would have feelings of guilt if you were unfaithful or wouldn't it bother you?

Yes, id feel terribly guilty.
I hate liers and cheating is bad enough but to then not be honest about it..
Why, have you something you want to tell us?:suspect:

would have feelings of guilt if you were unfaithful or wouldn't it bother you?

I would feel terribly guilty, and I know it would show, I would not be able to conceal it.

Yes, id feel terribly guilty.
I hate liers and cheating is bad enough but to then not be honest about it..
Why, have you something you want to tell us?:suspect:

I would feel guilty, so wouldn't do it unless.......

Is it being unfaithfull if theres nothing between the couple

I just wouldn't do it. I've had someone do it to me and it was awful.

Being unfaithful is something which I really don't understand the attraction of. I know people say it's exciting or whatever but I just really can't get my head around what makes people want to sneak around and lie to their partners. Surely if you want to have sex with someone else it means the relationship you're in is not working...? Unless of course you have an agreement with your partner that it's ok - but to be honest I don't really understand that either. :huh:

I just think it's easier to break up with the person than to lie to them and sneak around. But maybe that's just my opinion.

Is it being unfaithfull if theres nothing between the couple

are you a couple in the sense of sleeping together ?

I could never be unfaithful to my wife, even if temptation was put in front of me, which it has on more than one occassion.

Is it being unfaithfull if theres nothing between the couple

If there's nothing between them why stay together? Surely it's less messy in the long run to just split up and avoid the betrayal and lies...?

are you a couple in the sense of sleeping together ?

as in not in 4 years

as in not in 4 years

you have to settle that, are you tied together by living together or do you have an open relationship?

As I would not be unfaithful to my patner, there'd be no need for any guilty feelings!


My conscience would not let me betray my partner in that way.

As I would not be unfaithful to my patner, there'd be no need for any guilty feelings!


My conscience would not let me betray my partner in that way.

:hihi: :hihi: Woohoo .. PT is on a promise :hihi: :hihi:

as in not in 4 years
I don't know if that's four years wasted, or a dalliance with someone else, I don't want to pry, and if you don't want to say - well that's ok

Nope, what goes around comes around!

I would feel guilty, so wouldn't do it unless.......

Unless? Unless????
Come on you cant just say that and then go quiet!!

Unless? Unless????
Come on you cant just say that and then go quiet!!

I could just tell at the end of the posting - so you'll have to withdraw!!!

Never tried it, but I imagine Id be rigid with guilt. Im terrible at deception of any kind and I cant even hide Christmas presents or Birthday gifts because Im so transparent even my kids know Im up to something.
I hate myself for it, Im not in the least bit religious, and I have the morals of a sewer rat so theres no reason for a guilt thing.

Never tried it, but I imagine Id be rigid with guilt. Im terrible at deception of any kind and I cant even hide Christmas presents or Birthday gifts because Im so transparent even my kids know Im up to something.
I hate myself for it, Im not in the least bit religious, and I have the morals of a sewer rat so theres no reason for a guilt thing.

I knew you wouldn't (because I don't live anywhere near you;) )

I knew you wouldn't (because I don't live anywhere near you;) )

I can get a train :D

I can get a train :D

I can meet you halfway;)

No way!

I need to have an affair in Yorkshire. With the mother soil beneath my feet, Im sure that Id be able to fight the pangs of guilt and drag myself out of the nervous rictus.

Half way is... Derbyshire...? Too many fossils there, Id be mistaken for a trilobite.

you are forceful aren't you I was born in Buxton, how about Crewe?

Of course Im forceful! Im very butch!

Crewe? They have trains there dont they? I could indulge myself with an afternoons train spotting before getting down to the nitty gritty of being... unfaithful....

God that just sent a shudder of LUST along my ratty little spine!

Of course Im forceful! Im very butch!

Crewe? They have trains there dont they? I could indulge myself with an afternoons train spotting before getting down to the nitty gritty of being... unfaithful....

God that just sent a shudder of LUST along my ratty little spine!

and a shudder along mine:o :cool:

I couldnt look at the person I was cheating on without feeling incredible pain and guilt. so never have cheated, and never would.

I couldnt look at the person I was cheating on without feeling incredible pain and guilt. so never have cheated, and never would.

I wouldn't expect anything less from you:)

I really must come across as a granola-yoghurt-beansprout eating whale saving sandal wearing goatee bearded too nice for my own good wussie ! :D

I can be rebellious and naughty too, just not in very large doses :D

I really must come across as a granola-yoghurt-beansprout eating whale saving sandal wearing goatee bearded too nice for my own good wussie ! :D

I can be rebellious and naughty too, just not in very large doses :D

no you come across as a gentleman, who has been brought up decently, and will make a very good family man who deserves the best, nothing wrong with that

blushing, scuffing shoes, looking at feet generally being quite embarrassed in a nice way. :)

would have feelings of guilt if you were unfaithful or wouldn't it bother you?

