Hi all you gorgeous parents and carers!

In the space of twenty four hours I have had two people whose opinions mean a lot to me tell me that they think I'm a great mother. One, a good friend, said over cosycub's bath yesterday (just as I was thinking how bad a job I was doing asking for help and forgetting this and saying that and nearly losing him in Mothercare:rolleyes: ) "you know, I was lying in bed last night, thinking what a great mother you are...". I could have cried - wow, someone actually spent their precious pre-sleep time thinking I was a great mother!!!:o
Then this morning my Mother-in-Law said she'd just been telling so-and-so what a great mum I am.
Okay, so maybe I just look wired and needy and they thought they'd best buck me up somehow, but...It made me feel so warm and fuzzy inside, lol, even if I didn't entirely believe it, and it got me thinking about how rarely anyone says that (well, to me at least:D) So ...

Give yourselves a pat on the back. We all need one, and we all need to be reminded that we're doing a very important job, and chances are we're doing it very well (even if it often feels like we're doing it by the skin of our teeth and feeling guilty about all the bits we didn't/haven't yet managed.)

And if you know a mum/dad/carer you think is doing a really good job (or who needs a little confidence boost) tell them so. That's your mission for this week!:thumbsup:

Hi all you gorgeous parents and carers!

In the space of twenty four hours I have had two people whose opinions mean a lot to me tell me that they think I'm a great mother. One, a good friend, said over cosycub's bath yesterday (just as I was thinking how bad a job I was doing asking for help and forgetting this and saying that and nearly losing him in Mothercare:rolleyes: ) "you know, I was lying in bed last night, thinking what a great mother you are...". I could have cried - wow, someone actually spent their precious pre-sleep time thinking I was a great mother!!!:o
Then this morning my Mother-in-Law said she'd just been telling so-and-so what a great mum I am.
Okay, so maybe I just look wired and needy and they thought they'd best buck me up somehow, but...It made me feel so warm and fuzzy inside, lol, even if I didn't entirely believe it, and it got me thinking about how rarely anyone says that (well, to me at least:D) So ...

Give yourselves a pat on the back. We all need one, and we all need to be reminded that we're doing a very important job, and chances are we're doing it very well (even if it often feels like we're doing it by the skin of our teeth and feeling guilty about all the bits we didn't/haven't yet managed.)

And if you know a mum/dad/carer you think is doing a really good job (or who needs a little confidence boost) tell them so. That's your mission for this week!:thumbsup:

crikey, you've made me come over all weepy and stuff (in a good way). i've been getting a bit grumpy that baby babychicken tends to smile at other people more than me even though she spends all her time with me entertaining her - that's rgiht, i'm being taken for granted by a 12 week old baby - until i remembered that last night when she was really tired and grumpy she stopped crying for about 10 seconds to smile at me before starting again. it's the little thank yous that make the difference! she does appreciate me really!

crikey, you've made me come over all weepy and stuff (in a good way). i've been getting a bit grumpy that baby babychicken tends to smile at other people more than me even though she spends all her time with me entertaining her - that's rgiht, i'm being taken for granted by a 12 week old baby - until i remembered that last night when she was really tired and grumpy she stopped crying for about 10 seconds to smile at me before starting again. it's the little thank yous that make the difference! she does appreciate me really!

Bless her:)
And always bear in mind what someone assured me of once: if your baby smiles at other people more and behaves wonderfully for them, then comes back to you to cry and behave badly, it's because they feel absolutely comfortable and secure with you, and know you won't abandon them for their behaviour, whereas a less loved and trusted person might (in their minds).

And if that isn't true, don't tell me, it's a delusion I'm happy to labour under:D

Oooh i've got tears in my eyes - deffo the post-natal hormones playing havoc.... :hihi: