Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?

oh dear
its a sad sad day :(

oh dear
its a sad sad day :(

Whys that?

there'll be a lot of unhappy blokes about now that youve made yourself unavailable

there'll be a lot of unhappy blokes about now that youve made yourself unavailable

Doubt that very much.

Im just sick of a bloke feeding me crap about what they want from a relationship- things they know a woman wants to hear- then not acting it... if you get me?

Doubt that very much.

Im just sick of a bloke feeding me crap about what they want from a relationship- things they know a woman wants to hear- then not acting it... if you get me?

Maybe you're too picky? Maybe the kind of men you need are not the ones you want?

Kirsty you are far too young to be so cynical. Just refocus your attention on having a life, if the right bloke is out there he'll turn up and sweep you off your feet.

Probably when you look like you have been dragged through a hedge backwards and have a steaming hangover.

Just have some fun. :thumbsup:

Maybe you're too picky? Maybe the kind of men you need are not the ones you want?

I think i am too picky tbh...

Probably when you look like you have been dragged through a hedge backwards and have a steaming hangover.


but shes always like that :)

ooh errrrrrrrrrrrrrrm

Blokes are like busses, when you want one you can't get one, when you got one , better ones come :hihi:

but shes always like that :)

ooh errrrrrrrrrrrrrrm

:mad: Oi! :mad:

:mad: Oi! :mad:

YAY! i love the pasty face :P

I think i am too picky tbh...

There's picky and then there's picky... if you have a list of 'rules' about things like height/weight, drives/don't drive etc that's probably 'too' picky, as attraction doesn't always work that way. If you mean you're still looking for someone that ticks all your boxes then that's not picky - that's sensible. No need to be in a relationship just because society tells you that's the state you should be in.

Gypsy - single (ish) and happy.

There's picky and then there's picky... if you have a list of 'rules' about things like height/weight, drives/don't drive etc that's probably 'too' picky, as attraction doesn't always work that way. If you mean you're still looking for someone that ticks all your boxes then that's not picky - that's sensible. No need to be in a relationship just because society tells you that's the state you should be in.

Gypsy - single (ish) and happy.

Nah im not THAT picky! I dont care if they can drive or not. I prefer blokes to be taller than me yeah- so thats anything over 5ft 8 haha

Its nice to be in a relationship though- i do miss the cuddles, the closeness etc. But im just sick of blokes lying to get there...

I would like to be in a relationship but only with the right person, i now believe that is not meant to be for me, maybe i am meant for other things ... like a nun :sad: .
Actually once accepted that things will be that way it can be quite a relief :hihi:, the meaning of life is definately not having a man :thumbsup:

I think i am too picky tbh...

Well there you go then. Why not try the path less travelled, you might get a nice surprise?

Nah im not THAT picky! I dont care if they can drive or not. I prefer blokes to be taller than me yeah- so thats anything over 5ft 8 haha

Its nice to be in a relationship though- i do miss the cuddles, the closeness etc. But im just sick of blokes lying to get there...

You're probably destined to fall for someone 5ft 5 then, sods law. :)

It's sad, but people can be very deceptive sometimes. There's plenty of time for you though. Enjoy having fun whilst your single, and if you happen to meet someone worth it then it's all good. If not, at least you'll have your friends, your freedom, and if you want cuddles you can always get a cat...

you could become a lemon thats getting quite fashionable these days

get out there & fill your boots, lifes to short to sit moping about

I gave up years ago! More trouble than they're worth sometimes :)
I believe I am destined to be single now...
It's convenient at the moment though as I really don't have time for a relationship!!!

get out there & fill your boots, lifes to short to sit moping about

That the way to put the right man off when he finally does turn up.

Im just sick of a bloke feeding me crap about what they want from a relationship- things they know a woman wants to hear- then not acting it... if you get me?

Yeah, I feel a bit like that at the moment. Don't think he actually intended it at the time but that's how it worked out and that's how he's now made me feel unfortunately.




Its nice to be in a relationship though- i do miss the cuddles, the closeness etc. But im just sick of blokes lying to get there...

I miss his cuddles and I miss him. I used to love lying on the settee with him, just cuddling up to him. :(

I miss him and a lot more about him as well but, oh well. :(

He's hurt me more than he could realise but no-one will ever hurt me again. I wont let them.

I miss his cuddles and I miss him. I used to love lying on the settee with him, just cuddling up to him. :(

I miss him and a lot more about him as well but, oh well. :(

He's hurt me more than he could realise but no-one will ever hurt me again. I wont let them.

