today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.

Unfortunately it seems to be the culture of teenagers nowadays and they treat cannabis just like tobacco or alcohol.

You will probably find that most of his friends will be smoking it too, the only thing you can really do is make sure he has all the hardened facts about cannabis and what the effects of smoking it can be.

Also ask your self where does he get the money from to buy it?

You could also try to get him involved with a hobby or passtime, get him interested in something other than dope.

Whatever you do, i hope it turns out ok for you both.

have you tried to take it off him. he is probably doing it because its illigal

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.
ok first things first just calm down and take some deep breaths


secondly go find out about cannabis go get leaflets speak to someone from shed speak to youe doctor or even your son ect ect just so you can understand the effects it has on him and the medical implications

maybe then you can help your son in the best possible way by informing him of ALL you have learnt about cannabis

dont ram it down his neck though just casually leave the leaflets on a coffee table or somewhere you know he will see them if he asks about them tell him you were interested and wanted to know more about cannabis this could be an opportunity for him to open up and discuss it with you but dont push him

by showing him your making an effort to understand it and dont tell him not to do it because this will more than likely make him do it even more

be supportive

and try to remember not every teenager that smokes a little cannabis now and again is going to turn into a raving crack head!

it was an empty silver pot that grinds it i found, it was empty. other day i noticed £20 was missing, of course he denied taking it but now i know for sure he did. im now going to have to keep my purse on me all the time. ive told him hes not going to have any money from now on.

he could be smoking it to be in with the crowd.. and may be using past relationships as an excuse

Good work Katy thats brilliant advice.

16 year olds reckon their mums don't know nuffink. Just let him know that you're not cool with him, but you're not going to loose your rag. Also make it clear that he's not gettting a penny off you for it (its pretty expensive) so he'll have to get a job.

He Might Be Smoking It With His Mates, He Might Just Do It Because They Do It Etc

Does Anyone Else In Your Family HAVE/DO Smoke It ???

no-one else in my family smokes it. it must be with the mates hes with at the moment. he spends alot of time in the wincobank area with them, ive told him hes got to keep away from them not that he will listen to me.

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no-one else in my family smokes it. it must be with the mates hes with at the moment. he spends alot of time in the wincobank area with them, ive told him hes got to keep away from them not that he will listen to me.

I Might Know Your Son Then :huh:

no-one else in my family smokes it. it must be with the mates hes with at the moment. he spends alot of time in the wincobank area with them, ive told him hes got to keep away from them not that he will listen to me.


its a tricky situation im afraid and as my son hasnt reached this age yet im unsure on what advice to give

but i cans ay 100% is the more you tell him not to do it the more he will want to do it


i belive the key to such problems with teens is all about education give them all the information you can get your hands on advice them the best way you can then let them go make their own choices BUT! make sure you explain the possible consequences for any possible action he takes and explain that it will be his responsibilty as he has been informed then let him go a little

they grow up so wuickly and i understand that its hard to let him have a little independance

let him have his own "pretend grown up time" but make sure he has the facts and the possible outcomes of his actions and wehen it goes wrong let him clean it up the best way he can

because when we learn to accept the consequences of our actions and we learn that for every action their is a consequence only then can he say hes a grown up!


good luck its not going to be easy but it will get better with time :thumbsup:

If you're son is still finding it difficult to deal with your past relationship, then perhaps counselling might help. There's some great advice here. Remember to always keep channels open. You sound very sensible and sensitive enough to come out smiling the other side of this.

Hello Suzan

You seem understandably at your wits end.

I have smoked cannabis since I was 16 and have found it has never stopped me from getting on in life. I'm now 27 and have a succesful career and find my competence at work is not effected.

I personally know of many professionals that are regular users of cannabis and it doesn't appear to hold them back either.

I recognise there will be many posts on this topic that will highlight the negative aspects of 'weed' and thought it may be helpful for you to know that it is not all bad. Additionally, cannabis does not mean that your son will move on to harder drugs, a lot really depends on his social circle.

I think the advice from katy1981 could be useful and may help to initiate conversation about all this with your son.

