Just thought I would ask everyone what they think the average amount of partners people have? I know lads 18-30 who have slept with hunderds of women, I also know woman that have broke 50 men! what do we think?

I'm 21 and only had one woman.......maybe i'm too picky or too ugly.....hope its the first :confused:

Oo-er…that’s private…its between me and my privates ;)

I don't think it matters that much nowdays how many partners a person has, the main point is to be as safe as possible at all times, i would say its around the 20 mark for most people, i mayself am higher than that point but i think that was to do with what i used to be like when i was younger.

Yeah, just about everyone says about 20. The only problem is when you meet someone you really like and find out they have done quite a bit of damage!. Especially when its on the door step, your obviously going to see the conquests...

Moved to general, don't see any particular relavence to Sheffield.

Are we talking about sexual partners here? I find it difficult to believe that many lads have slept with hundreds of girls.

I'm sure someone once said that quality outweighed quantity every time...

:thumbsup:

20??

thats a bit low aint it
lol

hmmmmm........

Maybe it is for a lad!

How many sexual partners do you think would be acceptable for a 22 year lass?

Or a 22 year old lad?

I suspect that 20 is quite a bit high too! :)

There is an awful lot of bravado on this topic!

I also know woman that have broke 50 men!

LOL love the mental picture of porcelain men in bits & pieces :P

I can't put a precise number on it but at a guess I'd say about 34-35 since I was 18. I'm now 28, 29 next month.

I guess it is possible for lads (and ladies) to have slept with over a hundred people if they have plenty of charm combined with good looks and have no problem with sleeping around. I sometimes feel a bit bad about my number though. How do they feel about theirs I wonder?

Originally posted by Martin_s
I'm sure someone once said that quality outweighed quantity every time...

:thumbsup:

I'll second that :thumbsup:

Amount of partners? All of them, no bits missing that I knew of.
Number of partners? Well, that would be telling, wouldn't it? Something between 1 and 5.
;)

Originally posted by jgharston
Amount of partners? All of them, no bits missing that I knew of.
Number of partners? Well, that would be telling, wouldn't it? Something between 1 and 5.
;)


Two and a half?

143 but none in last 15 years since married

Well I'm 23, but havn't got to 1 yet. I find it worrying that some people have slept with over 100 women before they are 25.

I find it worrying and depressing that people devalue sex so much that they have dozens of partners and even lose count. I thought we lived in a civilised society? I hope a lot of it is just bravado.

Originally posted by depoix
143 but none in last 15 years since married

Sounds like you were a full-on fanny magnet when you were single!

I like the way you remember it's exactly 143. Have you got them all written down in a book somewhere?

The rule of three comes into play here! Ask a bloke, he'll multiply the real number by three. Ask a woman, and she'll divide it.

Originally posted by t020
I find it worrying and depressing that people devalue sex so much that they have dozens of partners and even lose count. I thought we lived in a civilised society? I hope a lot of it is just bravado.

Civilised, what is wrong with s******g?

Devalue sex? or enjoy it (value)?

.... or a you getting confused with fidelity and that difficult four letter word `luff`

Originally posted by Sidla
Well I'm 23, but havn't got to 1 yet. I find it worrying that some people have slept with over 100 women before they are 25.
Because Sidla?

Just that people find it so easy. What am I doing wrong?

Originally posted by venger
Civilised, what is wrong with s******g?

Devalue sex? or enjoy it (value)?

.... or a you getting confused with fidelity and that difficult four letter word `luff`

It is devaluing it, of course it is. If/when you find a partner that you're actually in love with, all those one night stands will devalue the act of making love, IMO. "S******g" people you've just met isn't civilised and it also helps spread STDs around.

Originally posted by t020
It is devaluing it, of course it is. If/when you find a partner that you're actually in love with, all those one night stands will devalue the act of making love, IMO. "S******g" people you've just met isn't civilised and it also helps spread STDs around.

If I may, I think there's a fair difference between just 'having sex' and 'making love'. I'm sure it's been covered before so I won't go into what I believe the differences are.

I don't think having an active sexual history devalues sex with someone special as I've had a few special experiences with my current partner that I can't compare to people in my past. You're obviously welcome to your opinion but I do wonder if it's based on experience.

Also, they're called STI's now. ;) Blummin PC brigade eh?

I know there's a difference between the 2, but sex is still supposed to be something sacred and a little bit special, not something you do with any girl that drunkenly falls for you on a night out.