Weird, you'v just described my feelings towards my ex. We'r supposed to stay mates but thats not even worked out now :(

yes I totally agree!

As you know Kirsty, it's all a cycle. You say I'm not bothered, I'm not bothered then someone who sparks your curiosity comes along and then something happens, in my case usually they forgot they were married last year! :suspect:

Having been in both situations (a long term relationship and single) I will say being single is emotionally hard work. However much you say I'm not bothered, when you are in situations where you might meet someone, you do 'sweep' the room only to spot him chatting someone else up later!:hihi: The healing process does get quicker though as you get older. I don't spend time moping now (well only a little) as I go by the bus theory now. :D

Guess im just having a really ****ty day (already). I'll probably change my mind tomorrow haha

Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?

Been single on and off about five years now and wouldnt have it any other way. I've come to the opinion that you'll meet mr /Mrs Right as and when and not if you go out of your way to look for them, which normally leads to mistakes been made any way.

And as its now beer oclock I'm off to thye pub,!!
Bye.

I gave up years ago! More trouble than they're worth sometimes :)
I believe I am destined to be single now...


Crikey thats exactly how I feel about men as well. :) ;)

Blokes are like busses, when you want one you can't get one, when you got one , better ones come :hihi:



Its true. (women are like buses)

I'm now a married man and so are many of my friends, when we go up town, we have women flirting round us and chatting to us, yet 15 years ago as single blokes we used to repulse the women ( The repulsive boys ). We could have our pick these days.

There are lots of nice men out there, who are single. Why not try the ones who maybe look like geeks, or who may not be your first pick, They could have alot to offer on the inside.

We all miss cuddles, were social animals and feel a need to be close and to share, but I’m not sure I understand what people mean when they say “too picky”.
I think there are 3 types of singles.

1) The ones who can’t imagine being happy or content on their own, so actively look for a relationship, ignore all the crosses in boxes and often end up spending a lot of time with someone that isn’t right for them (I’ve done this in the past).

2) The ones who are quite content on their own, not actively looking but like the idea that they will meet that special person sometime, and live happy ever after. This group expect more ticks in boxes and quite rightly so.

3) The ones who have given up completely. Now having spent most of my adult life in group 1 and presently being in group 2, I would be quite happy to progress to group 3 as I think these are the ones who are lucky enough to fall over that special person when they least expect it, and the box along with ticks and crosses becomes totally irrelevant.

Im 19, iv not given up completely. Just for the minute I have stopped hoping i find someone.

Im still not going to fall for some bull that a bloke cooks up to impress me, when i am ready, because its only an act.

Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?

I've felt like that regularly during the 30 years that have slipped away since I was your age. Don't worry, It will pass.

BTW, women lie too, to get what they want.......

;)

BTW, women lie too, to get what they want.......

;)

I dont :P :D

Ive come to the conclusion to worry bout this sorta stuff in 10 years time.. Nows the time to have fun.. :D

We all miss cuddles, were social animals and feel a need to be close and to share, but I’m not sure I understand what people mean when they say “too picky”.
I think there are 3 types of singles.

1) The ones who can’t imagine being happy or content on their own, so actively look for a relationship, ignore all the crosses in boxes and often end up spending a lot of time with someone that isn’t right for them (I’ve done this in the past).

2) The ones who are quite content on their own, not actively looking but like the idea that they will meet that special person sometime, and live happy ever after. This group expect more ticks in boxes and quite rightly so.

3) The ones who have given up completely. Now having spent most of my adult life in group 1 and presently being in group 2, I would be quite happy to progress to group 3 as I think these are the ones who are lucky enough to fall over that special person when they least expect it, and the box along with ticks and crosses becomes totally irrelevant.


This is very true. I think I move beween 2 and 3 from time to time, depending on my mood and perhaps the weather.

I think there is a fouth group, although it'd just a variation of three really. I drop into it when ever a relationship goes sour....

It's a bit like when you wake up after a heavy night, and you say "never again".....

I dont :P :D

Well we know that, obviously :hihi: :hihi:

Im 19, iv not given up completely. Just for the minute I have stopped hoping i find someone.

Im still not going to fall for some bull that a bloke cooks up to impress me, when i am ready, because its only an act.

Kirsty.............Poor is the man or woman whose happiness depends upon the permission of another. You are but 19 and the world should be your Jaffa Cake................... just munch and enjoy :thumbsup:

I'm quite happily single and I'm not really interested in the hassle which men seem to cause! They always want more than I'm willing to give, and I'm too happy with my life as it is! I don't look on that a s a problem though - I've got everything I want and my life is happy and fulfilled, I've got great friends, house, car and career. I'm happy for someone very special to turn up, but I'm not putting up with any hassle, I dont need to!

