My daughter is 10 and last week asked me is santa real?
She said she wanted me to be honest with her because she was at a stage where she really didn't know' so i told her the truth.
Afterwards she said she wishes she hadn't asked me.
I thought that at 10 yrs old she was doing well still to beleive in him and i was afraid that if her friends knew the truth that she might be laughed at.
Do you think i did the right thing or should i have given her another year atleast just to have that magical feeling and excitement.
I'm feeling quite guilty about it all now:(

I wonder how many kids you've just broken the news to?

In your situation, I would have thought she needed to know by 10.

I have the same problem myself with my 8yr old. His brother is 11 and has known for a couple of years and quite happily hasn't spoiled it for him. He asked me the other day if 'I believed in Santa' to which I confidentally said ofcourse.

"these days you can even book a plane to lapland and visit him" ..well I wasn't telling any lies was I!

Christmas day

My son got suspicious when he asked why Santas gifts were wrapped in the same paper as ours :o

Santa isn't...what? :o

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Most kids know deep down that Santa isnt real, and by the age of eight or so theyre usually humouring parents as much as parents are humouring them.
If they do the cute "Ohhh I cant WAIT for Santa!", they KNOW that their doting parents are going to go all mushy and buy them more stuff! Im 45 and I do it with my other half.

or to put it another way

when to tell em jabberwockys arent real



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Most kids know deep down that Santa isnt real, and by the age of eight or so theyre usually humouring parents as much as parents are humouring them.
If they do the cute "Ohhh I cant WAIT for Santa!", they KNOW that their doting parents are going to go all mushy and buy them more stuff! Im 45 and I do it with my other half.


So true Jabb, kids will go along with it as long as they can, and we love it :)

I don't have to tell my 8 year old as he has told me. I recently asked if he was going to start to make his santa list and he just turned around and said. MUM , it's ok I know he isn't real. Come on, it isn't possible for someone to deliver all those presents to millions of kids in one night. I argued that there were time differences so he could do it, but he didn't believe it. I am actually a bit glad as I hate the whole lying thing at this age. It's different when they are young as it's all part of the experience.

for me, the more upsetting thing was finding out that the tooth fairy wasn't real .... i vividly remember sitting myself down on the kitchen table, my legs swinging, and pleading with my daddy to tell me the truth. to this day it's one of his regrets that he was once told you should never lie to a child, because i was just shattered when he told me the truth! not that i'd given him any choice, mind!

kids are funny about these things though ... my baby sister found out there was not santy when she was 7, reading the Irish Times news paper, and was fuming! But she managed to keep it hidden from another sister who is two years older than her for 2 years after that - the payoff was getting fab santy presents to make up for it though!

My daughter is 10 and last week asked me is santa real?
She said she wanted me to be honest with her because she was at a stage where she really didn't know' so i told her the truth.
Afterwards she said she wishes she hadn't asked me.
I thought that at 10 yrs old she was doing well still to beleive in him and i was afraid that if her friends knew the truth that she might be laughed at.
Do you think i did the right thing or should i have given her another year atleast just to have that magical feeling and excitement.
I'm feeling quite guilty about it all now:(
This happened to me, my daughter just started senior school and coming up to xmas, she came home upset demanding to know if santa was real as she'd been arguing with her friends....So i always said if the time came and she asked if he was real i would tell the truth, so i did, she told me i'd made her look an idiot at school, but she laughed and forgave me...I didn't realise she still genuinly believed in santa. There was no real harm done poor child :( but WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OUR CHILDREN WHEN WE KNOW THEY WILL BE UPSET WHEN THEY LEARN THE TRUTH?

Okay heres my two penneth for what its worth..

I told my son that though Father Christmas doesnt deliver goodies every year, he still represents the spirit of christmas. He was a really person and the idea is lovely. He took it on the chin well and thinks its great.

we still pretend Santa delivers even though we all know he doesnt.

Tell them at the same time you tell them that God doesn't exist either. They might as well hear the truth early

Okay heres my two penneth for what its worth..

I told my son that though Father Christmas doesnt deliver goodies every year, he still represents the spirit of christmas. He was a really person and the idea is lovely. He took it on the chin well and thinks its great.

we still pretend Santa delivers even though we all know he doesnt.

That’s the way to go, the spirit of Saint Nicholas, once they are old enogh to know father xmas is not real they should at least know where it all began, allegidly.

never tell them!

I never actually told mine , just left it to natural evolution.
Let them believe as long as possible was my way of looking at it. Time enough for them to see the real world when they're ready.
I never lied to them, just embroidered the truth a little.:)

My sister told me when I was 3. Heartbroken I was....

I told my daughter in an arguement which I regret because she was having a go at me asking why we had'nt bought her anything for xmas (apparently all the £200 of stuff she had from Father Xmas wasnt enough!)

So I simply said we bought all the stuff from Father Xmas end of arguement she was eight at the time so it wasnt as if she was three or anything.

She did say she already had an idea he wasnt real as some of her friends had told her and didnt really seem that bothered.

Okay heres my two penneth for what its worth..

I told my son that though Father Christmas doesnt deliver goodies every year, he still represents the spirit of christmas. He was a really person and the idea is lovely. He took it on the chin well and thinks its great.

we still pretend Santa delivers even though we all know he doesnt. my god no father christmas whos been putting the presents under my bed for the last 45 years:huh:

dont tell them show them this link
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I don't think my parents ever actually broke it to me.. And I can't remember being shocked/upset about finding out!

Maybe I was hypnotised?

Update: It happened this morning ... as I was reminding DS#2 that santa only brings presents to good children who brush their teeth properly.

He looked at me with his head to one side and a half smile and said..." Now mum we both know that Santa doesn't deliver the presents its you!"

to which I smiled back and said "all the more reason to get brushing then" :hihi:

Update: It happened this morning ... as I was reminding DS#2 that santa only brings presents to good children who brush their teeth properly.

He looked at me with his head to one side and a half smile and said..." Now mum we both know that Santa doesn't deliver the presents its you!"

to which I smiled back and said "all the more reason to get brushing then" :hihi:
Very well done Fox.....that's the way to do it.:thumbsup:

I don't have to worry about breaking the news to my kids....I'm not telling them he exists in the first place. They will get presents each year from Mummy and Daddy, and will be taught about what 'Santa' represents (and the history of hte figure), but never that he is real.

Never :hihi:

Tell them on Christmas Eve! :hihi:

When my parents confirmed my suspicions about Santa, they enlisted me to keep the secret for all the younger kids who still believed. I took joy in the thought that I was finally part of the happy conspiracy. That was a wonderful way to handle it, I think.

My son was 10 in May and this year he asked me to be honest and tell him if Santa is real. Because, as previous people have stated, I didn't want him to look stupid (is that the right word?) in front of his friends etc. I asked him what he thought and I said I would be honest with him. He said didn't think that he was real anymore and I told him that's correct.(Obviously a much longer conversation than this took place) But he actually thanked me for telling him all these years that he was real as he had really enjoyed all the magic of it all! He has agreed to keep it to himself and not let on to his little sister because of the sheer magic of it all.