Whether it should happen or not, it does happen regularly to many people after a night out on the lash. Don't think that's likely to change any time soon either. It doesn't make them bad people though just because they give in to carnal desires once in a while and not every random sexual coupling results in an STI transferance or an unwanted pregnancy.

It's a nice idea you have though. I'm sure sex is still special for many couples and just because two people might randomly sh*g each other on a one night stand it doesn't make them bad people and it's not as if it spoils sex for everyone else.

19yo, 2 serious r/ships... 1 sexual r/ship... think I'm a bit low on the comparison list but I dont give a toss :P

bragging bout how many women you've screwed seems pointless to me, in my eyes it just proves you obviously aren't good enough for them to come back for seconds :P

either that... or when you woke up in the morning you realised it wasnt that much of a conquest! quite happy with my girlfriend right now, might not have laid 20 women, but I'm still a happy man right now :)

Originally posted by t020
It is devaluing it, of course it is. If/when you find a partner that you're actually in love with, all those one night stands will devalue the act of making love, IMO. "S******g" people you've just met isn't civilised and it also helps spread STDs around.

Why is it not civilised?? It is one of the most natural things that you can do with another person.

It does not devalue the experiences you have with a person that you love at all. If anything it makes them more special.

Not everyone who has had many different partners do it as one night stands just relationships that don't work out. You also do not need to be drunk to do it, in fact it is quite nice to not be.

And if you use safe sex there is little chance of STI's or unwanted pregnancy.

Originally posted by fuzzy

Not everyone who has had many different partners do it as one night stands just relationships that don't work out. You also do not need to be drunk to do it, in fact it is quite nice to not be.


To get through the dozens and the "143" figures *claimed* though, its a safe bet that most of them are one night stands. It isn't civilised IMO, it's animalistic. A one night stand is the sexual equivalent of starting a fire with two sticks.

Originally posted by t020
I find it worrying and depressing that people devalue sex so much that they have dozens of partners and even lose count. I thought we lived in a civilised society? I hope a lot of it is just bravado.

I have to agree with you there, but I suspect in a lot of cases it is bravado and multiplying the real number by quite a lot. Obviously there are some people who have had hundreds of "partners" and some of those people settle down with someone and stay with that person for the rest of their life, but I think a lot of people feel they have to pretend to have had loads just to impress their mates. In my opinion, if someone only has 1 or even a few "partners" throughout their life then that is something to be quite proud of!

143 is the exact number, yes i do have them written down and i also still see some of them in town or round and about..what you havent done is your maths.im 55 take of the 15 years of marrage leaves 40..started at 17, leaves 23. divide 143 by 23 years works out at about 6 per year ,one every 8 weeks,not exactly a raving sex maniac that i was presumed to be am i.?

ZERO!! Can be equalled but not beat. Unattractive blokes rule OK!
But if there's two things you acn rely on people to lie about its's money and sex.
"the truth is out there - and it can stay out!"

Originally posted by t020
A one night stand is the sexual equivalent of starting a fire with two sticks.

I'm thinking that could be used in a chat-up line somehow.

Originally posted by depoix
143 is the exact number, yes i do have them written down and i also still see some of them in town or round and about..what you havent done is your maths.im 55 take of the 15 years of marrage leaves 40..started at 17, leaves 23. divide 143 by 23 years works out at about 6 per year ,one every 8 weeks,not exactly a raving sex maniac that i was presumed to be am i.?

I can't believe you've written them all down. How creepy is that?

What's wrong with starting fires with sticks? Takes more skill than using a lighter :)

Originally posted by mojoworking
I can't believe you've written them all down. How creepy is that? ever hear of the little black book

..................................

Originally posted by mojoworking
I can't believe you've written them all down. How creepy is that?

Yes that was my thought too. Wierd.:P

To be fair, if I ever lose my virginity, I'd probably write it down too.

i should write mine down

but im too lazy too

and some i dont even get the names of lol

Originally posted by fuzzy
Yes that was my thought too. Wierd.:P whats wierd about keeping a diary.....dont you want to know peoples birthdays, addresses for xmas cards.etc,i didnt keep a score card 6 out of ten...8 out of ten etc.as im sure the ladies didnt,it seems you try to reduce it to something akin to smut when in fact it was a great time had by two people and then when its time to move on you do it......students i talk to do the same thing and think they invented the one night stand.....most of the time i was never drunk,its not an orgy just two people meeting up and as adults deciding to do what they want to do without hurting any one else...ive never parted with a lady on bad terms, as i said in earlier post i some times see them out shopping or having a drink,were older now but still take the time to say hello how are you ? i never went out with a married woman wich may make some of you think having 143 ladies i have no morals,your wrong..no one knows the names in my little black book i dont shout it from the rooftop IVE AD HER..its a private thing..the post was" average amount of parteners"..i gave an honest answer,i have asbestosis on my lungs now,through work, i hope when my obituary is in the star i will have a good turn out of old friends and very ,very,special ladies