Enjoy your life - just don't get into anything 'serious' unless he's really worth it!
x

Kirsty.............Poor is the man or woman whose happiness depends upon the permission of another. You are but 19 and the world should be your Jaffa Cake................... just munch and enjoy :thumbsup:

I was happy -ish being single before I met my ex, I wasnt even looking for a boyfriend when i met him. I dont NEED a man, i was just having a little moan about blokes who paint a lovely picture of how life could be- then it all turns out to be crap!

Anyway im off to the gym now!

Hmmm... jaffa cakes :hihi:

Im 19, iv not given up completely. Just for the minute I have stopped hoping i find someone.

Im still not going to fall for some bull that a bloke cooks up to impress me, when i am ready, because its only an act.

I’m 49 and still haven’t got it right but then a friend of mine believes that all relationships have a shelf life and the ones that last for 50yrs must be full of additives.

I was with my ex for 20 yr we matured together we met at 16yr olds you change as you get older and want different things in life so 19 is young to be settled down go out and enjoy life hollidays abroud etc. I used to think all men were liers and cheats because of what happend to me ,but i know now all men arnt the same and there are some good ones out there girl so have fun looking. And remember you have to kiss a lot of frogs to meet your prince.

Nah im not THAT picky! I dont care if they can drive or not. I prefer blokes to be taller than me yeah- so thats anything over 5ft 8 haha

Its nice to be in a relationship though- i do miss the cuddles, the closeness etc. But im just sick of blokes lying to get there...

I'm a cuddly 6ft 2" kind of a bloke :hihi:

Seriously Kirsty you're fed up now but in a few months time you'll be starting a I'm in love post.

You'll find what you are looking for sooner or later (You're only 19) and in the mean time you've always got us forummers to give you a virtual hug

:|

Doubt that very much.

Im just sick of a bloke feeding me crap about what they want from a relationship- things they know a woman wants to hear- then not acting it... if you get me?

I'm sure there are just as many lying, cheating women out there as there are men but being females, the lying, cheating women don’t bother us.

Let's face it- all relationships end sometime. Some just last longer than others. That doesn't mean that you should stop having relationships just because at some point there is the inevitable end to face.

That's like saying 'I'm not going on holiday because I know at some point I'll have to go home'.

I'm sure there are just as many lying, cheating women out there as there are men but being females, the lying, cheating women don’t bother us.

Unless you're (not you) a lesbian of course. :)

Ola

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?
You should do what every bloke does when they are single. Go have some "fun" with as many people as you can. Thats what I would do if became single again..... :hihi: But seriously tho it willcome one day im sure and if not you don't need someone else to make you happy. I spent 18 months after my first proper relationship ended missing having a one. But my next on came along when i'd stopped moping and picked my self up. If you are down on yourself then cahnces are people aren't going to be interested. Sort of 'if you don't love yourself how can anyone else love ya' Dunno if that makes sense but that was atuurning point for me. And after id realised that my next girl cam along. Im sure I have too many female genes sometimes. ::hihi::

YOu should do what every bloke does when they are single. Go have some "fun" with as many people as you can. Thats what I would do if became singles again..... :hihi:

What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another tho.

That's the last thing I feel like doing at the moment tbh.

What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another tho.

That's the last thing I feel like doing at the moment tbh.

Me neither- the start of me truly growing up was admitting to myself that this did nothing for me either in the short term enjoyment (which was outweighed by the emptiness when the affection turned out to be disposable) or my self esteem as a result of being discarded.

I'm sure there are just as many lying, cheating women out there as there are men but being females, the lying, cheating women don’t bother us.

Perhaps they SHOULD bother us, as their behaviour gives the rest of us females a bad name. I feel - and it's only my opinion - that men seem to find it more difficult to take on board that every woman is an individual in her own right, than women can take on board that every man is an individual. I'm generalising, of course - but I think it's a fair point.

StarSparkle

y'see, I've said so many times "I give up" but the truth is I'm just too stubborn to give up, the right woman IS out there somewhere, it's just taking her a while to find me and realise that I'm the right man :D

in the meantime, I guess I'll just keep meeting the wrong ones......

Perhaps they SHOULD bother us, as their behaviour gives the rest of us females a bad name. I feel - and it's only my opinion - that men seem to find it more difficult to take on board that every woman is an individual in her own right, than women can take on board that every man is an individual. I'm generalising, of course - but I think it's a fair point.