I hope this helps and if I can help further please feel free to PM me.

All the best

If you're son is still finding it difficult to deal with your past relationship, then perhaps counselling might help. There's some great advice here. Remember to always keep channels open. You sound very sensible and sensitive enough to come out smiling the other side of this.


yes councilling is worth thinking seriously about aswell. :)

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.

Its never anything to do with relationships or anything youve both been through.Youngsters just think its "cool" to do it. Im sure my two sons have smoked cannabis at sometime in their lives.Anyone who has been to University as well will have smoked it.The thing now is that there is definite proof that if it is smoked for a long period of time it can cause mental illness.I actually knew someone who hanged themselves because they were a habitual user,and it causes depression in the long term.Tell your son this,and if it doesnt put him off, nothing will.

cannabis is just a craze a lot of teens go through an the silver pot was a grinder u have found that he rinds it in makes it better to smoke apparantly i don't smoke it but my partner does just calm down an chill out but ya son does need to understand it is not cheap to smoke cannabis i live in wincobank an i know loads of kids round here an they r ok not bad kids at all

If you dont make a big issue of his smoking habit he may have little less to rebel about and there is every chance he will grow out of it quite quickly The more you go on about it the more defy you because you say no. be cool that is thing to to. just for the record I have 4 children and fourteen grandkids and 10 of them in their teens I know every one have had a spiff at sometime and only one still as the occaisional one. So I have done something right

ok first things first just calm down and take some deep breaths


secondly go find out about cannabis go get leaflets speak to someone from shed speak to youe doctor or even your son ect ect just so you can understand the effects it has on him and the medical implications

maybe then you can help your son in the best possible way by informing him of ALL you have learnt about cannabis

dont ram it down his neck though just casually leave the leaflets on a coffee table or somewhere you know he will see them if he asks about them tell him you were interested and wanted to know more about cannabis this could be an opportunity for him to open up and discuss it with you but dont push him

by showing him your making an effort to understand it and dont tell him not to do it because this will more than likely make him do it even more

be supportive

and try to remember not every teenager that smokes a little cannabis now and again is going to turn into a raving crack head!

thankyou for this reply, it makes alot of sence. i will get some leaflets and see what happens. my nephews has just come round to speak to him about it, they are in his room at the mo so dont know whats going on. i really am at my wits end over this, he has just added more to my already long list of troubles. i think these thing are hear to test us. thanks again.

I Might Know Your Son Then :huh:
yes you might do

If you're son is still finding it difficult to deal with your past relationship, then perhaps counselling might help. There's some great advice here. Remember to always keep channels open. You sound very sensible and sensitive enough to come out smiling the other side of this.

thanks for the advice. my son has had problems with my ex partner, then he got robbed for his mobile phone and threatened with a knife, that was in court 3 months ago and he seamed to handle that ok, at the time i asked him if he wanted counceling but he said he was ok and didnt need it, maybe now i should have insisted.

Its never anything to do with relationships or anything youve both been through.Youngsters just think its "cool" to do it. Im sure my two sons have smoked cannabis at sometime in their lives.Anyone who has been to University as well will have smoked it.The thing now is that there is definite proof that if it is smoked for a long period of time it can cause mental illness.I actually knew someone who hanged themselves because they were a habitual user,and it causes depression in the long term.Tell your son this,and if it doesnt put him off, nothing will.

thanks for that, i will tell him what u said not that he will listen to me. this has got to be one of the hardest things ive ever had to deal with. his dad doesnt have anything to do with him so i cant ask him to help. with this iam on my own, and its certainly not nice. i cant understand why hes doing this, i myself has never even smoked a cigarette in my life, i could never see the point in it. i never thought he would ever do anything like this. i do know a couple of people that started smoking canabis and are now hard drug users, i would hate to think of my son doing the same.

hi suz his big sis can try talking to him too she is usually the last resort to try and get through to him and it did used to work didnt it?let her try again he might listen what you got to loose

I'd guess that he's doing it because its what his mates do and it really isn't seen as a big deal by many people. If he is only smoking it occasionally then there is less chance of it being harmful to his health or affecting his day to day mental functioning etc. In my experience its only when people smoke it lots that its negative effects become more likely (and the more you tell him not to do it, the more likely he is to do it more!)