Unfaithful - you mean using the left hand?:hihi:

would have feelings of guilt if you were unfaithful or wouldn't it bother you?

OF COURSE YOU WOULD IF YOU LOVED THE MISSUS. IF NOT THEN YOU WOULDNT. IVE MET LOTS OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN HAVING AFFAIRS, MOST ARE BECAUSE THEYRE JUST NOT HAPPY. THAT DOESNT MEAN THERES ANYTHING WRONG WITH THE PARTNER. BOREDOM A BIT OF EXCITMENT IN LIFE A YOUNGER PARTNER ARE ALL TEMPTING. IT USUALLY ENDS IN TEARS.SOMETIMES YOU GET TIT FOR TAT AFFAIRS GOING ON. THE WORST IVE EVER HEARD WAS AN OLD FRIEND OF MINE AND HIS GIRLFRIEND FOUND OUT THEY WERE GOING TO HAVE A BABY. THIS WAS DISCOVERED AT AN EARLY STAGE.A EW WEEKS LAER THE GIRL STARTED AN AFFAIR WITH A FAMOUS MUSICIAN. SHE HAD AN ABORTION AND RA OFF WITH THE "STAR" WHEN HE'D FINISHED WITH HER SHE CAME CRAWLING BACK, AND MY FRIEND HAD HER BACK:loopy:

Cheats are cruel and spineless and the feeling of guilt is too good for them. If you feel guilt about something then it shows a level of morality and anyone that can break a trust in such a way has no morals whatsoever. If you are the kind of person that cheats then you deserve to feel the pain you cause nd no less.

Unfaithful - you mean using the left hand?:hihi:
if you sit on the hand for ten minutes first it goes numb, then you can pretend its someone else.

Unfaithful - you mean using the left hand?:hihi:

what are you talking about - this is a serious discussion:roll:

what are you talking about - this is a serious discussion:roll:
ham shank.

ham shank.

don't bring your head into it:P

don't bring your head into it:P

its yorkshire ryming slang. ie having a nat west?

I was unfaithful last year for the first time ever- I admit it - did I feel guily about the situation.

NOPE - not one jot!

The reason why dear friends - my relationship was a total sham with my ex partner, I wasnt happy as I thought I was until I met someone who lets me be the real me - and I am loving it so far.

So nope, I didnt feel guilty at all as I felt it was the right thing to do in the circumstances to end a relationship that I felt was dead in the water.

its yorkshire ryming slang. ie having a nat west?

well as I am with the Natwest I shal say fat vest

Many a wife thinks her husband is the worlds greatest lover : she just cant catch him at it .;)

An interesting take on relationships http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/saturdaylive/2007/05/ray_kluun.html

Many a wife thinks her husband is the worlds greatest lover : she just cant catch him at it .;)

you will have to meet pinky and brain pattricia, two for the price of one, and brothers:o

you will have to meet pinky and brain pattricia, two for the price of one, and brothers:o

Who ? What ? :huh:

I'll pm you later with the details, I know you are watching Grease

I'll pm you later with the details, I know you are watching Grease

No its not on until 7:45.p.m.

so how did Grease go? are Hayley and Wayne still in with a chance?

Unfaithful - you mean using the left hand?:hihi:

There speaks the voice of experience

what are you talking about - this is a serious discussion:roll:

And there is nothing trivial about involuntary celibacy Madam.:rant:

And there is nothing trivial about involuntary celibacy Madam.:rant:

well that's ok, what about voluntary celibacy?

I think the guilt would drive me mad if i cheated. That's why people confess, i suppose.

I think the guilt would drive me mad if i cheated. That's why people confess, i suppose.

so it could be argued that they shift the burden?

so it could be argued that they shift the burden?

Yeah, make yourself feel better by making someone else feel bad. If you really cared about their feeling, I suppose you could argue that they should keep quiet... although their partner might not see it that way.

Yeah, make yourself feel better by making someone else feel bad. If you really cared about their feeling, I suppose you could argue that they should keep quiet... although their partner might not see it that way.

I heard it mentioned once it;s called "transference"

I heard it mentioned once it;s called "transference"

Well, transference in the psychological sense is more to do with relating feeling for one person to another. What I was describing was more projection in the sense of a defence mechanism.

would have feelings of guilt if you were unfaithful or wouldn't it bother you?

I could never be unfaithful to someone I cared about, and I wouldn't be with someone I didn't care about.

Unfortunately I've been unable to find a woman with the same philosophy :rolleyes:

I could never be unfaithful to someone I cared about, and I wouldn't be with someone I didn't care about.