StarSparkle

I know what you mean but the truth is male or female, their people and no matter how much other peoples behaviour may bother us, unless their family or close friends we can't even begin to try to change their views, and I'm not sure that we do take on board that every man is an individual any easier than the men accept that we are.
Let face it, half of the attraction is due to the differences between genders and it's a matter of being able to accept and enjoy the differences or not.

Maybe my views are the main reason I'm single!!!

Unless you're (not you) a lesbian of course. :)

Now this is true and it was incorrect of me to presume that all the females on this thread are only interested in what the men are doing, so I stand corrected.

Let's face it- all relationships end sometime. Some just last longer than others. That doesn't mean that you should stop having relationships just because at some point there is the inevitable end to face.

That's like saying 'I'm not going on holiday because I know at some point I'll have to go home'.

I never said i was stopping having relationships all together, Im just not bothered at the minute and want to focus on number 1 person- ME!

Yes, my recent relationship has ended badly- and now we'r not even on talking terms (even though we said we'd stay mates). But im not giving up for good.

My OP was just a rant at how blokes tend to be the ideal person when you first meet them... but that kinda deteriorates when your a month in :loopy:

Il probably end up single for the rest of my life anyway with how cynical i am at the moment :hihi:

Il probably end up single for the rest of my life anyway with how cynical i am at the moment :hihi:

I thought that when I split up with my ex. People kept telling me I'd meet someone else (you know how people try and help at a time like that).

5 years on I'm still single :hihi:

I thought that when I split up with my ex. People kept telling me I'd meet someone else (you know how people try and help at a time like that).

5 years on I'm still single :hihi:

I've told me that, mainly at work.

Do they not realise that you may not WANT to meet someone else???

I thought that when I split up with my ex. People kept telling me I'd meet someone else (you know how people try and help at a time like that).

5 years on I'm still single :hihi:

Tell me about it- i hate hearing "theres plenty more fish in the sea"... i dont want soddin' fish :rant:

You should do what every bloke does when they are single. Go have some "fun" with as many people as you can. Thats what I would do if became single again..... :hihi:

Not every girl or guy wants to have 'single fun' though.

My mum once said... it's a lot better to make love, than just have sex!

True I think :)

Not every girl or guy wants to have 'single fun' though.

My mum once said... it's a lot better to make love, than just have sex!

True I think :)

Agreed :) :)

My mum once said... it's a lot better to make love, than just have sex!


I'd agree with that... is your mum single? ;)

My mum once said... it's a lot better to make love, than just have sex!

True I think :)


Definitely.

Me and my recent ex never ever had sex. We ALWAYS made love.

2) The ones who are quite content on their own, not actively looking but like the idea that they will meet that special person sometime, and live happy ever after. This group expect more ticks in boxes and quite rightly so.

Think i fill into the category:roll:

Not bothered about sleeping around, been there done that. Problem is decent women whom appeal to ME are very thin on the ground.

Last women who appealled to me was 19 years old and in a relationship...guess it was destined to fail:hihi:

We had some fun while it lasted;)

Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?


yep. I don't believe in 'the one'. The more time I spend single the less I can be bothered with the hassle. I've become more picky where blokes are concerned too.

Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?
Will you go out with me
you seem to tick ALL the boxes, cynical, bored with life, angry and deluded! We should get on like a house on fire!

I'd say a June wedding? Agreed?:love:

Well I'm looking for the right lady there just as hard to come by. Where are the nice young respectable ladies of Sheffield these days because i'm beginning to wonder?

get out there & fill your boots, lifes to short to sit moping about I think you mean empty your Boots:cool:

Tell me about it- i hate hearing "theres plenty more fish in the sea"... i dont want soddin' fish :rant:
Do you want turkeys then ? From a farm. :hihi:
Oh, I feel like being stupid today. After the tears comes the silliness, which is better than the cynicisms, or anger really.

I think you need to go out with your girly mates, have a good time, and not look for any serious relationship, and be done with that. Is it when you least expect things to happen, they happen naturally!

I think men and women approach relationships differently. (I was going to say that we're different, of which we are really.) It's the Mars, Venus thing isn't it.

Kirsty...... why dont you concentrate on just having some fun with a man... take what you need from them and not think too much about it being a relationship. Think to yourself 'yeah yeah heard all the bull before, im just using you for what i need'.

Have some fun and eventually you will meet the right guy for you.

Ola :)

Iv woke up this morning, had a good think to myself and decided - Iv had enough.

