I don't know if it's just a bit of winter blues or something else but recently I've started to feel really lonely, even when I'm with my family, boyfriend or friends.
Does anybody else get like this or am I finally cracking up? :(

no your not cracking up i totaly know what you meen. as they say the lonleyest place can be in a room full of people

no your not cracking up i totaly know what you meen. as they say the lonleyest place can be in a room full of people

I've never felt lonely before and didn't realise quite how bad it could be. I think I'm just going through a self indulgent miserable patch and hopefully it won't last.
I hope you come out of it too :)

last week i hurt the one person i cared the most for - i have never felt so sad and lonely.

It is one of the early signs of a depressive illness, but it by no means proves that this is the cause. It quite probably will go away when the weather improves; only recently have people come to realise how important daylight is in keeping yourself happy.

If it gets to May and you still have the same feelings much of the time, it may be cause to see a doctor. Meanwhile I would not worry.

i know what you mean my partner and i live very sepereate lives which means i end up on my own most of the time. he works all the time then spends a couple of hours talking about it then he falls asleep in a drunken stupour. lucky old me , i cant wait for the light nights then i will be off out doing my own thing :rant:

I totally understant what u mean. You can be surrounded by lovin family and friends yet u feel so lonely. It may jus be Jan blues. its the come down from xmas and new year, i suffer every Jan. Jus this time ive got pregnancy hormones runnin thru me.

do something positive, this shud help. Exercise, doin things that make YOU happy may help.

But most of all remember deep down u know u have people surrounding u so this feelin of been lonely is only a stage ur going thru.

keep smilin hun :D summer will be here soon :)

last week i hurt the one person i cared the most for - i have never felt so sad and lonely.

Has person forgiven you? and can you forgive yourself?

I really hurt my boyfriend last weekend, I said some terrible things to him and I really thought I was going to lose him because of it. He's completely forgiven me and say's he understands that i'm feeling really low and didn't mean it.
I can't forgive myself though it was awfull.

i know what you mean my partner and i live very sepereate lives which means i end up on my own most of the time. he works all the time then spends a couple of hours talking about it then he falls asleep in a drunken stupour. lucky old me , i cant wait for the light nights then i will be off out doing my own thing :rant:

Oh my god! we have the same life!

Has person forgiven you? and can you forgive yourself?

I really hurt my boyfriend last weekend, I said some terrible things to him and I really thought I was going to lose him because of it. He's completely forgiven me and say's he understands that i'm feeling really low and didn't mean it.
I can't forgive myself though it was awfull.

i think she is willing to forgive me, saying its not my fault etc.
BUT, i dont think i can ever forgive myself for what i have done, i didnt cheat or hit her or anything like that - but i neglected her when she needed me.

its good your bf can understand, seems he understands you better than you think.

mojo i thought i was the only one sat here in this situation. once i.ve sorted myself out i.ll be coming out to play .......:)

well, no-one's knocked upon my door
for a thousand years or more
all dressed up and nowhere to go
welcome to this one man show......

feels a lot like that, a lot of the time, broken up by work, and gigs, and drinks with forum buddies,still have to go home to an empty house, and empty bed and a void in life that needs to be filled.

Even though I've been leading a very isolated existence I don't feel lonely at all.
I have felt the sensation a few times in the past, also the feeling of 'missing' someone. (very unpleasant feeling!)

Loneliness is, I think, all in the mind: if you start thinking "I'm lonely....

.......it's not fair!,:mad:

.......no-one loves me!:(

.......no-one really knows the real me!:(

.......and my life is rubbish!:mad:

.......and things are passing me by.:(

.......etc etc......" : then you're likely to contribute to worse feelings of lonely despondency imo.

Practical efforts help best: exercise, positive exertions to engage with both the people you know and new ones, planning and executing small treats doing something you enjoy or something you've not done before.

