmill some years ago. Me and my friends stayed on after a gig to do some dancing, but I kept getting an elbow in the back. I thought at first it was accidental, but it kept happening. So I stopped and gave a filthy look to a group of girls dancing beside us - one of whom was clearly responsible - but none of them would look me in the eye. I started dancing again - and yes, got elbowed again. :rolleyes: Still wouldn't look me in the eye

So we moved away a bit and the elbowing stopped. Very odd - never had it before or since

StarSparkle

its not just blokes though, some women are like that. Its the beer, you see the same people sober and they are totally different!
Some of the worst fights i have seen have been with girls trying to pretend they can drink and fight, and they fight real dirty hair pulling and scratching. I do remember one young lady that used to flirt with every other guy in the place trying to get her o/h to fight, think it kinda turned her on. Thank heaven not all are like that.

Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o

Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

Its called jealousy love, its isn't a new thing and isn't confined to Sheffield.

Obviously they had a problem, which you could tell by the way they were bouncing about givin it all that! At this point the 7 stragglers including myself had arrived to this fascinating show of "alcohol and testosterone". two of the youths regained there composure when they could see now it was 3 against 1.

That is the funny but very sad truth about our (and every other) town centre.

Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o

Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

I was dancing with a girlfriend at Cinderella rockafellas in Lincoln about 25 years ago. We had the dance floor entirely to ourselves, when some huge drunk decided to tap me on the shoulder, he said something like 'my turn' I tired to ignore him without causing too much trouble. He came back and tried again, but this time when he laid his mits on my girl she saw I was about to try to remove him, he was very big, she pushed him he lurched backwards off balance, she pushed him again as he was still off balance she did so once more he collapsed off the empty dance floor straight into the loving arms of two bouncers of similar size. We never saw him again.

So yes blokes are pillocks when they have had one too many, it is nothing new and it is not confined to Sheffield.

Its the nature of the beast im afraid.

Add unsavourable characters, mix some alcohol and sprinkle with fools pride and it culminates in unneccesary violence.

I have a bit of a problem with people putting the inferior complex on people, whether it be off the cuff comments or threatening behaviour - stems back from taking a bit of bullying at school which I held in too long. Whilst at the same time I don't take offence to an elbow to the back, knocked drink out of my hand etc. which is part and parcel of busy clubs/bars.

Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o

Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

Where were you twinkle? Several people have said you should go out in nicer places...

Where were you twinkle? Several people have said you should go out in nicer places...
I don't think the place makes a difference tbh Cyclone. I've been hassled in clubs, pubs, streets and even on the tram. The one on the tram wasn't even associated with me, just a random fit bird who was sat next to me. Unfortunatley this sort of stuff happens every Saturday night.

I've never had any hassle in the Dev Cat, but I have further down on west street. I think different places attract different people.

I really worry about my husband if he goes into town, he is 6ft 5in and I dread that some idiots will have a go at him, just because he is so big. I mention it every time he goes out.

"Dont wander off on your own down quiet streets looking for taxis"

He just looks at me and says "Im not a kid" :hihi:

I really worry about my husband if he goes into town, he is 6ft 5in and I dread that some idiots will have a go at him, just because he is so big. I mention it every time he goes out.

"Dont wander off on your own down quiet streets looking for taxis"

He just looks at me and says "Im not a kid" :hihi:

A classic bloke response lol

In Bia Hoi, Westways and waiting for the bank machine outside tesco... hmmm! Expected it in Westways though to be fair!

Yeah you can expect trouble in there it was full of skinny white Mr T gold chain wearing chavs when i went last .....not be going there again:hihi::hihi:

Yeah you can expect trouble in there it was full of skinny white Mr T gold chain wearing chavs when i went last .....not be going there again:hihi::hihi:

Well yeah! Its gotta be done every now and again :hihi:

alot of blokes out with there mates go looking for fights , drink that does it:(

Most guys go out to have a good time NOT to fight. It is as always the few that spoil it for the rest.

Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o

Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

My guess Twinkle...you are a very good looking young lady and the idiots who elbow your boyfriend are jealous of him.

What did the bloke who elbowed you look like?

What did the bloke who elbowed you look like?

Are you trying to re-piece your drunken weekend:D?

Are you trying to re-piece your drunken weekend:D?
Ha ha :hihi: sadly not

I've always said I'd hate to be a 20something bloke going out down town, there is always 1 idiot wanting to start a fight.

I've always said I'd hate to be a 20something bloke going out down town, there is always 1 idiot wanting to start a fight.

I hate West St at weekends, keep well away. It surprises me that so many people find an over crowded pub to be a good night out to be honest...

I would definitely agree that to some extent you just need choose the places you visit, Pubs and clubs.

Why do I keep seeing images of Hillsborough Wetherspoons.... and I'm not someone who hates Wetherspoons with a passion.

Groups of guys and beer dont mix!

I dont usually like clubbing but went out with a mate who was new to the area one Friday night. And I was embarressed by the behavour of p****d up guys. If they were not acting like thugs, they were acting like 12 year olds.

Or maybe it was just me.....I feel out of place in nightclubs!

Whats the deal with mens attitude towards other men on a night out in Sheffield? On no less than 3 occasions in one night did my BF receive an elbow in his back when he was chatting/dancing with me?! :o
Does this happen a lot boys? Dont get why the aggression towards other fellas... :loopy::huh:

Some blokes lead inadequate little lives and it makes them feel big and important, to beat, threaten or humiliate other men, preferrably with an audience and especially after a few drinks and if their mates are present.
In these instances (assuming that you are an attractive lass) there may be the added factor of envy of your BF

Some men should be banned fron drinking (and some women!)

Or may be she aint so good looking it was just late on and the beer was just taking effect:hihi::hihi:the animals!

If they were not acting like thugs, they were acting like 12 year olds.
I can cope with juvenile behaviour - just a bit of fun, everyone needs to let hair down even it can seem a little irritating. I'd certainly prefer drunks to be behaving like 12yo than being aggresive.

Just a shame we don't get the choice how other folks behave when out on the beer!

..... everyone needs to let hair down

As someone who is follicularly challenged you don't know how hurtful that comment is! :o:hihi:

As someone who is follicularly challenged you don't know how hurtful that comment is! :o:hihi:


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