Unfortunately I've been unable to find a woman with the same philosophy :rolleyes:

shouldn't stop you looking, sometimes everyone's in the same boat:cool:

I could never be unfaithful to someone I cared about, and I wouldn't be with someone I didn't care about.

Unfortunately I've been unable to find a woman with the same philosophy :rolleyes:

Perhaps they just can't see you.... ?
:hihi:

sometimes the boat feels rudderless, adrift, and then sometimes, you're overboard, treading water, and hoping not to drown.

sometimes the boat feels rudderless, adrift, and then sometimes, you're overboard, treading water, and hoping not to drown.

never go out to sea without a pair of oars, I went to Knaresborough, and thought I would relive going on the Ouse,on a school outing, I got in this boat, and there was no going back (it wasn't the same river) and it was jigging all over the place and I had to somehow manage these huge heavy oars, at one end was a big drop, boy was I glad to get out, got my money's worth though

I'll definitely avoid that cressida, I'm ok with big boats, at sea, but the thought of small boats has me slightly nervous at best.

never go out to sea without a pair of oars, I went to Knaresborough, and thought I would relive going on the Ouse,on a school outing, I got in this boat, and there was no going back (it wasn't the same river) and it was jigging all over the place and I had to somehow manage these huge heavy oars, at one end was a big drop, boy was I glad to get out, got my money's worth though

So whats this to do with : Would you feel guilty if you were unfaithful ?

I would only be unfaithful if I had conclusive proof that he was, then I couldn't feel guilty could I, what's sauce for the goose etc.

I would only be unfaithful if I had conclusive proof that he was, then I couldn't feel guilty could I, what's sauce for the goose etc.

Well Id definitely feel like getting my own back, wouldnt you ?

I would only be unfaithful if I had conclusive proof that he was, then I couldn't feel guilty could I, what's sauce for the goose etc.

You would seriously lower yourself to their level?
I'd just get rid of them, I've been on the recieving end of a cheat before and usually if they do it once they will do it again.

Two wrongs never make a right, especially in matters of the heart or the bedroom.

You would seriously lower yourself to their level?
I'd just get rid of them, I've been on the recieving end of a cheat before and usually if they do it once they will do it again.

Two wrongs never make a right, especially in matters of the heart or the bedroom.

I certainly wouldn't stay with him, he'd get the divorce papers asap and then I'd get my life back, what I hate is deception, because it doesn't give you the choice to leave, and how many years could you have wasted until you found out

I certainly wouldn't stay with him, he'd get the divorce papers asap and then I'd get my life back, what I hate is deception, because it doesn't give you the choice to leave, and how many years could you have wasted until you found out

The physical act is indeed the least of it. The lies and humiliation and the feeling that your trust has been somehow defiled are the worst things.
I know some people that actually get off on the rush of the deception more than the act itself.
Sick B*****ds.

I was unfaithful last year for the first time ever- I admit it - did I feel guily about the situation.

NOPE - not one jot!

The reason why dear friends - my relationship was a total sham with my ex partner, I wasnt happy as I thought I was until I met someone who lets me be the real me - and I am loving it so far.

So nope, I didnt feel guilty at all as I felt it was the right thing to do in the circumstances to end a relationship that I felt was dead in the water.
I'm really sorry to hear that actually. I remember the strong conviction that you had about your relationship. :confused:

I remember something you wrote which gave people hope. I'm sorry it's kind of ended up this way.

I'm really sorry to hear that actually. I remember the strong conviction that you had about your relationship. :confused:

I remember something you wrote which gave people hope. I'm sorry it's kind of ended up this way.

I agree with you completely, Bago.

I remember the lovely things Angelus used to say about his fiancee, and I was sad for them both when the relationship ended. It seemed to be such a fantastic relationship, and was lovely to hear about on here.

StarSparkle

I wouldnt cheat on my boyfriend so I wouldnt need to feel guilty :rolleyes: Simple.

I reconsidered.... If the totty I was being unfaithful with was worth it, a looker and big built with worthy thighs then I wouldnt feel at all guilty.


Sexist pig? Moi...?

you have a thigh fetish Jabbers?

you have a thigh fetish Jabbers?

And a sheep fetish! :roll:

And a sheep fetish! :roll:

seen plenty of those today around Yorkshire, one was weeing in a field, I hope the other sheep weren't "nosing" around that bit:D

I have a fetish fetish.

I have a fetish fetish.

and, pray, what is one of those? sure you don't mean an obsession fetish?

We have a wahite stone sheep at the end of the garden, I'll introduce you sometime, it's name is Figgis

I had an obsession fetish but it became a fetishist fetish because fetishes are more obsessive than obsessive behaviour.

I have a fetish fetish.

sure you don't have an obsession fetish, I have a white stone sheep at the end of the garden, I'll introduce you sometime, it's name is Figgis

Do you have a drill or shall I bring my own...?