Hiya,
Just wondered if anyone had any advice as to how I can support my friend?
She's been with her fella for about 2 1/2 yrs and they bought a house together last year. They were due to marry in 9 months and had everything booked.
Trouble is she has realised that she doesn't love him any more and has ended things.
She is heart broken but she knew that marrying someone she doesn't love would have made her seriously unhappy.
I'm getting married myself in 4 weeks and I really wondered if anyone had any advice as to how I can support her - the last thing I want to do is depress her because I'm getting married myself.....
x x x
princessL83
17-10-2006, 20:37
awww thats terrible just be there for her and let her know your a sholder to cry on but remeber its your big day as well don't feel sellfish for talking about your wedding she'll want you to be happy its just a case of bad timing xxx
I know, thanks princess.
Does anyone else suggest anything?
I don't want her to feel like I'm being nosey or butting in, but I want to make sure she's ok.
She keeps saying that she feels awful because she can't cry..... but when she sees him he's in floods of tears. She says it makes her feel like a heartless bitch - but I know she isn't!
CHOIRBOY
17-10-2006, 21:53
Just be there for her when she needs you and dont letthis spoil your own wedding which should be the happiest day of your life.
PuressenceUK
18-10-2006, 07:29
Hiya,
Just wondered if anyone had any advice as to how I can support my friend?
She's been with her fella for about 2 1/2 yrs and they bought a house together last year. They were due to marry in 9 months and had everything booked.
Trouble is she has realised that she doesn't love him any more and has ended things.
She is heart broken but she knew that marrying someone she doesn't love would have made her seriously unhappy.
I'm getting married myself in 4 weeks and I really wondered if anyone had any advice as to how I can support her - the last thing I want to do is depress her because I'm getting married myself.....
x x x
I feel sorry for the bloke! He's going to even more heartbroken as he is the one being dumped!! Still best to tell him now than after the wedding I suppose.
Devine22
18-10-2006, 07:35
I'm sure she understands about your wedding, just be there for her. Just talk to her, have a girly night and have a good chat etc.
bladesufc1
18-10-2006, 07:57
is there anybody else involved? i.e shes seen another man who she likes?
all you can do is carry on with your wedding.. make her big part of it, cos she'll be happy for you!!!! make a fuss, make her feel she has a VERY important part in your wedding, sure sh'll love that x
is there anybody else involved? i.e shes seen another man who she likes?
all you can do is carry on with your wedding.. make her big part of it, cos she'll be happy for you!!!! make a fuss, make her feel she has a VERY important part in your wedding, sure sh'll love that x
No noone esle is involved.
He's just not been very good around the house - not been paying the bills etc leaves the house in a tip.
she's told him about this time and time again and he hasn't changed so she's just realised that he'll never change and she cant be with someone who she has to be a surrogate mother for.....
She's still very heartbroken tho'
awww she will be even though she doesnt love him she still as feelins hun.just be there for her as she will need you:)