Also, I don't think you should necessarily think cannabis will lead to harder drugs - as someone on here has already said, that tends to be more dependent upon the social circle you are in.

In a way you should feel glad that you are aware of what he is doing and have a chance to understand him better. I'm sure it will all work out! Good luck!

thanks for the advice. my son has had problems with my ex partner, then he got robbed for his mobile phone and threatened with a knife, that was in court 3 months ago and he seamed to handle that ok, at the time i asked him if he wanted counceling but he said he was ok and didnt need it, maybe now i should have insisted.

But males, especially adolescent ones, are notoriously proud about not asking for or accepting help. It sounds like your son has had some tough times through a vulnerable and bewildering stage of life, and however you deal with the cannibis issue itself, don't underestimate how deeply he might have been affected by it all. It sounds like he's ready to open up a little about what's bothered him. Whatever you do don't say 'that's in the past, you should forget about it', or something of that nature. Emotional pain can linger a very long time unless it's dealt with effectively.

I think counselling would be a good idea, though it shouldn't seem forced or related to a sense of punishment for the drug issue. Even if you just showed that you accepted and acknowledged how much that man affected him, it would validate his feelings which would be a step in the right direction. It sounds like you're being very thoughtful and careful about how you want to approach this whole situation. I hope it works out OK.

It does seem to be the youth culture of nowadays.
My son was smoking it at about 15, he's now 22 & only recently stopped with a baby on the way.
He is using emotional blackmail by blaming you. The reason he is smoking it is because everyone else does. Apparently it isn't addictive but the chilled out way it makes them feel, free from the stresses of normal life is addictive. I've been through all the emotions you are probably going through now & actually ended up saying you wanna smoke it you pay for it, just like I did when he started smoking cigarettes. He is almost an adult you can only teach him the pitfalls, everything else he will learn by trial & error. You also have to realise if you have just found out, the chances are he has been smoking it for a while.
I'll probably be slated for this but there are worse things that he could be into. He obviously has an addictive nature. Smoking cannabis doesn't mean they will end up on the hard stuff its the addictive nature that you need to keep an eye on.
My son also turned to alcohol (his father died due to alcoholism), this caused him to be aggressive & stupid in many ways. In my opinion I would rather have my son chilled on canabis than abusing alcohol.
I am not condoning it, all I am saying is it could be worse. He is too old for you to stop him, he needs to decide that for himself. All you can do is not give him the money (but he will steal it if he feels he needs the chill out factor that much) give him advice, look it up on the net & let him know what your true concerns are.
Good luck Suzan & I am always here to ofeer any kind of supprt you need, just PM me.

www.talktofrank.co.uk is a 'cool' drugs information site aimed at young people and their parents. Its by-line is 'Drugs are Illegal - Talking about them isn't'. The site offers a 24-hour e-mail advice service for those with questions or concerns, and a full run-down on the A-Zof drugs including alcohol, tobacco and anabolic steroids.

It does seem to be the youth culture of nowadays.
My son was smoking it at about 15, he's now 22 & only recently stopped with a baby on the way.
He is using emotional blackmail by blaming you. The reason he is smoking it is because everyone else does. Apparently it isn't addictive but the chilled out way it makes them feel, free from the stresses of normal life is addictive. I've been through all the emotions you are probably going through now & actually ended up saying you wanna smoke it you pay for it, just like I did when he started smoking cigarettes. He is almost an adult you can only teach him the pitfalls, everything else he will learn by trial & error. You also have to realise if you have just found out, the chances are he has been smoking it for a while.
I'll probably be slated for this but there are worse things that he could be into. He obviously has an addictive nature. Smoking cannabis doesn't mean they will end up on the hard stuff its the addictive nature that you need to keep an eye on.
My son also turned to alcohol (his father died due to alcoholism), this caused him to be aggressive & stupid in many ways. In my opinion I would rather have my son chilled on canabis than abusing alcohol.
I am not condoning it, all I am saying is it could be worse. He is too old for you to stop him, he needs to decide that for himself. All you can do is not give him the money (but he will steal it if he feels he needs the chill out factor that much) give him advice, look it up on the net & let him know what your true concerns are.
Good luck Suzan & I am always here to ofeer any kind of supprt you need, just PM me.


