I don't know if anyone can help me, but for the past six months I have gone back to working full time 9-5 job. A family member has my son for me Mon-Wed, and on Thurs and Fri he attends a nursery in the centre of Sheffield so i can collect him easily etc. But with everything to do at home etc I sometimes find myself turning into a 'dragon' being, quite snappy etc, and I don't know how to calm down, I just get in a rut doing everything, please tell me i am fairly normal?:huh:

Well i don't work my partner does and recently i thought about going to work but i'm already snappy and over stressed ( more like a mouse trap, tred carefully :hihi: ) with house work looking after my two wild children a nearly 2 year old and a nearly 4 year old And soon i start college so then the pressure will be really on. If i go out for a day everything in the house goes to pot, So i truely feel for you but everyone gets snappy well i hope were not the only two :D .

I find laughing at my self helps me destress! if i didn't laugh at how jinxed i am i'd crack up :loopy: like my dog lead snapping half way to the shop with a baby in a pram and toddler on foot and a dog under my arm i laugh.

I don't have children to look after, but sounds like a perfectly 'normal' stress reaction to me.
Exercise works for me; the more tired, stressed I feel, the less I want to to work out, which mean the more I need to to relieve the stress.

If possible try reflexology, it makes you very, very relaxed.

Get in a nice warm bath, light some candles maybe some nice chilling music! That will sort you out

Thanks so much for the comments, sometimes i just need reassurance that i have done the right thing by going back to work, its quite difficult to do everything and I like to think that others understand me 'zoboz' thanks, sometimes i feel im in this alone,:sad:

I don't know if anyone can help me, but for the past six months I have gone back to working full time 9-5 job. A family member has my son for me Mon-Wed, and on Thurs and Fri he attends a nursery in the centre of Sheffield so i can collect him easily etc. But with everything to do at home etc I sometimes find myself turning into a 'dragon' being, quite snappy etc, and I don't know how to calm down, I just get in a rut doing everything, please tell me i am fairly normal?:huh:


Utterly normal Faye I am afraid. It's the balancing act of being mummy, work colleague, partner, chef, bathroom cleaner, grocery shopper, social organiser.

Delegate what you can around the house especially meals and cleaning. And make time for yourself. Hide in the bathroom every other night with luxury bubble bath and a good book or magazine. Have yourself a night out once a week doing something for you even if you feel too tired for it. Nick2's idea is a good one.

Thanks for the info Sam, I just seem like a dragon thought constantly and get wound up, i dont break things down and take time out so it all just seems too much sometimes :huh:

exercise is the best for so many reasons. if you were bothered enough to post here, then be bothered enough to go to your GP. If he/she recommends any kind of medication as an alternative to a half an hour walk then get yourself a new GP. Surf the net too...meditation, etc. Also, block out time where you just do things just for you...doesn't matter what you do, take a nap or watch your favourite TV show completely uninterrupted. whatever you choose make sure it's a something good and healthy and that you genuinely enjoy. it may take effort to relax and switch off at first, but keep trying. if whatever you try doesn't work, try something else, but always give it a good go first and remember that you must always look after yourself first - if you don't, you won't be at your best to be there for others :-)

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Dont worry-be happy

Try to find an exercise class based around boxing, especially one where you get to use pads and gloves. Great for stress relief and good exercise.

Try to find an exercise class based around boxing, especially one where you get to use pads and gloves. Great for stress relief and good exercise.


I keep asking my bloke to buy me a punch bag for my bed room, i think it would be very helpfull towards keeping my stress levels low.:hihi:

Don't try to make a perfect job of everything. Your child won't notice that the pots are stacking up in the sink, but will remember that you took time out to play with him. And look after yourself - it's so easy to skip meals or not eat properly if you are feeling rushed.

Although it might seem something else to cram in your busy schedule, a booked 'me time' slot once or twice a week will help relax, keep your self esteem up and keep yourself in good condition. It won't be wasted time or another guilt fix if it helps keep your mood up at work, or being positive in your family moments.

Nick's reflexology tip is a start. You could treat yourself to a different type of treatment every so often, ring the changes, always have something new and pampering to look forward to. Keep yourself looking and feeling good. Little self-indulgences can make a big difference. When life grinds you down it's easy to get dragged down the slippery slope. Swimming, getting your eyelashes dyed, doing a craft session, having a manicure, gong for a brisk walk round your favourite park. Two hours a week when you can just get away from it all and catch up with yourself.

And when you get snappy - take a step back and take deep breaths, counting in for 8 and out for 12.

Hope some of that helps. (From one who snaps!)

STRESS?
Stress?!?!?


SSSSSSSSStresssssssssssss!!!!

I have NO idea at all how to cope with it!

I keep asking my bloke to buy me a punch bag for my bed room, i think it would be very helpfull towards keeping my stress levels low.:hihi:

I was thinking about getting a punch bag for me to take my stress out on. I think its time I did now..my partner is getting a bit fed up of me wanting to punch him all the time :| I love punching him though..not sure if I will feel as much benifit from hitting the punch bag as I do hitting him :(

I get stressed over silly things and its not doing me any good..I'm a mardy cow..:( I do really need to do something about it..

What was that stuff what don was on about on here..anyone remember?

improved diet
aerobic exercise
qi gong
reiki
yoga
meditation
and occasionally smacking the crap out of inanimate objects