why is it men can do what they want because they work and go to the pub when they please ,but diffrent for a woman if she wants to go out after looking after kids all day al lweek all night dont we deserve a break for a couple of hours

Yes you do deserve a break brad, but you haven't stated why you can't.

my partner doesnt agree he finds it hard looking after kids but he goes to pub evreynight after work and i dont complain so when i want a night out with girls he complains i dont see what the problem is myself i think he selfish

Originally posted by brad
my partner doesnt agree he finds it hard looking after kids but he goes to pub evreynight after work and i dont complain so when i want a night out with girls he complains i dont see what the problem is myself i think he selfish

And you put up with that? More fool you.

Or he's very insecure, maybe?

Got nothing to do with men and women... people are ignorant on a person by person basis. No reasonable person would have that view... just UKIP voters. :)

Write a list of everything that you have to do/deal with in a day. I suspect it's 10 things at the same time.

Ask him to do the same and justify his argument for you not being able to go out.

Brad
Throw him a pair of your knickers, and tell him to wear them when he goes out; then when he says he can't get in them tell him "no and you won't until you change your attitude towards me either"
owdlad.
ps Mrs owdlad goes out as and when she likes and we both enjoy the chance to mix with others.

thats not a bad idear id have to take a photo thoe to remind him its me that wears the trousers now ha ha

He thinks he wears the trousers but you tell him which pair to wear!

Hi there
If you allow the abuse, don't expect any sympathy!

Change your man, fo you can call him that!

If he actually took a dump on you every day, would you put up with that, I think you would!

LOL

Mark ..

yeah kick him out. dont put up with it, be free to go out like mrs owdlad.

by the way howy welcome to the forum.

There's no need to be so harsh. She has already mentioned that she has children.

The hubby just needs a bit of educating then he will be fine.

well here we go nit picking again.
i was partly joking in my last thread as i cant really take this thread so serious.
i have kids too .
she.ll have to either do something about it or put up with it.
well if hes as bad as she says and dont want to look after his own kids then hes not much use to her or them anyway is he.
so nit pick this bonny.

Originally posted by tara
well here we go nit picking again.
i was partly joking in my last thread as i cant really take this thread so serious.
i have kids too .
she.ll have to either do something about it or put up with it.
well if hes as bad as she says and dont want to look after his own kids then hes not much use to her or them anyway is he.
so nit pick this bonny.

tara, I apologise if my comment offended you. I was not intending to "nit pick". I was mereley commenting on what I thought would have been a rash thing to do seeing as children are involved. I have children too and would not "get rid" of my husband before trying to resolve a matter, especially where children are involved.

If it was a violent relationship my opinion would be the same as yours.

And also brad,if hes at work in day and in pub at night
when does he see the kids just at weekend.
if this is so then hes only a part time father anyway isnt he.
if the kids never hardly see him or spend quality time with him
and they see you probably upset about this then put the kids first and do something about him.

i dont really agree with bonny about re educating him -to what look after his own kids.
youve obviously told him time and time again about this
so do you think hes likely to change.
its entirely up to you.

sorry i got a bit irate bonny but on one of my other threads i was only sticking up for a victim and instead of sticking to the topic and giving there views of the subject i was got at by a few.
so im a bit sensitive at the moment.

i went through a bit of what brad is going through years ago.

i suppose it depends how long brad has been putting up with this.
and also some men dont class women looking after kids as work
cos theyre selfish.
there was a programme on a while a go where husband and wife swapped roles and then he really found out what work was.

Originally posted by brad
why is it men can do what they want because they work and go to the pub when they please ,but diffrent for a woman if she wants to go out after looking after kids all day al lweek all night dont we deserve a break for a couple of hours .

It is probably beacuse the man works hard for the money and doesn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids when he gets in.

Its a mans right to go to the pub as and when he pleases.

If you ask his permission to go out for a couple of hours and be nice to him and if he is a reasonable chap he might consider it for a few seconds before telling you to get back in the kitchen

Originally posted by brownieblade
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It is probably beacuse the man works hard for the money and doesn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids when he gets in.

Its a mans right to go to the pub as and when he pleases.

If you ask his permission to go out for a couple of hours and be nice to him and if he is a reasonable chap he might consider it for a few seconds before telling you to get back in the kitchen

Oh dear!

Originally posted by brownieblade
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It is probably beacuse the man works hard for the money and doesn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids when he gets in.

Its a mans right to go to the pub as and when he pleases.

If you ask his permission to go out for a couple of hours and be nice to him and if he is a reasonable chap he might consider it for a few seconds before telling you to get back in the kitchen

But only if she's done the ironing of course *ahem*

Why not take a leaf out of Shirley Valentines book and go on a well deserved holiday for 2 weeks with your mates and leave him with the kids.

If he's not willing to meet you half way then teach him a lesson, it takes 2 to make a baby and it takes 2 to raise them.

If he's being a selfish git then take some well earned "me time" with or without him co-operating.

If he's having problems coping then he should of thought of that before he decided to have a family.

Its not right that he gets to have time out and then complains when you rightfully want some to, how selfish is he.

I'm a single mum and I had this same attitude from my own mother, she seemed to think I had to be tied to the kitchen sink devoting myself to my son 24/7 but eventually came to realise that it was unhealthy for me not to have a break once in a while.

Keep us posted on the outcome.

Regards

Jo

Hi Tara:-)


@Bonny>
Well Bonny, its all great living in a idealistic world, where the hubby gets loads of chances to change, just for the benefit of the kids!

How long has she got to wait?

I would look at the severity of this problem here, the guys a bum, in the pub every night, like his kids are going to miss him if he leaves?

Whats wrong with this guy taking his family out for a picnic in the countryside, or if he works, taking then for a drive in the country in the evening, a walk perhaps, playing football with his kids, walking down to the local park with them?

Taking then to the swimming baths, his wife would also have a break, put a little love into the family again!

Now I am being idealistic, lets me a realist, the guys making this poor womans life a misery, her kids don't even know better, She would be better without this slob, now ain't that the truth!

The kids and misses need a life, not an existance!

Regards

Mark ..

aren't you reading a lot into a single description of the guy?

Originally posted by brownieblade
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It is probably beacuse the man works hard for the money and doesn't want to be surrounded by screaming kids when he gets in.

Its a mans right to go to the pub as and when he pleases.

If you ask his permission to go out for a couple of hours and be nice to him and if he is a reasonable chap he might consider it for a few seconds before telling you to get back in the kitchen

If you're going to troll try to be a little more subtle...I know its hard for Blades fans :P

Originally posted by owdlad
Brad
Throw him a pair of your knickers, and tell him to wear them when he goes out; then when he says he can't get in them tell him "no and you won't until you change your attitude towards me either"
owdlad.
ps Mrs owdlad goes out as and when she likes and we both enjoy the chance to mix with others.

Ha ha good one I like it ;)

It wouldn't work with my friend who came up from London the other day though, I took him shopping and I needed some underwear for going out that night, bad mistake. He stood in the middle of the shop and tried some of the thongs on that I was going to buy, with diamante's. Everyone was stood laughing at him, it was funny. :P

what does brad think to our opinions have any helped or just hindered.