That's the best I can suggest I'm afraid.:) (& you'll probably buck up when the weather improves)

Even though I've been leading a very isolated existence I don't feel lonely at all.
I have felt the sensation a few times in the past, also the feeling of 'missing' someone. (very unpleasant feeling!)

Loneliness is, I think, all in the mind: if you start thinking "I'm lonely....

.......it's not fair!,:mad:

.......no-one loves me!:(

.......no-one really knows the real me!:(

.......and my life is rubbish!:mad:

.......and things are passing me by.:(

.......etc etc......" : then you're likely to contribute to worse feelings of lonely despondency imo.

Practical efforts help best: exercise, positive exertions to engage with both the people you know and new ones, planning and executing small treats doing something you enjoy or something you've not done before.

That's the best I can suggest I'm afraid.:) (& you'll probably buck up when the weather improves)

I've been through every one of those thoughts except for 'It's not fair!'
I probably will buck up when the weather improves and I've been trying to find something positive to do in the mean time. As for treats I've bought myself a packet of biscuits and thats as good as it gets, I've never been one to treat myself. My treats are making other people smile and be happy.

I know how you feel been to work sons are out wife at work and i`m lonely cause i`ve had a falling out with a special friend. We`re both married and have helped each other through some difficult times. I know what you`re thinking but shes pretty enough and I`m no oil painting but she`s not my type if you get my drift

been to work two boys are out wife working and feel so lonely. Fallen out with special friend cause i told them something they didn`t want to hear. we`re still talking on msn but theres an atmospere and things between us are different now Should have kept my big mouth shut I guess:(

Oh Kryton I'm feeling for you as I've been there and know what its like to feel lonely even when your'e married! Can't you make it up with your friend?:)

Oh Kryton I'm feeling for you as I've been there and know what its like to feel lonely even when your'e married! Can't you make it up with your friend?:)

I'm not married but I can sort of relate to that too.
Sometimes I feel more lonely with my bf than when I'm actually alone, being with him and feeling that way day in day out must be soul crushing.

Mojo1 can't you get yourself out of this situation? I have and feel so much better for it.

I feel very lonely sometimes, some of my best friends seem to have dropped of the face of the earth and I feel like my boyfriends my best friend which scares me in case me split up cos not only would I lose a boyfriend, I'd lose a mate too :(

Mojo1 can't you get yourself out of this situation? I have and feel so much better for it.

I love him and I believe I will come out of it.
It's not anything he's doing as such so I don't want to give up on it yet.
I won't let it take over my life though and if in the future I still feel the same then I will have to have a rethink.

I feel very lonely sometimes, some of my best friends seem to have dropped of the face of the earth and I feel like my boyfriends my best friend which scares me in case me split up cos not only would I lose a boyfriend, I'd lose a mate too :(

This is how I feel. But its not just a bout of self pity. Like sunshine Ive lost touch with most of my friends, they were generally people from university, college or work and leaving work and moving house just made us drift apart. Some people made judgements on me when I left my career, also when I divorced. After my divorce I had a relationship which lasted a couple of years and Im still in touch with him by phone and email. He is my only friend apart from my current partner, and obviously my partner isnt wild about me being in touch with my ex!

I kind of get this sometimes... but then when I'm with people I can often kind of get a bit bored and want to go do things on my own too. Not sure I was really made for other people's company, seems to be getting more pronounced as I get older and it's no wonder I haven't had a relationship for a while.

Girl was kind of interested in me last night and I just literally couldn't be arsed to put the effort in at all even though she was quite nice, don't know what's wrong with me these days...

Luckily I actually am usually pretty comfortable with my own company and have good friends for when I'm not, so apart from occassional morbid thoughts it's not so bad!

Yellowrose, that doesn't sound like the best situation to be in at all - would it be worth joining hobby clubs (amateur dramatics, sport, anything that has room for conversation) just to meet some non-partner friends? It's really nice to have a support network or even just some people to chatter to!

I feel very lonely at this particular stage of my life. I am a single mum with 2 kids but that's not the problem. I'm not the kind of woman who 'needs' a man.

