and still nothing.

I find out next week if its possible or not and Im dreading it.

I dont know how to cope if Im told I won't ever be able to get pregnant.

I think my heart will be permanently broken

I know someone who in the 70's - before fertility treatment was available who was told she could never have children. She went on to have 2 without any help. I also know someone who has been trying for a family for about 3 years and has just found out she is expecting her first baby. Good luck and don't give up. :thumbsup:

I really feel for you.
I was ready to give up all hope before i got pregnant with Freya (4 yrs practice)
the day i was due to go for tests i found out i was pregnant.
I really hope everything goes well for you and you get the results you're after.
It takes some people years to conceive some many more years than myself.
love to ya,
Lisa x

Ollie, my heart goes out to you but I can only offer my own experiences.
A close friend of mine went 16 years with the information that she would never conceive, so she never used contraception. One day she found her self pregnant and they counted themselves blessed. Six years later again she found herself pregnant once again. The body is the strangest thing which defies and defeats all odds and all doctors.
Hang in there :)

Ok - what's happening tomorow ? It it fertility test results ?
I really hope it goes ok hon.

I hope there's no medical problems Ollie, but you're only 29, what's the rush?

and still nothing.

I find out next week if its possible or not and Im dreading it.

I dont know how to cope if Im told I won't ever be able to get pregnant.

I think my heart will be permanently broken

Hi hon,

One thing I would say is 'Never say never'. There are techniques in common use today that 10 years ago were almost science-fiction.

Even with many medical conditions that can cause fertility problems, developments are being made that improve matters.

Also, I think that fertility is still one of those areas where the medical profession still get surprised by people who get pregnant when, by all conventional medical wisdom, they shouldn't.

Keep us posted - all fingers and toes, arms and legs here are crossed.

I've said what I needed to say on MSN, but you know I'm thinking of you honey and I totally agree with what Joe says. Dont lose all heart xx

and still nothing.

I find out next week if its possible or not and Im dreading it.

I dont know how to cope if Im told I won't ever be able to get pregnant.

I think my heart will be permanently broken

Never say never.

Who knows what advances there will be in treating fertility problems in the next 5-10 years. Who knows what new techniques will be developed. With the way that the treatment of infertility has come on in leaps and bounds over the last 10 years, goodness knows what will be possible in a decade's time?

Even if it turns out there's nothing the doctors can do for you right now, that's all it means - they can't help you for the time being. But in a few years - who knows? The doctors themselves don't know.

And if you're only 29 now, then you still have time on your side.

And in any case - doctors simply don't know everything. There are plenty of women who the medical profession have given up on, who've gone on to produce healthy babies. The doctors can't explain it, and are baffled by it, but the babies are there!

Whatever the doctors say to you next week, don't give up. There's still every reason to have hope you'll have a baby in the future.

Good Luck, and wishing you all the best,

StarSparkle

Hi Ollie

I'll be thinking of you next week, I really hope you get some positive news.

I'm going through a similar thing myself and me and hubby are in the process of having test after test. Sitting and waiting for the results is the hardest part because your mind goes into overdrive and it's hard to stay positive, especially if there are people around you who seem to get pregnant at the drop of a hat :rolleyes:

Sending you big hugs and loads of good luck! :thumbsup:

I hope there's no medical problems Ollie, but you're only 29, what's the rush?

Surely that's down to personal choice? But it's better to find out now that there might be complications. Some fertility consultants won't even look at you unless you've been trying for at least 2 years, then you'd have up to 18 months of different diagnostic tests, then it could take another 2-4 years for you to be prescribed any kind of fertility drugs or treatment.

Plus there's the emotional side of things to take into consideration too, every month you hope for that elusive positive test but as time passes you start to lose hope, so checking for problems now helps you feel like you're moving in the right direction.

I'm sending you the biggest of hugs honey- I know how hard this is for you.

I'm not going to give you any sort of potentially false hope, because I remember how much that hurt me when I was going through the same thing- but I do know that you still have time on your side and the medical profession will do their level best to help you, should it be necessary.

I know that right now it's looming ahead of you that it will never happen, but none of us can know the future (unless, like for me, the doors are firmly closed through surgery and illness). You're still young enough for any techniques currently under development to be helpful to you.

You can't know quite how much I'm willing this to work out for you- but if it counts for anything, I'm willing it all the same.

Big hugs, sweetheart. XXXXXXX

Hi OllieKitten.

I haven't got anything useful to say other that that I have had two friends who both conceived naturally after years of trying and several failed infertility treatments.

Try to remain hopeful, and remeber if the worst comes to the worst and you really cant be pregnant, remember there are other ways to become parents than by carring and delivering a baby.

fingers crossed for you for next week. don't know what to say that others haven't said already, but i really hope they find a really simple problem that can be solved easily rather than not finding anything at all, just so that you will then know why you've not managed yet and that there's plenty of hope still.

