Every time i get on a tram or a bus (dont have a car at the moment) no one offers me a seat, im 33 weeks pregnant and huge with SPD (symphasis pubic disfunction) a very painfull condition, and no one will offer me a seat, they just all sit there, i get the occasional look but thats it, i also offerd an ealderly lady a seat the other day because a group of students didnt! Where hase everyones manners gone!!!!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

If an elderly person or pregnant woman gets on a bus i always no matter what offer them my seat :thumbsup: x

you are one of a select few, but its nice manners to give up your seat isnt it, my mum always tought me that

You have my sympathy. I remember having to stand all the way from town to Woodseats with about 2 weeks to go. I was absolutley furious that people could be so ignorant.

I had the last laugh though,someone at the back of the bus needed to get off but couldn't get past me due to my circumferance, he started panicking, thinking he was going to miss his stop, I just said "hmm this is very arkward isn't it?". Someone finally let me have a seat then, though I only had a couple of stops to go.

ha ha serves him right, some people are just plain ignorant and selfish,

these are not isolated incidents, 2 years ago i was also pregnant, it was a day of terrible snow the bus was packed, me heavily pregnant again with SPD i had to stand up for two hours as the bus moved so slow to get home and you guessed it no one gave up there seat, the person in front of me got off and guess what a middle aged woman sat down leaving huge me to stand, :mad:

these are not isolated incidents, 2 years ago i was also pregnant, it was a day of terrible snow the bus was packed, me heavily pregnant again with SPD i had to stand up for two hours as the bus moved so slow to get home and you guessed it no one gave up there seat, the person in front of me got off and guess what a middle aged woman sat down leaving huge me to stand, :mad:

I would have said something if i was you hun, theres some very ignorant people out there x

i did about when the other woman sat down but there was a very silent bus for the last little while

My mum always taught us about manners and I too try and give my seat up to the more needy.

Pregnant women do too much sitting down as it is.


Oh god...im dead.

Pregnant women do too much sitting down as it is.


Oh god...im dead.

Jabber hun, ur gona get ur ass kicked! Hows ur lass btw?

Jabber hun, ur gona get ur ass kicked! Hows ur lass btw?
Ill never get my ass kicked cos i can run too fast.

My lass? How is she? Shes still ugly.
And asleep thats why i can get away with this without being killed.:D

Ill never get my ass kicked cos i can run too fast.

My lass? How is she? Shes still ugly.
And asleep thats why i can get away with this without being killed.:D

:o She'll kill you when she reads that :hihi: x

I would have said VERY loudly 'My what's the world coming to when a pregnant woman can't get a seat - MOVE!' and wait for your choice of seats. I'm very direct like that! But then I'm not pregnant so I would have moved :)

Good grief! I can't believe people can be so inconsiderate! My first instinct would be to offer my seat to someone who's clearly having a hard time standing. It's just basic 'manners', taught by my mum.

It would seem that the age of chivalry is dead...

I used to have the same problem when pregnant and using buses. At maximum density I once fell onto a mans lap when the bus made an emergency stop.

Another time I got on and the bus driver refused to set off until someone gave me a seat. I have to say I was very embarrassed!

Ive seen bus drivers do that and I think its lovely. Id do the same in their position.

I got the bus home only once while I was pregnant - 36 weeks, carrying heavy bags, and limping significantly (arthritic foot, and swollen ankles) at the start of june (mid heat wave). You guessed it - no-one offered me a seat. There was several old folks sat in the priority disabled person seats, otherwise i would have asked them to move. When a seat just in front of me was vacated, i started towards it only to be pushed out of the way by some chavvy little f*** who i sincerely hope has since hit a tree extremely hard on his chavvy little mini moto. Normally i've got a fairly active mouth, but i was so taken aback that i actually couldn't find any words to express my displeasure adequately. Yep, chavvy little f*** then got off 2 stops further on.

In another "people have no manners" incident, whilst around 6 months pregnant I was the only person to offer help to a woman struggling with twin babies in a pushchair on some steps at york station - probably about 100 people walked by whilst pregnant me helped struggling her lift the pushchair.

It's reasons like this that make me want to stay away from the general public as much as possible. it makes me really angry, as I always hold doors/give up seats to anyone who i think needs it more than me, even if that's just a very drunk student.

Grrrrrr

It would seem that the age of chivalry is dead...

No - It's the age of anyone giving a rats about others and the age of teaching manners that is dead.
We all all so wrapped up in treating kids as young adults and being worried about rights and crap that we have no time to teach kids basic manners like holding a door open or giving up a seat.
We have lost respect for ourselves and each other.
This country has gone to the dogs.

yes this country has gone to the dogs, Great britain my arse (bad day) too many hills to go up and down today, (still pregnant 6 weeks and counting) I am teaching my other children manners, bus seats, doors, thank you, now that is also a big one no one says thank you either, god i moan alot dont i.... its the hormones

Same kept happening to me in teh tram! I had to work until 38 weeks pregnant and use the tram to get to my work and no one will really get up! I also got a few looks but nothing. Sometimes, older people will get up to give me their seat but none of the young ones! I remeber when I was a kid, my mum will more or less kick me out of a seat in a public transport for an older person or a pregnant lady, no questions asked! I ended up asking to work a bit late, so I could get a later tram that usually had seats availiable (I was quite lucky I could do that, but I understant that not everyone can have flexi working hrs)! I really don't know where morals have gone lately and in what society we are leaving in!

Hey there! The same thing happened to me when I was pregnant, especially coming home on the bus after doing an 8 hour shift!! People can see that you have what is obviously a big belly in front of you and it made me start to think that people thought I was just fat and not pregnant!
If you think being pregnant and trying to get a seat is bad, wait till you have to use buses with a buggy.
I catch the bus into town with Molly 2 times a week, the ride there isn't so bad as it's dinner time and the bus is usually quite empty. But on the way home I feel like I'm some sort of inconvenience on the bus! When another buggy is on I have to turn mine sideways and my handle sticks out a little but not so people can't get past it. The looks I get as people walk past me really annoys me, I'd love to say something but I'd rather act as though I don't care as I think this winds people up more.

Do buses and trams still have signs about giving up seats to others? I remember they were always on the right hand side facing the passengers and I always knew to give up my seat and still would (it just doesn't seem right in my own car ;) ).

I was quite lucky that I didn't really have to use public transport when I was pregnant. My work was en-route to my husbands so I got a lift.

My mum however has a few stories to tell - one when she fell whilst heavily pregnant and no one offered to help her up and just walked around her!

I remember my brother was carrying his six month old daughter and no one would give him a seat. There was a young woman in a seat that clearly said it should be given up to disabled elderly and people with young children. She clearly didn't meet any of that criteria. The whole bus turned on her but she steadfastly refused to move leaving my brother to hold onto his daughter with one hand and the rail with the other. I think the driver should have refused to go till she gave up her seat because this was a safety issue as is a heavily pregnant woman standing.

A man asked me once if I was pregnant and I wanted to sit down on a train when I wasn't :(

A man asked me once if I was pregnant and I wanted to sit down on a train when I wasn't :(

Oh gawd, mortifying for all concerned!
My best was an old woman who was cooing over Wolfcub when he was just 2 weeks old, she then turned to me and said aren't you lucky, a beautiful baby, and pregnant again. Lmao

Oh gawd, mortifying for all concerned!
My best was an old woman who was cooing over Wolfcub when he was just 2 weeks old, she then turned to me and said aren't you lucky, a beautiful baby, and pregnant again. Lmao

I actually saved his embarrassment and said I was and took his seat :hihi: