has any1 got any advice my ex of 2wks is on his way down frm sheffield to collect all his things he is goin to have to stay over for the night can any1 give me bit of advice on how to make it as easy as poss to get on an not argue over it all im feelin nervous an bit uncomfortable already an he aint here yet .my son dosnt know he coming down yet he will be in bed when he gets here do i let him know or do we try an do it without him knowing ie in morning does my ex stay out way till he gone school or do we let him see him

Ask a friend to stayover, for a bit of support

Difficult one, I was in the same position with my ex coming to collect his stuff the other month and I couldn't and didn't want to see him so I basically went out while he was here, my son (not his) stayed to help him get his stuff into the van.
A different scenario for you but if you think your son could handle seeing him then why not or would it upset him too much?
You could always have a friend with you for when he gets there.

my son is only 6 not his son wen we lived together my son was naughty quite abit but since he left 2wks ago its as tho iv been given a different child he is being so well behaved its unreal wot makes it worse is my ex wnts to come bk an stay for good but i know frm past trying it aint goin to work

None of my business really but since you ask, I would advise making it as quick and clinical as possible, with no risk of being entangled in some big emotional argument or anything. Get all this guy's stuff together in boxes/bags, have it sat in the hall before he arrives, have several loyal friends over, and when he arrives tell him 'here's your stuff' and then go back in the front room while your friends (large male friends) help him carry his stuff to his car. If everyone is really friendly toward him throughout, it should minimise any chance of a 'situation'. Good luck with that.

personally, i would maybe stay at friends or families for the night with your son if possible, let him get on with it on his own, that way he cant try and talk you back into the relationship and make you feel uncomfortable, good luck:thumbsup:

I wouldnt leave him on his own he may take things that are not his.

But maybe you could take your son to stay at a relative or friends for the night.

laughalot01, as you will see from my signature below, I help run the Writing Group on here.

The link is, in fact, to a song that spun round in my head last week, and goes back to the old "radio" days when I was truly a "nipper" in the 1940's. No TV then, of course! :)

I had started a story for the SF Writing Group, with the idea of posting it on the SF Writing Group Server this month. Having seen your OP on this thread, I will offer the words of this song to you, and to anyone in your situation.

It fits perfectly for all you ladies out there who have been wronged by your fella.......and it rings true for all of you.....blokes who let you down really don't deserve a second of you time, or of your future thoughts.


Let him go, let him tarry, let him sink or let him swim (http://www.kinglaoghaire.com/site/lyrics/song_246.html)