Does anyone have problems with 'bullies' either in work or at school. I am interested to find out in what form the bullying takes place and how you deal with it - if at all.

My boss and her 'right hand woman' bully me but now I am mentally prepared to stand up and confront their disgusting behaviour towards me. I am forever singled out and criticised even though I am ten times better at my job than they are. I now know that they are jealous of me and my popularity and that's why they feel that they have to put me down at every turn.

I work in the educational sector where this shouldn't happen - but it does, not just to the kids but staff.

Does anyone have any stories, I would be interested in those who work in the same field who have experienced the same.

Join the T & G Workers union mate and sort the arses out doube quick.

Just get enough proof of their bullying and then threaten legal action.

Dont let bullies win mate!

I've also come up with a suggestion to stop bullying at schools as well...

I've come up with this idea under the influence of Jack Daniels & Cokes so please bear with me--

If you are being bullied at school and you are fed up with it.. you can complain to your parents and teachers, right!
Thats all well and good-- but you still can get bullied on the way into-home from school.. the solution?

Your parents cant hit the bullies right? Because they can be prosecuted for assault!

Now I have the easiest answer in the world----

Find someone bigger than the bullies and pay them to kick the crap outta them.

Such an easy way to sort it out.

Because there is always someone bigger than every other person at school and just a little bit tougher.

Now I know im gonna get flamed to hell for this-- but it is summat to think about innit?

And by paying someone to do the job for you.. just deny all knowledge of the payment... sorted!

I despise bullies.they are the scum of the earth,Out to pick on ,isolate and intimidate anyone who they may think is a threat to them.Be it by them being popular, good at thier job or just plain different from the norm does not deter these creul low lifes.If only they could understand the hurt and pain they cause to their victims, then maybe they would stop.But unfortunatley most bullies are pig ignorant to the misery they cause.One thing is certain though.all bullies are cowards.there has to be at least two to one before they dare to open their sad mouths.The only way to beat the bully is to treat them with the contempt they deserve.Failing that give them a good smack in the gob and tell them to ****off.

I was the victim of bullies a couple of times in my school years. At one point i was willing to never go to school again. I had a chat with my aunt (who is from the school of hard knocks). She told me to go in to school and kick the f**k out of the bullies and not give a t*ss about the consequences.
To this day i say it was the best advice ever given to me!.
Now i know there will be plenty of people out there that will slate me, But the day i grabbed that sh*t He*d and retaliated, was one of the best days of my life!.
14 years on and i am still living by the same rule. If someone tries to bully you, do'nt take any of it!
*Vidster now retires to avoid the oncoming slating*

I've been bullied from as far back as I can remember... it started off as annoying name calling in junior school, although I did once get jumped by this one kid in junior school that messed me up real bad... but that got sorted out pretty well by the school...

secondary school was the worst, I think it's always been about the stupid matter of being being

1) ginger haired
2) rather intelligent

now I can understand that people arent comfortable around people that are obviously more intelligent than them, but seriously... can ANYONE tell me why people take the pi$$ out of ginger haired people??

now I spent probably the entire of my secondary life being verbally and physically bullied... I've been beat up and hit more times than I want to remember... If it had been one isolated bully then I would have done as above and retaliated...

but bully's hang in groups generally, because theres power in numbers, and I've had a pop back at them before in the past, but you just end up with him and his mates on you at the end of the day...

Lets see... physical abuse... hmm... I've been... kicked, punched, hit with planks of wood, stones thrown at me, stabbed with a pen, spat on, had a deo-ordarant spray set alight and attempt to set my hair on fire... hmm... well a lot of it was generally being randomly punched and pushed around...

unfortunatly, I still get some abuse even though I'm grown up... I'm 19 years old and I still randomly get people I dont know call me all sorts of crap in the street... y'know its REALLY not nice to walk past someone in town and call them a "ginger ****" or "ginger tosser"... nor is it nice to spit at them... or insult them on the way they dress "f*ckin goth freak!"

bah, I'm gonna stop now... I could go on forever!

Miss B - are you a teacher??
My brother was teaching in school where the head bullied the staff so much that loads of them were signed off sick with stress - eventually they got themselves together and they all complained to higher departments and the head got sacked and taken to court about it.

