Whilst I believe that love between men and women is an essential emotion - not least for the survival of the species I wonder whether they are compatible enough to actually live together every single day. I can't speak for women, but I reckon married men place great value on having 'alone time' away from their spouses. Any thoughts?

Whilst I believe that love between men and women is an essential emotion - not least for the survival of the species I wonder whether they are compatible enough to actually live together every single day. I can't speak for women, but I reckon married men place great value on having 'alone time' away from their spouses. Any thoughts?

Yep, everyone needs their own space martin.

Whilst I believe that love between men and women is an essential emotion - not least for the survival of the species I wonder whether they are compatible enough to actually live together every single day. I can't speak for women, but I reckon married men place great value on having 'alone time' away from their spouses. Any thoughts?

Couldn't agree more. For men and women.

Have to agree everyone needs some "me time" i don't think i could be with someone 24/7 it would drive me crazy now :rolleyes:

You should have some time on your own, not too much tho.

You should do things together as well. Problems start when you don't do things together but do them with other people instead. :(

Yes, it would become like that eventually. I think it's really really nice when it does happen. Maybe the whole of the marriage thing means reaching to this kind of point when you get old ?

My parents are like this now. It brought a tear to my eyes actually, cos they learnt to adjust and manage to live the way they do now. Every day they have a routine together, and they do things. Ok, sometimes one goes out, or another goes somewhere, but they do spend a lot, a lot of time together.

I think newly married men spend time away cos they dunno what the heck the missus wants ! lol... Once he's figured it out, or when things settle down for the couple. Then I don't think either party would want to stay away from each other too long.

As someone who never intends to marry, I cant really give an unbiased answer to this.

But the thought of being in someone's pocket 24/7 makes me feel ill.

Think we all need somebody. After a hard day at work/play it's good to talk to someone special. (And it also good to talk to someone else,) But my experience is limited to only 40 odd years of marriage so i am still learning.:thumbsup:

I need a man everyday, only for about an hour though. :love: :help:

My girlfriend and I have been together for 14 years, yet for reasons too complicated to go into here, we don't live together. She comes round and stops over 2-3 nights a week, which means that I always see her coming over as an event and something to look forward to. I expect that if we lived together full time it would be very easy to see the other person as 'part of the furniture' and start taking their presence for granted.

I have to be alone every day or I freak out.

My ex-boyfriend was a clinger. He wasn't content to be in the same house. We had to be in the same room, on the same piece of furniture, or he was cranky.

Think we all need somebody. After a hard day at work/play it's good to talk to someone special. (And it also good to talk to someone else,) But my experience is limited to only 40 odd years of marriage so i am still learning.:thumbsup:

lol. Hm... maybe I need to retype what I wrote, but never mind. :hihi:

I think it's nice to be living together with someone that you love day by day, so you do see them. They do little things for you, and you appreciate them for it. Otherwise, why do some old widows die of a broken heart? (There's a thread somewhere about this kind of phenomena too.)

I almost fell of my chair when I read waxonwaxoff's comment! lol. *ahem*

Does a man need to be in a woman every single day? No, but it would be my preferrence.

Think we all need somebody. After a hard day at work/play it's good to talk to someone special.

And to cuddle up to on the settee and watch tv together. I used to love that. :(

And to cuddle up to on the settee and watch tv together. I used to love that. :(

see,i cant bear that! I get claustrophobic when my OH sits on the same settee-i like to stretch out and relax without anyone near me.
That said,i do love being with him(honest) :hihi:

I need a man everyday, only for about an hour though. :love: :help:

Was going to say the same thing but from a blokes point of view :hihi:

see,i cant bear that! I get claustrophobic when my OH sits on the same settee-i like to stretch out and relax without anyone near me.
That said,i do love being with him(honest) :hihi:

Maybe I just never had as much time with my ex as you have with your OH. :(

Dunno.

And to cuddle up to on the settee and watch tv together. I used to love that. :(

Ah, I keep reading your posts and they are so sad.You obviously had someone you loved, but dont have them now.Hope you find someone who appreciates your lovely nature.

Ah, I keep reading your posts and they are so sad.You obviously had someone you loved, but dont have them now.Hope you find someone who appreciates your lovely nature.

Thank you.