thanks for this, my ex partner was an alcoholic, that was who mentally and physically abused us. it happened almost daily, eventually my son turned round on him. my son saw him fitting time and time again, infact on a couple of occasions we saved his life. one night he even saw him get knocked down by a taxi which was his own fault. my lad says now that we should have left him and then he wouldnt be able to hurt us again. hes been gone out of our lives almost 18 months now, so i dont know why nat is doing this to himself, hes really hurting me, im terrified that he will one day try more, as i know a couple of people that has done this, and they said they never would do, they are now on heroin.

you know exactly how i feel about alcohol abuse, yesterday i found a couple of cans of lager that nat must have had and he knows how i feel about it, of course he denied it was his but its no-one elses, i dont have alcohol in the house. hes just gone out he told me he was going into town with one of his friends, i didnt give him any money for bus fare or anything so i dont know where hes got money from. its his 16th birthday on friday and i know for sure he will be getting money in his cards, in the past he has always given it me to put in the bank for him, i bet he doesnt this time.

theres lots and lots of things i could say but my head is all over the place at the moment, i hope you can understand what im trying to say. i will keep in touch if you dont mind. sue

I have smoked cannabis since I was 16 and have found it has never stopped me from getting on in life. I'm now 27 and have a succesful career and find my competence at work is not effected.

It's obviously affected your spelling though:hihi::D:P


i know a couple of people that has done this, and they said they never would do, they are now on heroin.

To help you keep things in perspective.....


I know quite a few people who (regularly - some for over 20 years) smoke cannabis, and not one of them has ever tried anything harder (other than alcohol), nor are they mentally deficient/prone to mental illness.


Trying harder substances has nothing to do with peer pressure, it's more down the individuals' susceptibility (ie addictive personality).

Hi susan,

I'm a drug worker in sheffield and although this is worrying and you do right to raise your concerns with him, going over the top can push him away and make him stop talking to you.

RODA (relatives of drug abuses) are an excellent organisation that help parents in your situation by giving them practical tools in which to talked to and deal with your son and help him handle his problems. There number is 0114 2314443.

Also the young peoples service is called SHED on division street in town, their on 0114 2729164. Every individual is different so their are different ways to deal with the problems, talk to the guys I have mentioned and they will help you, their the experts

Take care and i hope all goes well

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.

this may help!! http://www.talktofrank.com/azofdrugs/C/Cannabis.aspx

the more you go on at him the more he will do it!!

smoking pot doesn't always mean he'll do harder drugs.. that all depends on what type of lad / son he is.. talk to him, and listen to what he says

but please remember the more you go on at him the more he'll think i'm going to do it anyway.. honesty is always the best policy

to me (i'm 30) smoking cannabis is just like having a pint of a cig, it's that common around the UK / sheffield kids dont see it illegal

I use to smoke it EVERY night and it's done me no harm, smoking cannabis is bette than him being on the street drinking beer getting up to no good. he wont be aggressive, angry, just chilled out, happy, hungry! if you smoke have a joint with him ad see for yourself what it does to you, (it wont hurt you) your son may even respect you more for trying to understand than trying to stamp this out of his life..

(P.s my view only)!!!

hope it goes well for u

and dont worry!!!

no-one else in my family smokes it. it must be with the mates hes with at the moment. he spends alot of time in the wincobank area with them, ive told him hes got to keep away from them not that he will listen to me.


that really wont help!!

best thing to do with kids is try and get them in to activities, like sports.

A few points if I may?
suz, it is understandable that you are worried.
The 'talk to frank' site is ill researched scaremongering.

I have smoked cannabis for the past 15 years, I am well educated and hold down a responsible job.

I would be more worried about the adulterants present in cheap 'soap-bar' cannabis resin. I urge you to find out about this and inform your son.
Cannabis is not habit forming, though a person will become addicted to the nicotine if they are mixing cannbis with tobacco.
Cannabis is not a 'gateway drug'......as others have pointed out, this is more to do with social settings, the friends particular people keep and the users personality.

TBH, I would be more worried if he was going out and getting blind drunk every night - I hope you take this in the spirit that it is meant.

PLEASE

PEOPLE WHO DONT SMOKE CANNABIS PLEASE STOP PUTTING THREADS ON HERE.. the lady needs help not negative vibes from people who know nothing about it besides what they see on the TV

But males, especially adolescent ones, are notoriously proud about not asking for or accepting help. It sounds like your son has had some tough times through a vulnerable and bewildering stage of life, and however you deal with the cannibis issue itself, don't underestimate how deeply he might have been affected by it all. It sounds like he's ready to open up a little about what's bothered him. Whatever you do don't say 'that's in the past, you should forget about it', or something of that nature. Emotional pain can linger a very long time unless it's dealt with effectively.

I think counselling would be a good idea, though it shouldn't seem forced or related to a sense of punishment for the drug issue. Even if you just showed that you accepted and acknowledged how much that man affected him, it would validate his feelings which would be a step in the right direction. It sounds like you're being very thoughtful and careful about how you want to approach this whole situation. I hope it works out OK.


PLEASE its only a joint or 2!! he's not the 1 mugging old ladies your comments really aren't helping here

educate yourself on cannabis! think your son could possibly do that..i'm not saying it's ok for him to smoke it, your his mother your bound to be worried, but it's not as bad as you think

if he had needle marks in his arms then i would be worried

There is lots of good advice on here - here's how I dealt with it.

I let my son know that he was loved and cared for at all times but I also let him know that I was not in favour of what he was doing. he was told clearly (but without rag losing) that it was not something I was prepared to dun nor have in my house - so he would need to get a job to fund it and was not allowed to bring it in the house. Afer a fair while of not being in trouble - but not really being in favour and also being skint (would say 6months ish) he gave up the weed. The one thing that you have said that worries me is that money has gone missing - now I think all kids help themselves at some stage of the learning process but if he has done it to buy weed it is not a good sign. Try to keep your relationship with him on track by talking (without shouting) to him as often as possible - be open and honest about your feelings for him and what he is doing and remain strict about not funding or housing the weed.

good luck - and as already said they don't all turn in to crack heads

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.

Cannabis is less harmful than cigarettes or alcohol.

http://www.newscientist.com/data/images/archive/2563/25633101.jpg

If your son only using occasionally then you really shouldnt be worried. I have used cannabis for over 15 years and it has never lead to 'hardened drugs' as you call them.

The worst thing you can do is be unaware of all the facts when talking to your son as this could alienate you from him.

i cant believe whats at the bottom of the list!! and whats above it!!

i knew there was no harm with them but that just amazes me.. so going for a pint a lunch time hehe

i cant believe whats at the bottom of the list!! and whats above it!!

i knew there was no harm with them but that just amazes me.. so going for a pint a lunch time hehe

here's the full article which explains how it was worked out... Very interesting imo.

http://www.newscientist.com/channel/health/mg19125633.100-drugdanger-league-table-revealed.html

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.

Show him some movie like "13"
At times, a movie which gives you a chance to look at someone else's life has a much more impact than plain talks.
Or you could perhaps see if you can get him interested in some sport.

Show him some movie like "13"
At times, a movie which gives you a chance to look at someone else's life has a much more impact than plain talks.
Or you could perhaps see if you can get him interested in some sport.


it's only a joint!

Personally I'd be worried if he was out getting drunk rather than smoking a couple of joints every now and then.

Your son is telling you what you want to hear and what people expect him to say as to why he is doing it. Its a right of passage.

Better that he smokes 'weed' rather than resin

If you listen to the people who don't smoke cannabis you'll get the wrong impression. I smoke occaisionally and responsibly. My partner and his friends smoke everyday and hold down well paid jobs - there are issues with all substances but he doesn't sound like he's abusing it.

Don't be fooled into thinking its a gateway drug either. Alcohol is a drug many people get addicted to it but don't progress to heroin. Caffeine is a drug with many long term negative effects - yet we feed it to children. The reason it is marketed as 'bad' is because the government don't tax it. You can't get away from the fact that Alcohol and Nicotine are more damaging that cannabis.

Trust me, I'm a teacher

http://www.newscientist.com/data/images/archive/2563/25633101.jpg

PLEASE its only a joint or 2!! he's not the 1 mugging old ladies your comments really aren't helping here

If he took £20 then thats something to worry about.

I treat canabis exaxtly the same as I do alcohol so it doesnt suprise me a 16 year old would do so either. I used to drink and lie/hide the fact from my parents (though they knew) about it when I was 16.

Taking cash to feed clothes/drink/whatever isnt good, though.

I doubt personally that any single life incident mentioned has anything major to do with him using canabis personally. Probably everything to do with the company he keeps. If taken sensibly canabis is nothing to worry about. If not, then its as bad as alcohol binging.

Shock horror!! Which teenager hasn't smoked weed nowadays? You shouldn't worry about it, at least not until he starts going to nightclubs and popping pills every Friday night.

Its a shame people think its similar to alcohol and ciggies - neither cause psychosis.

Saying this I smoked a bit as a kid and took a lot harder substances as I got older - did this cause my life to end ? No - it was a phase most people go through.

I wouldn't worry too much.

:)

[QUOTE=4Colour]Its a shame people think its similar to alcohol and ciggies - neither cause psychosis.

So you've never seen a drunk person pick a fight cos someone was looking at them funny?

I agree that you should treat canabis like alcohol a little bit every now and then isn't going to hurt him.

So you've never seen a drunk person pick a fight cos someone was looking at them funny?


Different sort of Psycho mate lol :loopy: :hihi:

It's obviously affected your spelling though:hihi::D:P




To help you keep things in perspective.....


I know quite a few people who (regularly - some for over 20 years) smoke cannabis, and not one of them has ever tried anything harder (other than alcohol), nor are they mentally deficient/prone to mental illness.


Trying harder substances has nothing to do with peer pressure, it's more down the individuals' susceptibility (ie addictive personality).

Is that spelling or grammar and who gives a ***** about spelling when a mother is concerned about the welfare of her son? Some people....

and try to remember not every teenager that smokes a little cannabis now and again is going to turn into a raving crack head!

I couldn't agree more Katy. I had the odd joint when I was younger and I turned out OK...I think. I must have only had about 15 in my life, but I just did it cos my mates did it.

Hopefully this will be the case with the lad in the OP.

today i found out that my son is smoking canabis, he will be 16 on friday and iam so worried about him. he says its cos of a past relationship i had with a man who mentally and physically abused me and sometimes my son, however hes out of our lives now so i cant understand why hes doing it. maybe its cos he was robbed and threatened with a knife a year ago, i just dont know. he says he doesnt want to give it up cos he only smokes it occasionally, but i know one day it may turn to hardened drugs. im at my wits end, i just dont know what to do.
hi im matt ive been smoking weed for near on 12 years now, i recently started work after about 5-6 years of constantly smoking and not having the energy to get of my arse and do something with myself.
Now i have started work i find it easier and easier to not hit it as much as they say, the thing im trying to say more than owt is it is an addiction and creeps up on you,talk to him calmly and understand his feelings cause its harder than you think to just stop, its a social drug which most young people accept, and may i add many adults aswell as police.
All the best and you right to be worried as i think its one of the most addictive drugs going more addictive than cigarettes may i add:cool:

Is that spelling or grammar and who gives a ***** about spelling when a mother is concerned about the welfare of her son? Some people....

It also seems to have affected your sense of humour (or did you not notice the 3 little smiling faces at the end of my comment?).

hya suzan the other day i caught my little well shes not so little ne more smoking it i was so dissapointed the thing is if u dont make a big thing out of it ur son may think that u think its ok to b doing this
although i think that his friends will be putting alot of pressure on him 2 act like this if u can get him away from these ppl it wud make it easier but i know that will b hard so all the best,