We have been invited to my husbands best friends wedding but---NO Children Allowed.They want no one at the registrar office and it's drinks and a buffee at a WMC for a couple of hour's.They have 3 children under 3,and 5 nieces/nephews who will all be at the wedding as they are bridesmaids and pageboys.Sorry to say we will not be going as we have a son of 11.I find it very sad that familes have to be split for such happy occasions.

It's something that I could not have done, but weddings are full of politics :(

there may be elements of this you don't know about. It's their wedding. Did they kick against what you decided to do for your wedding?

It's something that I could not have done, but weddings are full of politics :(

there may be elements of this you don't know about. It's their wedding. Did they kick against what you decided to do for your wedding?

We didnt know them all those years ago when we got wed.My hubby still hasnt told them we are not going yet.

Could you not find someone to look after your son for the afternoon? I think it would be a real shame to miss out on the marriage of your best friends just on the principal of them not having kids at the wedding.

That is their decision as it is their wedding, their special day!! just as it is your decision not to go.

My mum is away that week so we have no one to have our son.Yes I know it's their wedding and I feel sad as nearly all of their friends have children and are not going as thay can't get sitters.

It is a shame that they will miss out not having so many of their friends there because of this ruling but no doubt they thought about this possibility when they decided on the fact and at the end of the day it is their wedding and they have the right to have who they want there to share it with them.

I made a similar rule for my wedding with regard to clothing, as I didn't want a couple of the female family members turning up looking like they were touting for business. It didn't go down too well with certain people but at the end of the day it was OUR day.

I suppose it down to choice and hey maybe even money, I ahve been to two weddings where my children were not invited and the only child there was their own. Both times it was simply down to money, weddings cost so much these days and children dont really appreciate whats happening most of the time so I can understand why they have taken this stance.

On the other hand when we renew our vows there will be 9 children there so I have got them all involved, given them a pretty dress and a suit and called them bridesmaids and ushers...

My choice but not what everyone would do hon. I suppose if you cant get a babysitter you wont be able to go and that is a great shame but like another poster said, they must ahve known the chances of this happening, maybe if they see lots of people cant go they will change their minds.

Dont take it personally xx

One wedding I didn't get invited to (falling into the bracket of 'cousins' for that one), caused a great family upset, and the solution put forward was for anybody who wanted to go but fell outside of the guest list remit could pay for their own 'ticket'

We're having 10 children at our wedding but they are family members and close friends' children. Most of our family and friends are travelling up for our wedding and I wouldn't dream of not inviting the children. However we're limiting the number of children to 10 as other friends who will be attending live close by so will be able to get baby sitters etc. I must admit that decision did come down to the cost per head.

we have'nt invited children, only a bridesmaid and page boy. We decided that we wanted it to be an adult event, no worrying about where the kids are, that they won't eat the food, that they might break something, that they get tired etc. I've been a child a 4 weddings and hated it, I was 2, 5, 9 and 11 so it was a varied age range. Its a long day for them, with lots of standing around, so kids hate it.

We have arranged for a babysitter later in the day to look after the two children.

Most of our guests with children said "oh yes, a day without the children!!" so we thought we were doing them all a favour. Some are narked off, but hey its their decision, and my day....and his i suppose as well!

There are that many not going to the wedding because they cant take their children our friends have had a change of heart.We are all going

At least you know they must really like you, having to change all their plans and the extra cost at short notice must have entailed a lot of work for them.

Let's hope the sun shines on you all on the day :)

Maybe you could all offer a few pounds towards the meal hon, be a nice gesture to help them out a bit xx

Maybe you could all offer a few pounds towards the meal hon, be a nice gesture to help them out a bit xx

It was'nt down to cost it was because there was going to be alot of children there.It's just a couple of hours at miners welfare club for a drink and a small buffet,as they don't want anyone at the register office.

Well I am glad it all got resolved for you all xx