I did have someone who was very very special to me but I don't have him now.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 14 years, yet for reasons too complicated to go into here, we don't live together. She comes round and stops over 2-3 nights a week, which means that I always see her coming over as an event and something to look forward to. I expect that if we lived together full time it would be very easy to see the other person as 'part of the furniture' and start taking their presence for granted.

My other half moved in with me a year ago we've been together 9yrs now and i have to agree we seem to take each other for granted now.I also agree we all need me time.

Thank you.

I did have someone who was very very special to me but I don't have him now.

Well nows the time for "me time". Treat yourself, go out, meet friends,and do want you want. Theres plenty of time to find a partner,but its finding the right one that matters.

Well nows the time for "me time". Treat yourself, go out, meet friends,and do want you want. Theres plenty of time to find a partner,but its finding the right one that matters.

Yep - and wanting to find one, which I don't at the moment. :)

Yep - and wanting to find one, which I don't at the moment. :)

What will happen, is you will meet some one when you are least expecting it.Please tell me when you find someone,as I like everyone to be happy.:D

What will happen, is you will meet some one when you are least expecting it.Please tell me when you find someone,as I like everyone to be happy.:D

I will do but don't hold your breathe, will you? ;) :)

I will do but don't hold your breathe, will you? ;) :)

Sounds like we are in the same boat.....

Whilst I believe that love between men and women is an essential emotion - not least for the survival of the species I wonder whether they are compatible enough to actually live together every single day. I can't speak for women, but I reckon married men place great value on having 'alone time' away from their spouses. Any thoughts?

Women. O.K. for sex and procreation. After that tell me what they're for. I believe that it's essential for a bloke to have his own time to himself.

Women. O.K. for sex and procreation. After that tell me what they're for. I believe that it's essential for a bloke to have his own time to himself.

That is outrageous! :rant: :rant:

Haven't you heard of cooking and cleaning? :D

Women. O.K. for sex and procreation. After that tell me what they're for. I believe that it's essential for a bloke to have his own time to himself.

Men O.K for catching spiders. Other than that, tell me what they're good for :D

That is outrageous! :rant: :rant:

Haven't you heard of cooking and cleaning? :D
Are you for real ???? :suspect:

:love: Ha ha.

Are you for real ???? :suspect:

:love: Ha ha.

For real I'm for real!

There's nothing more companionable than a well trained domestic wench that's filth in the sack too.

Can't imagine life without him after 41 years but I still work full time well into retirement age.
Must admit high days and holidays are enough 24/7 for both of us.:hihi:

For real I'm for real!

There's nothing more companionable than a well trained domestic wench that's filth in the sack too.

Indeed - and isn't it great that god gave women legs so you don't have to carry them from the kitchen to the bedroom?

Oh Gawd, womenfolk every are dooooomed(!) :help:

Men O.K for catching spiders. Other than that, tell me what they're good for :D

I think the word you're looking for is 'nothing'. :hihi:

I must admit, as much as I enjoy company and affection, I can't ever see me sharing my space full time with a partner again.

Not living together doesn't mean that you're not committed to each other or the relationship- it just means that you don't want to be together 24 hours a day.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 14 years, yet for reasons too complicated to go into here, we don't live together. She comes round and stops over 2-3 nights a week, which means that I always see her coming over as an event and something to look forward to. I expect that if we lived together full time it would be very easy to see the other person as 'part of the furniture' and start taking their presence for granted.


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Good for you. Seems like the perfect arrangement and will work well providing both partners stay faithful to each other. However, living in separate houses provides a little extra opportunity for playing the field.

---- However, living in separate houses provides a little extra opportunity for playing the field.

They say every woman needs a man for companionship and for sex. It is, of course imperative that these two men never meet. Living in different houses obviously makes it easier to prevent that ever happening :hihi:

I agree that we all need "me" time, being a woman just makes it harder to find that space away from other people, somehow :)

I need a man every wk.:)

I need a man every wk.:)

Looks like you will get plenty with that Avatar.!! :hihi: :hihi:

I think the word you're looking for is 'nothing'. :hihi:

Or maybe 'getting women stressed'

That is outrageous! :rant: :rant:

Haven't you heard of cooking and cleaning? :D

I'm so sorry zamo, I...I don't know how I forgot those, you're quite right.
Incidentally no one has answered the question what are they for, other than the aforementioned?