70-80 people but I did start at 14 years old (bad I know...) :rolleyes:

But I enjoyed them all :heyhey: :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Bookey
70-80 people but I did start at 14 years old (bad I know...) :rolleyes:

But I enjoyed them all :heyhey: :thumbsup:

and how old are you now??

Originally posted by boyface
Oo-er…that’s private…its between me and my privates ;)
are you in the army?

Originally posted by Robbie_Lovin
and how old are you now??

21 pushing 22

It's interesting to see the two approaches people have made to this subject.

First, there are the blokes showing off to the other blokes "I've slept with 100 women and don't give a s**t about any of them now I have my current partner" Hmmm..... I wonder how many of the previous 99 he said that to at the time?:P

Then there's the "I'm pure and innocent, would you like to change that?" approach. Rabbits look all cute and innocent too, but we all know what they spend most of their time doing;)


What happened to the idea of being faithful? True to one partner till the day you die?

i dont think anyone is actually boasting about the amount of partners they have had!!

in fairness, lads do generally have a fair few!!

there has only been a couple who have stated how many they have actually had sex with though

im guilty of not saying how many ive slept with, as i cant let some people know for various reasons lol

Originally posted by andy1702
It's interesting to see the two approaches people have made to this subject.

First, there are the blokes showing off to the other blokes "I've slept with 100 women and don't give a s**t about any of them now I have my current partner" Hmmm..... I wonder how many of the previous 99 he said that to at the time?:P

What happened to the idea of being faithful? True to one partner till the day you die?

I have had quite a few sexual partners and i would like to add that most of them were when i was in a relationship with them... as i have never really agreed with one nighters!

We fall in love... we make love to show that special someone our love for them... How are we to see into the future and know that their not the one...

Sex is always different with new loves... we never stop learning...

I can honestly say that i have shared some amazing experiences with my current partner that i wouldnt have thought possible... And no! thats not a line i have used before...

It takes a special person... to make a person feel special!


ps... Sleeping with different people is not being unfaithful... Unfaithfulness is when your sleeping with different people behind your partners back...

Originally posted by Robbie_Lovin
i dont think anyone is actually boasting about the amount of partners they have had!!

in fairness, lads do generally have a fair few!!

there has only been a couple who have stated how many they have actually had sex with though

im guilty of not saying how many ive slept with, as i cant let some people know for various reasons lol

What does it matter... Its in the past...

We're all young once... We all do crazy things lol... why do we need to look back at how many partners we've slept with... and the mistakes that we maybe have made along the way... lol

The one of now is the most important! :love: lol

I am 34 and have had none.

Is this a record? If so it's not one I am particulary proud of.

:sad:

Yeah, I'm averaging 0 a week at the moment to be honest!
gonna have to do something about that soon...been so busy though!

Originally posted by spiffymonkey
The rule of three comes into play here! Ask a bloke, he'll multiply the real number by three. Ask a woman, and she'll divide it.

okay, if that is the case,

I have gotten serious with.... (does the maths) ...

just two people...

(yes, work it out for yourself!)

I am the type of person who has to have a definite "Connection" with the person she is sleeping with. one-night-stands have never been my scene.

The idea of waking up, in the morning, (probably with a hangover) with a stranger laid at the side of me, has never appealed to me. it seems, well... a bit sordid, really...

I don't just want to be in "lust" with the person, I want to be "in love " with them, and to mean something more than being just another notch on their bedpost. I want them to be in love with me, too, and for them to want commitment to me.

My lad (my stepson) thinks I am "sad, and tragic", for not getting "more Action". He can't believe that I have had relationships with so few blokes.

Now, considering I am forty, and had my first relationship at almost eighteen years of age, I, personally don't think it's too many, and I don't think it's too few. (for me) it works out at (calculates, again) ..mumbles to self, and does a bit of counting on her fingers.. (six relationships, times 22 years...) that's one partner, every.... what? forty-four months (or, three years and eight months) if you average it out.

Okay, yes, there are at least 2 of those blokes whom I have grave regrets over.. (As in "what the heck did I see in him..?)" but, meh!

PT