I'v come to the conclusion that I cant be bothered with blokes at the minute, I dont want to be messed around, I dont want to fall for someone and I dont want to do any chasing.

Iv become a bit cynical when it comes to meeting the right bloke. I dont think there is one for me :suspect:

I want to be like that woman off 'hitch'...

Any other single people feel like that?

No I don't want to be the woman off Hitch ;) But I have got sick of trying to meet someone I think is really 'cool' though.... don't think they exist.... or... maybe... something to do with late 30's.... ho hmmm ;)

Any other single people feel like that?


If I'm seeing a girl and it goes t!ts up, I feel like that for about 3 days. I see it as like an extended hangover :)

No I don't want to be the woman off Hitch ;) But I have got sick of trying to meet someone I think is really 'cool' though.... don't think they exist.... or... maybe... something to do with late 30's.... ho hmmm ;)
You want to try the 40's bunch now theres a challenge :hihi:
I am starting to agree with LFCMadPaul just have fun expect nothing and see what happens :rolleyes: lifes just to short for all the dissapointment!

Doubt that very much.

Im just sick of a bloke feeding me crap about what they want from a relationship- things they know a woman wants to hear- then not acting it... if you get me?

sees to me (a bloke) that your actually picking the wrong blokes..

its not there faults you fall for them!..

be more picky.. find out what you want then wait for the person to appear in your life..

makes me laugh do some women. (not u kirsty) they love the hard bloke who's got an image, but they have the worse realtionships going he treats her like poo poo and she puts up with it..??? come on ladies make better choices

Kirsty...... why dont you concentrate on just having some fun with a man... take what you need from them and not think too much about it being a relationship. Think to yourself 'yeah yeah heard all the bull before, im just using you for what i need'.

Have some fun and eventually you will meet the right guy for you.

yes i agree 110% if you get with a bloke, dont map his life out for him, cos he will say what you want to hear.. have a laugh with each other, do things with each other. take it 1 step (year) at a time. why do women automaticly have a 3-5 year plan when they get with blokes, this really makes me chuckle hehe

Will you go out with me
you seem to tick ALL the boxes, cynical, bored with life, angry and deluded! We should get on like a house on fire!

I'd say a June wedding? Agreed?:love:

Thanks, but no thanks ;)

Blades- I agree, i must be picking the wrong blokes
GazB- I actually feel a lot better today... bring on the blokes :hihi:
Bago- No Turkeys for me thanks, had enough over xmas :gag:
Paul- because I have more respect for myself than to go shagging about

You want to try the 40's bunch now theres a challenge :hihi:
I am starting to agree with LFCMadPaul just have fun expect nothing and see what happens :rolleyes: lifes just to short for all the dissapointment!

Thanks moongirl... life is too short. You might as well have fun and see what it brings. :thumbsup:

Thanks, but no thanks ;)

Blades- I agree, i must be picking the wrong blokes
GazB- I actually feel a lot better today... bring on the blokes :hihi:
Bago- No Turkeys for me thanks, had enough over xmas :gag:
Paul- because I have more respect for myself than to go shagging about

Kirsty i didnt mean shag about... of course dont do that, but you can have fun.. flirt etc and if you do want a bit extra (if the mood takes you) then go for it... you dont have to be engaged to have fun.

Sorry tho if i offended you Kirsty. Not my intention :( :(

Kirsty i didnt mean shag about... of course dont do that, but you can have fun.. flirt etc and if you do want a bit extra (if the mood takes you) then go for it... you dont have to be engaged to have fun.

Sorry tho if i offended you Kirsty. Not my intention :( :(

Oooohhh, i thought you meant shag about because.... thats the only thing i DONT do haha

Im a huge flirt, nothing will stop that! :hihi:

Nothing wrong with flirting chick.. it keeps you healthy and feeling alive (good about yourself). I just meant that IF say you were really in the mood and needed some relief then going for it is not so bad (as long as you dont relief every night pmsl)

Nothing wrong with flirting chick.. it keeps you healthy and feeling alive (good about yourself). I just meant that IF say you were really in the mood and needed some relief then going for it is not so bad (as long as you dont relief every night pmsl)

Been feeling it quite a bit lately- its killin' me haha

Been feeling it quite a bit lately- its killin' me haha

pmsl well we all need it chick... some more than others. :huh: sorry if ive unearthed some buried frustration ;)

pmsl well we all need it chick... some more than others. :huh: sorry if ive unearthed some buried frustration ;)

Your forgiven :( :hihi:

Thanks, but no thanks ;)

Ok - your loss:cool: