I know I'm biased but I need to know if my ex has completely lost the plot!!
We were together 3 years and the day after we got back from our summer holiday he ended things with me saying he wasn't sure if he still loved me anymore.... fair enough.
Less than a week later I discover from a mutual firied that he seeing a girl who left the school he was teaching at this summer!!!! bearing in mind he's 27 and she is clearly 16.:loopy:
Someone please tell me I'm not the mad one!!:help:

She is of age so NO.

sorry to hear this.. it obvious why he said he doesn't love you... B*****d i'm a bloke but i'll never understand why men act like that.. you never know what you've got till you've lostit.. he'll come running, back but if / when he does slam the door in his face.. you deserve better x

She is of age so NO.

yes I agree she is of age but he is a teacher and still working with 11-16 but also with sixth formers. Is it not wrong in this sense and this all happened in august so its possible they were seeing each other whilst school was still on!

sorry to hear this.. it obvious why he said he doesn't love you... B*****d i'm a bloke but i'll never understand why men act like that.. you never know what you've got till you've lostit.. he'll come running, back but if / when he does slam the door in his face.. you deserve better x


thanks for that, it sreally difficult too because we had a lot of mutual friends and now no-one wants to spend much time with either of us but the majority have taken his side!
problem is I love him more than anything and I can't stop thinking about him!:mad:

yes I agree she is of age but he is a teacher and still working with 11-16 but also with sixth formers. Is it not wrong in this sense and this all happened in august so its possible they were seeing each other whilst school was still on!

In some ways yes I suppose.

Thats shocking hun, relationships are a great risk to take and my boyfriend kept telling me he loved me etc, and then decided he didnt one day and didnt come home, how strange, why cant they just tell us whats going on?

But you're obviously not meant to be with him,

Legally she is of age, but he's abusing the position of trust he has been placed in.

Providing you are 100% certain he is seeing this child I think you have a duty to tell the school what is going on.

Don't worry hun. When he gets tired of her teenage tantrums and sulks or she goes off with some lookalike from a boyband he'll be the one looking a fool.

Keep your chin up - keep your dignity- and keep yourself for someone who knows your true value.

A.

Thats shocking hun, relationships are a great risk to take and my boyfriend kept telling me he loved me etc, and then decided he didnt one day and didnt come home, how strange, why cant they just tell us whats going on?

But you're obviously not meant to be with him,

yeah thats the one thing I do keep telling myself, but 2 months later I still feel so alone and still crave to be with him!
does it ever get any better?

thanks for that, it sreally difficult too because we had a lot of mutual friends and now no-one wants to spend much time with either of us but the majority have taken his side!
problem is I love him more than anything and I can't stop thinking about him!:mad:

I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm nearly seven weeks into a break up and although it does get easier there are still some pretty low moments. It doesn't make life any easier when you know they are doing something utterly stupid like your ex is either...

You just have to keep reminding yourself over and over at this plonker really is not worthy of any more of your love or thoughts. You won't believe yourself at first. I still don't really believe myself when I say that now. Or rather, I do believe it but I don't want to, if that makes sense! One day you will though, because it is true!

unless she is still a pupil at the school (6th former) or you can prove the relationship started before she left school then there is nothing illegal about what he is doing. I would imagine that if the girls parents have issues with the relationship they will inform the authorities and it will be dealt with accordingly.
You are probably best to just walk away and try and move on with your life.
Reporting him yourself or trying to cause them trouble wont help you and will possibly alienate your mutual friends more and will make you look bad/bitter.

Legally she is of age, but he's abusing the position of trust he has been placed in.

Providing you are 100% certain he is seeing this child I think you have a duty to tell the school what is going on.

I am 100% certain and she has set up a myspace file for him and the piccie on there is taken in a classroom!! All the info is, or was on there with ages, her gcse results, his occupation etc, but I have reported him and had him removed! (sad I know but it needed doing and made me feel better!!)

Yes it does, don't worry about that ;)
When I was dumped by my ex it took me ages to get over him - first serious relationship although only together 18 months.
But being dumped teaches you a lot about yourself and being independent and self-sufficient - TBH if he would rather go out with a 16 year old than you then it never was a long-term prospect.
And when you find the person you are meant to be with then you will look back in wonder at the person you used to be when you were with him, and wonder how you stood for it and why it seemed as if your life collapsed when he left, when clearly he wasn't worth it!

yeah thats the one thing I do keep telling myself, but 2 months later I still feel so alone and still crave to be with him!
does it ever get any better?

yes but only with time!! look after yourself for a while get to know yourself again.. get your self out with your friends!!

unless she is still a pupil at the school (6th former) or you can prove the relationship started before she left school then there is nothing illegal about what he is doing. I would imagine that if the girls parents have issues with the relationship they will inform the authorities and it will be dealt with accordingly.
You are probably best to just walk away and try and move on with your life.
Reporting him yourself or trying to cause them trouble wont help you and will possibly alienate your mutual friends more and will make you look bad/bitter.


Thanks for the advice! I don't think I was serious as I would have done it by now! But it has crossed my mind many a times but you're right so I thank you for helping me keep my dignity and sanity!

Unfortunalty some relationships are not ment to be. best thing is to walk awaywith your head held high. And when/if you do bump in to him again just act all calm and casual, that will have thinking...Damn..she's moved on quick.!

Or..he could think..thank god she aint stalking me...lol

jt

Unfortunalty some relationships are not ment to be. best thing is to walk awaywith your head held high. And when/if you do bump in to him again just act all calm and casual, that will have thinking...Damn..she's moved on quick.!

Or..he could think..thank god she aint stalking me...lol

jt

I know where you coming from - problem is he lives with his family about 400 yards away from me!!! so I see him or his family almost every day

I know where you coming from - problem is he lives with his family about 400 yards away from me!!! so I see him or his family almost every day

Perfect - then you can make sure he sees you laughing at him every day!!

:thumbsup:

I am 100% certain and she has set up a myspace file for him and the piccie on there is taken in a classroom!! All the info is, or was on there with ages, her gcse results, his occupation etc, but I have reported him and had him removed! (sad I know but it needed doing and made me feel better!!)

Like someone else has already said, unless she is still a pupil at the school or he was seeing her when she was, then realistically he is doing nothing wrong and there is no reason for you to report him to anyone.

I know where you coming from - problem is he lives with his family about 400 yards away from me!!! so I see him or his family almost every day

Yikes, that's hard. Me and my ex had always had a long distance relationship. Then three weeks after we split he moves just round the corner! :loopy:

he should be very careful though to make sure this doesnt become public knowledge or any of the school authorities get invloved. a recent case in East Yorkshire resulted in a teacher being sent to prison for 4 years for abusing a position of trust. Even if their is an investigation and nothing comes of it - it will remain on his record as a teacher for some time. I hope she's worth it! From your point of you - looks like your better off out of it!

I thought the law relating to relationships between "minors" and "persons in a position of trust" was that, if it were (eg) a teacher and pupil, there had to be a certain amount of time between the pupil leaving school, and the commencement of the relationship?

I second Pero, BTW... sounds like you are well shot of him!

Hi all,

This is shaping up to be one of those threads that might be better dealt with privately than in public.

Thanks for all your contributions - I'm going to close the thread now.

Joe