I think if you can fight back you should but some victims just lose so much confidence that they cant do anything.
I think the schools should be doing more - the stuff I hear off my daughter about what goes on at her school has really suprised me - and she is only 4! It was never that bad in my day, real bullying didn't start till secondary school back then.

my daughter was bullied at school and on the bus on the way to school,i gave her the same advice as vidsters aunt gave him but she was to scared as there were lots of them,complaints and visits to school didnt get results.one day around thirty of the scroats decided to wait for her on the street corner,she was walking home at the time instead of getting the bus,the school were letting her out 15 minutes early to avoid the mob...when i saw them i loaded up the camera waited until they surrounded her then walked amongst them taking pictures purposelly with the flash on so they knew what i was doing..i then told them in no uncertain terms i had them on film and would hand it to the police and the lea and have them expelled from school.i also told them i was going to make a complaint to the housing and they stood the chance of bieng evicted for what they were doing....they ran like the sheep they are......the bullying stopped when her brother moved to her school..long post, sorry, but there is always a way to beat the bullies if you search for it.....

The same happened to me, bullying affected me in school. It wasn't as bad as Xafier (sorry about that mate, wish I could get my hand on the ******** that did that stuff to you, and the ******** that bully anyone).

I wish I had stood up to people more in secondary school, I was a lot shorter than the bullies then however and I was intimidated by them when I shouldn't have been. Bullies are just gits who need to pick on someone to defend their own insecurity.

My daughter was bullied at primary school, a very insular Catholic school. The school didn't take it seriously so in the end I removed her and refused to send her for 3 weeks until they sorted it.

She has had a degree of bullying at senior school but now has the attitude that enough is enough. Whatever they dish out to her, she just gives right back. One particular girl kept calling her a racist, shouting it out in the dinner hall etc so everyone could hear. Strange really, as at the time she was dating a young Turkish lad and we are as a family, all members of the Anti-Nazi League!!

Anyway, she just stood up to them, answered them back and fronted out their threats to beat her up.

A few weeks later, they have decided they can't win and have stopped, even apologising for calling her a racist. They are all nice to her, even waving in the street to her and payingher complimants!!

Bullying often stems from jealousy or the misconception that someone is weak. Standing up to them, giving as good as you get and just laughing off threats can often work. My heart goes out to those for whom it doesn't work. My advice would be not to let them see they are getting to you. Laugh at their comments instead of crying, make a comment before they do. Show they can't win. Maybe you go home and cry afterwards, but not infront of them. Just don't let them ruin your life.

Someone ought to do a project on Sheffields bullying culture.

I was bullied at school...the first lot was physical and I was told to stand up to her which I did...a bit much dragging her up the street by her hair but I had, had enough.
The next lot was name calling and it got to me for quite some time until I realised they were in fact jealous and at the end of the day they would stay in their sad little chav lives and school would end with me with lots of qualifications and them on the dole....that made me feel so much better :hihi: particularly when it turned out right.

The bullying policies in many schools are pathetic, not all kids can deal with the torment like some us have and it takes outside sources to be able to stop. Those outside sources need to be there to help kids on and out of school with a good education despite the morons.

With regards to work....I also allowed myself to become a victim there...fortunately for me I have ways and means now to deal with folk like that....I hear the people in question are not doing so well now :D

Would be interesting to see an project on sheffield's bullying culture and school/work policies.

Moon

My child was bullied at school not only by the children but also by
some of the teachers.
Hazel

I too was bullied for a while at school.
My parents were ineffectual in dealing with it and the school scarcely better.
My Mum advised me to thump them in the nose.
Well, one day after 2 or 3 years of it I turned round and pushed his adams apple so far back and held him off the floor snarling at him that he never touched me again. Neither did anyone else. I think they thought I was possessed or something. He won't talk to me now because he has fingernail marks still on his throat which never went. (it's been 13 years)
My Mum actually told me off for it but it worked. My own advice is stand up to them or undo them. The nicer you are to them (tho not in a needy way) The worse they look to everyone else and themselves.
Good luck.
Oh and BTW, my first serious partner and my current v. serious partner have something of the old red head about them. Absolutely gorgeous!