Because of my son's various disabilities/mental health issues I have had lonliness thrust upon me. There is no-one I know in a similar situation, there is no-one to share the burden and no-one who truely understands what it is like to cope with all this single handed. I have no social life and now as he is permanently excluded from school I don't even have the drop off and pick up from school chats with the other parents to look forward to. Oh and no work to look forward to for the forseeable future either until he is settled in a new school.

Yes, I am lonely, sorry to moan :(

I feel very lonely at this particular stage of my life. I am a single mum with 2 kids but that's not the problem. I'm not the kind of woman who 'needs' a man.

Because of my son's various disabilities/mental health issues I have had lonliness thrust upon me. There is no-one I know in a similar situation, there is no-one to share the burden and no-one who truely understands what it is like to cope with all this single handed. I have no social life and now as he is permanently excluded from school I don't even have the drop off and pick up from school chats with the other parents to look forward to. Oh and no work to look forward to for the forseeable future either until he is settled in a new school.

Yes, I am lonely, sorry to moan :(

Don't apologise this is what the thread is for :)
Do you get any help from social services or any kind of respite?

Don't apologise this is what the thread is for :)
Do you get any help from social services or any kind of respite?


Not at the moment no. Bit of a sore point. Was told before that as his disabilities aren't 'physical' and he is not neglected or abused that we didn't qualify. It's being looked into again as he not at school for the forseeable future but I don't hold out much hope. They don't even bother to call when they say they will so doesn't bode well.

Sounds like depression. Various states of it exist. Some days you feel on top of the world , other times you cant even get out of bed.Also there is something called S.A.D.Seasonal Affective Disorder, and peoples mood is affected by the dull light and long dark days. Wait until the Spring and you will feel a different person.

sorry to disagree but depression does not have any days when you are on a high. you are low and thats your lot, one day if your lucky you will start to feel a bit better but when i first started with depression i was so bad for months i never got dressed let alone go out. that was about 6 years ago and although i am not as bad i am a different person now to how i was before, i am not as depressed as i was but its stil hanging around.

I have manic depression and I suffer from rapid cycling which means I do have high days and low days I never know what I'm going to wake up with, I've never in all my years of suffering from it experienced what i'm feeling at the moment though so thats what got me wondering.

Only when you are happy in your own life can the presence of other people in it be fully appreciated. If you think you need "someone" to make you happy, you will find that after a while your own interests and activities become important again, and not the conversation or "activities" you have with your partner.

I've got no idea where I'm going with this. There's a point in it somewhere.

I know a guy who at 35ish had been single for 15 years, and had resigned himself to being on his own for the ret of his life. Then just before Crimbo he met some girl and now their engaged. Just goes to show that even in your darkest days something amazing may be just around the corner....

Only when you are happy in your own life can the presence of other people in it be fully appreciated. If you think you need "someone" to make you happy, you will find that after a while your own interests and activities become important again, and not the conversation or "activities" you have with your partner.

I've got no idea where I'm going with this. There's a point in it somewhere.

I know a guy who at 35ish had been single for 15 years, and had resigned himself to being on his own for the ret of his life. Then just before Crimbo he met some girl and now their engaged. Just goes to show that even in your darkest days something amazing may be just around the corner....

Engaged after just a month ?? :confused: :huh:

Oh Kryton I'm feeling for you as I've been there and know what its like to feel lonely even when your'e married! Can't you make it up with your friend?:)

We are talking a little on msn but thing strained. I need to give her time i think then who knows

Id give my right arm to be alone sometimes....
My house is always full, hectic and very noisey at times...
Love it when I have the house to myself, which is rare. :(

I think that everyone must feel like this at sometime in their lives.
I live in a household where there's 5 of us but sometimes depending on my mood and I guess the time of the month I feel so lonely even though they can all be in the same room as me.
Then there's other times when I just want to be on my own and do my own thing and don't feel in the slighest bit lonely....weird eh!!!!!