Why is it so hard to move on from an ex that you aren't that bothered about? I have split up with my boyfriend thankgod i'm not that bothered about him really but find it hard to move on:huh: I just wondered if anyone one else was like me and hate the thought of being on their own?:help:

Was he your first?

People need to be less reliant on other people for there happiness. A relationship does not define who you are.

Was he your first?
No he wasn't but he is my longest. We have been together on and off for 7 years and to be honest it as wore off between us. It's just the moving on bit i find hard. :(

People need to be less reliant on other people for there happiness. A relationship does not define who you are.
Yeah you are right. :)

No he wasn't but he is my longest. We have been together on and off for 7 years and to be honest it as wore off between us. It's just the moving on bit i find hard. :(
Then its force of habit.
I was with my ex for 20 years and even though she was horrible and my new partner is brilliant i still think about her occasionally.

Enjoy this next chapter.

Then its force of habit.
I was with my ex for 20 years and even though she was horrible and my new partner is brilliant i still think about her occasionally.
Well this one is horrible but i keep going back for some reason:rolleyes: I don't know whats wrong with me i have been out with much nicer people than him. :rolleyes:

So its the girls being attracted to the bad lad thing?
My sister was like that, she married a prize piggy-wig and hes given her over 40 years of hell.

Enjoy this next chapter.
Yeah i will do. I think he's only happy to leave it now because it's my birthday sunday and he won't have to buy me a present the tight git! :)

Its just habit, and the thought of being on your own!!! I know how you feel, I was in this position a bit ago.

So its the girls being attracted to the bad lad thing?
My sister was like that, she married a prize piggy-wig and hes given her over 40 years of hell.
He's not really a bad lad he just as his head up his own arse to know how to treat a girlfriend if you know what i mean :)

He's not really a bad lad he just as his head up his own arse to know how to treat a girlfriend if you know what i mean :)
Yeah you just described me :D

Its just habit, and the thought of being on your own!!! I know how you feel, I was in this position a bit ago.
How did you get over it if you don't mind me asking?

It takes time but in the end I just got so bored and fed up so put a stop to it.

It takes time but in the end I just got so bored and fed up so put a stop to it.
Yeah i have done this too many times now must move on it's not doing me any good :thumbsup:

If it becomes a habit to keep parting then getting back together then you need to take drastic action or itll go on forever.
A friend of mine who lives close to me is going through this, her hubby leaves her and goes back to her at least three times each year and has been doing it for the 4 years that ive known them.

Yeah, you just end up wasting your time really. On something that isnt really going anywhere. Its just a bad habit!!! Spend your time on meeting new people!!!

Jabberwocky, whats the nicest thing you have ever done for a lady?

Jabberwocky, whats the nicest thing you have ever done for a lady?
Left her :D

Left her :D
:hihi: You daft sod :hihi:

LOL!! Not the answer I was expecting though.

Well i could mention hiring a van and driving from sheffield to leicester to collect her and her things out of the blue and whisking her to sheffield to live, having never met her face to face before.
I suppose that could be mistaken as romantic and stuff.

Did she agree to it before you collected her??

Did she agree to it before you collected her??
God no! AND i had to buy my own handcuffs and tranquillizers too!



Yes she agreed the week before, she was living with her parents and they were driving her mad.
Now 4 years later IM driving her mad!

Heh heh

God no! AND i had to buy my own handcuffs and tranquillizers too!



Yes she agreed the week before, she was living with her parents and they were driving her mad.
Now 4 years later IM driving her mad!

Heh heh
I never had u down as a romantic jabber :hihi:

so best thing Jena76 is move on, move up and never look back!!! Good luck and happy birthday for Sunday x

I never had u down as a romantic jabber :hihi:
Im not.
Im only in for it for the cooking and the sex. :D

Im not.
Im only in for it for the cooking and the sex. :D

Things are going well for you then?:hihi:

so best thing Jena76 is move on, move up and never look back!!! Good luck and happy birthday for Sunday x
Yeah i will do i've got no intentions of going back this time! Thanks for the happy birthday aswell it's a good job i have good friends to celebrate with :thumbsup:

Things are going well for you then?:hihi:
Well im obese and sexually frustrated so im half way there!

Well im obese and sexually frustrated so im half way there!

I'm both of those but i'm single!! :rolleyes:

God i remember when i was single.
I actually smiled and stuff in those days :D

I think i might start living and smiling again now! it's been sooooo long:hihi:

God i remember when i was single.
I actually smiled and stuff in those days :D

was that before or after you dressed as a woman in a pink nightie?:hihi:

I think i might start living and smiling again now! it's been sooooo long:hihi:
In many ways i envy you, not only do you get to make a new start you get to ,,,,erm.... i forgot what the other thing was...
Anyway its exciting and Id love to do it!

Time is a great healer but I would argue that it doesnt remove the feelings, it just teaches you how to deal with them.

You also have to be strong and realistic in helping this process happen. The only way to properly move on from someone is to sever all ties with them. Dont see them, dont call them, dont write to them.

I think i might start living and smiling again now! it's been sooooo long:hihi:

You do right, and if you find someone that knows how to treat a lady, let me know where you found him!! :hihi:

was that before or after you dressed as a woman in a pink nightie?:hihi:
In my single days a pink nighty was the least of the things i did!

Hang on a sec?
Pink?

Its PEACH!!!

Time is a great healer but I would argue that it doesnt remove the feelings, it just teaches you how to deal with them.

You also have to be strong and realistic in helping this process happen. The only way to properly move on from someone is to sever all ties with them. Dont see them, dont call them, dont write to them.

I agree :thumbsup:

In my single days a pink nighty was the least of the things i did!

Hang on a sec?
Pink?

Its PEACH!!!

I apologise!! Must be losing my sight in my old age.:|

I apologise!! Must be losing my sight in my old age.:|
Its still hidden behind the wardrobe in the spare bedroom. If my other half finds it and finds the lipstick thats all over it Im going to be beaten to snot.

Time is a great healer but I would argue that it doesnt remove the feelings, it just teaches you how to deal with them.

You also have to be strong and realistic in helping this process happen. The only way to properly move on from someone is to sever all ties with them. Dont see them, dont call them, dont write to them.
I agree also. It's just hard sometimes and tempting :(

I remember when i was about 20 , i split from a girlfriend and she kept calling around once every few weeks to go for a drink in town and we always ended up in bed.
This went on for months and it didnt do either of us any good.

Theres no moral to this story, im just bragging that i got lots of sex.

I remember when i was about 20 , i split from a girlfriend and she kept calling around once every few weeks to go for a drink in town and we always ended up in bed.
This went on for months and it didnt do either of us any good.

Theres no moral to this story, im just bragging that i got lots of sex.

How did you end that relationship then?

How did you end that relationship then?
I met someone else and that ex tried to wreck it a few times and even resorted to following me around for a while but she finally gave up when she realised it wasnt getting her anywhere.

I agree also. It's just hard sometimes and tempting :(

temptation is a bad thing

I remember when i was about 20 , i split from a girlfriend and she kept calling around once every few weeks to go for a drink in town and we always ended up in bed.
This went on for months and it didnt do either of us any good.

Theres no moral to this story, im just bragging that i got lots of sex.

I don't think anyone thought any different! :hihi: It was pretty transparent.... :)

StarSparkle

You weren't fooling anyone! :hihi: It was pretty transparent.... :)

StarSparkle
Well i cant help being as subtle as a kneecap in the groin can i ? :D