Good on all of you for standing upto the bullies.A good smack is all most of them understand, and it does wonders for the ego as well.I was bullied at shchool,was one of the smaller kid and quiet(back then anyway)this girl alot taller and fatter decided she was going to make my life hell.And boy did she do that week in and week out she never let up.Anyway this particular day she had her usual audience and began to show of at my expense, as usual,next thing i know we are being separated by two teachers and when i look up i have beat the s**t out of her "! YES, i dont know who was most shocked her or me.I felt so proud and elated and after that i had the confidence to stand up for myself a lot more.But i was never able to forgive that girl for the hell she put me through and i now despise all bullies.Yes something should be done to set up some sort of support group in sheffield for people who are being bulled and perhaps dont want to tell their parents or close friends about it.There are a lot of people suffering out there with no one to turn to


I saw my tormentor a few years later and was delighted to see she was still as big and fat as ever

I too bumped in to one of my tormentors earlier this year. Although i am still only 5'8" , after leaving school i did a couple of years at the gym and i have indulged in a tad of boxing as well.
Now do'nt get me wrong, i am not in shape at the moment but this guy took one look at me in Mcdonalds and sh*t himself.
I wanted to lay the pr**k out, put him on his arse, but instead i said hello and had a short chat.
There he is, this not so big bully, looking quite sheepish, patting me on the shoulder and saying "Look at you man, you've grown so much".
I detest this sort of person to the point that if i see a child being bullied, i have 'all on' stopping myself from getting involved.

Originally posted by vidster
I too bumped in to one of my tormentors earlier this year. Although i am still only 5'8" , after leaving school i did a couple of years at the gym and i have indulged in a tad of boxing as well.
Now do'nt get me wrong, i am not in shape at the moment but this guy took one look at me in Mcdonalds and sh*t himself.
I wanted to lay the pr**k out, put him on his arse, but instead i said hello and had a short chat.
There he is, this not so big bully, looking quite sheepish, patting me on the shoulder and saying "Look at you man, you've grown so much".
I detest this sort of person to the point that if i see a child being bullied, i have 'all on' stopping myself from getting involved.

lol it's great when bullies see you when you've changed (either grown taller or stronger) and they attempt to be friendly with you.

There's nothing to report. Since I have 'geared' myself up for a confrontation the swines haven't upset me! I have been waiting patiently and rehearsed my speech - but nothing. Do you think they sense it:confused:

Originally posted by missb
There's nothing to report. Since I have 'geared' myself up for a confrontation the swines haven't upset me! I have been waiting patiently and rehearsed my speech - but nothing. Do you think they sense it:confused:

You probably look more confident and like you won't take any s**t from anyone, bullies don't like that, they prefer people to look scared and fragile. Keep-up the "don't f**k with me" attitude/look and you will be ok.

I, being a student have expierienced bullying first hand, well sort of as you dont get many people picking on you when you were the same height as the average fully grown man(about 6ft i think) at the age of fourteen. But i see it happening everyday and there isnt that much that you cand do. If you try to help someone or retaliate agaisnt someone bullying you nowadays in my school you may be expeled even if it is the first offense. If i was able to help without that fear i would, im not affraid of any of them and it may sound cocky but its just that they act 'hard' but as soon as you stand up to them they back of. its sooo funny to see it! Now i'm not saying that every person out there should just try too fight back and i'm not saying its the best sollution but if you go and tell a teacher about it then you will probably have their whole 'crew' after you and that can be problematic since there are about 20 of them.I have my friends too and tree of them are about the same height and of the same ability of me and the rest are by no means incapable of self defense. But the major fact is that the teachers will never believe you and they will not let you off or even lower the consequences although you were defending yourself or someone else and THAT is what annoys me.

I dont really think that there is any real answer to bullying without severe action. Until we find a sollution to the problem we will just have to keep working to get through it. Just remember that most of the ones who bully will end up going out of school with no qualifications and end up living in a derelict flat living of ebnifits with three children, all because they thought it was more important to inflict fear into others then actually learn at school. YOU will be the one with the nice house, good job, nice wife who can at least spell, YOU will be living the good life, not them. In the real world outside of school there is no room for bullys.

Well i've dragged on a bit so im goin to say goodbye for now.

i dont meen to say that what i said above is the situation in all schools but thats my opinion and thats what happens in mine. So please understand that its just my opinion and not the picture of all schools.