*hugs*

bc

I had an aunt who was unable to have children and the one thing I remember about her when I was a child was the sadness in her eyes each time she looked at a kid.
My hopes and thoughts are with you.

Just like everyone else has said, wishing you are rich loads of luck....

go organic---- give up all medication, alcohol, go completely organic for 3 months and try again, i was told i coudnt have any children due to cervical cancer but i have had 3 beautifull baby boys since with no problems at all. i went organic for health reasons (not making baby reasons) i feel this is what has helped.

The results were not back yet so I am going back on Monday - so still waiting

The waiting must be making things very hard for you OK- sending you hugs and strength.

Finger crossed for Monday x

The waiting is terrible. Big hugs, olliekitten. My fingers and toes are crossed for you. xxx

good luck for tom, really hope it is good news for you and rich

Well, just got back from the hosp and there isn't really any news. A few of the tests came back with inconclusive results and I am going back for more tests on Monday!

Ohhh OK this must be killing you!!!

Sorry it was inconclusive again, I hope you get some answers soon

xx

Awww sorry Ollie - must be so frustrating - we're thinking of you both.

awww bless, am sure you will get there in the end, its the waiting thats the hardest.

Lets hope you get something positive on your next appointment.

Fortunately, I've not been in your position before and my thoughts and prayers are with you. It must be so awful for you being in limbo 'til your results come through.

I will keep everything crossed, touch wood often and try to obtain a lucky rabbit's foot for good luck.

Hi Ollie

I was looking out for a post to see if you'd had any news from your results! Sorry to hear you didn't get any helpful feedback, and as everyone said, the waiting and not knowing is the hardest part!

It's only 8 weeks now till me and DH go back for my test results and I'll be having my ultrasound, and I'm hoping that they'll prescribe me the drugs I need to get things moving along (either Clomid or Metformin) but I'm not holding my breath. I have this feeling they'll tell me to go away and just come back in another 6 months! Feels like a lifetime of waiting!
Oh well, I'm sure we'll both get there eventually! :rolleyes:

Keep your chin up and feel free to PM me.

More waiting,how frustrating for you both. I will have my fingers & toes crossed for you.

Good luck for your next lot of tests olliekitten. I hope you get some postitive results this time.

It's only 8 weeks now till me and DH go back for my test results and I'll be having my ultrasound, and I'm hoping that they'll prescribe me the drugs I need to get things moving along (either Clomid or Metformin) but I'm not holding my breath. I have this feeling they'll tell me to go away and just come back in another 6 months!

Are you seeing people up at the Jessop?

I had my ovary scan in December and the diagnosis of definitely PCOS straight away that afternoon. I was offered a choice of going straight on to Clomid or trying the Met for six months first - I opted for the clomid, walked out with the prescription, started taking them in Jan and they worked on the second cycle.

Once you've had the tests and the u/s all finished off, they shouldn't really make you wait before starting you on one or both of the drugs, unless there's another factor getting in the way. The drugs themselves are dirt cheap to the NHS, and it's an easy way to start treatment. Good luck to you - I hope you get something that works for you.

Are you seeing people up at the Jessop?

I had my ovary scan in December and the diagnosis of definitely PCOS straight away that afternoon. I was offered a choice of going straight on to Clomid or trying the Met for six months first - I opted for the clomid, walked out with the prescription, started taking them in Jan and they worked on the second cycle.

Once you've had the tests and the u/s all finished off, they shouldn't really make you wait before starting you on one or both of the drugs, unless there's another factor getting in the way. The drugs themselves are dirt cheap to the NHS, and it's an easy way to start treatment. Good luck to you - I hope you get something that works for you.

Thanks!
I'm at Greenoaks in Rotherham but I'm hoping the process won't be any different!
I've been on loads of PCOS and baby forums and the amount of stories you hear from women all over the country being fobbed off by consultants is just scary, but then you also hear from women who's own GP's have prescribed Clomid without a referral to a consultant....it's just totally random depending on where you live! :loopy:

You're probably better off there.

My specialist decided he needed to take some of his NHS time off this month and my appointment got rescheduled to a couple of months later, and because I was in the middle of miscarrying I ended up waiting three weeks before I could check if the new appointment was convenient - which it isn't - and the next available appointment after that one is another three months further down the line.

My advice? If you CAN get your GPs to prescribe, go for it.

You're probably better off there.

My specialist decided he needed to take some of his NHS time off this month and my appointment got rescheduled to a couple of months later, and because I was in the middle of miscarrying I ended up waiting three weeks before I could check if the new appointment was convenient - which it isn't - and the next available appointment after that one is another three months further down the line.

My advice? If you CAN get your GPs to prescribe, go for it.

Hi AstroKath

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, that must have been a real blow :( . I hope you get something sorted out with your consultant very soon.
Sending big hugs your way!
Gogo.x

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage, Astrokath. Big hugs from here, too.