have you ever been stabbed in the back by your mate (not literally!) or found out that your so-called friend has been talking about you behind your back?

if so what did you do about it,
or what would you do it it happened to you???

I had a "friend" at work who took a shine to my then boyfriend.
When he politely resisted her advances she decided to take it out on me by causing me all kinds of trouble at work! Whilst her actions were very immature the manner in which she went about it and her scheming were very effective. It eventually led to my being selected for redundancy because I was causing too much trouble and not being a team player! (Moi! Trouble!)

I didn't do anything about it despite her admitting to me that she did it because she was jealous and wanted to hurt me. I didn't fancy getting involved in a battle with someone who was obviously so unhinged! :loopy:

I've had this happen a few times and to be honest I think that I'm either :

a. A total **** who just upsets people right, left and centre....

OR...

b. A lousy judge of character.

I think the latter....I've learnt from these occasions not to put too much in to friendships until I'm more ocnfident about the people.

I think I've learnt to spot my true friends - it's been some hard lessons, though.

Joe

My ex wifes best mate came on to me,big time,
me and my wife had some time apart, my best mate came on to her.
Don't talk to me about backstabbing mates:mad:

Originally posted by JoePritchard
I've had this happen a few times and to be honest I think that I'm either :

a. A total **** who just upsets people right, left and centre....

OR...

b. A lousy judge of character.

I think the latter....I've learnt from these occasions not to put too much in to friendships until I'm more ocnfident about the people.

I think I've learnt to spot my true friends - it's been some hard lessons, though.

Joe

I think that we can be good judges of character, but people change and we quite often don't notice until they do something to make us realise that they have changed.

Just a thought!

Originally posted by Andy78
I think that we can be good judges of character, but people change and we quite often don't notice until they do something to make us realise that they have changed.

Just a thought!

Sad as it sounds, it can be easier to automatically distrust people until they prove that they deserve otherwise...

Originally posted by deano
My ex wifes best mate came on to me,big time,
me and my wife had some time apart, my best mate came on to her.
Don't talk to me about backstabbing mates:mad: So who is exactly the backstabber here then. ?

My friends don't backstab me. Mainly because if a so called friend has to pussy foot around with anything they not friends, just people i know.
My friends are few and far between but they are most certainly upfront and brutaly honest with me and I with them.

I haven't had a friend dump on me for a long time since i learned that.

Moon Maiden

Originally posted by Cycleracer
So who is exactly the backstabber here then. ?
Take your pick:o ex wifes mate,my mate?

Originally posted by deano
Take your pick:o ex wifes mate,my mate?

if that had happend to me i would have done a get carter on him:loopy:

Originally posted by panda79
if that had happend to me i would have done a get carter on him:loopy:
Felt like doing it:o ,he is the reason we are now divorced:mad:

Originally posted by katndee
have you ever been stabbed in the back by your mate (not literally!) or found out that your so-called friend has been talking about you behind your back?

if so what did you do about it,
or what would you do it it happened to you???

Yes, repeatedly for fun.

Stabbed em right back, when they least expected it.

(we get all our backstabbing out of the way in a controlled environment - Diplomacy, the board game)

Stab them in the back first, that way you'll never be caught off guard.

I went through my mates girlfriends like a hot knife through butter at School.

Originally posted by katndee
have you ever been stabbed in the back by your mate (not literally!) or found out that your so-called friend has been talking about you behind your back?

if so what did you do about it,
or what would you do it it happened to you???

Amazingly the back stabbing culture is everywhere....I think it has to do with people wanting to look better than someone else in order to attain a justifyable social life.

If anyone on here can honestly state that they have never made a comment about a friend whether in good or bad taste then I will eat my Hat..(rice paper) HA!

In all respect, people talk about each other because it's what they have common & it's interesting :p Why are soaps so popular? ;)

Originally posted by jessycar
In all respect, people talk about each other because it's what they have common & it's interesting :p Why are soaps so popular? ;)

Hey! You hit the nail on the head.......People are in general....Lousy backstabbing people who only think about themselves......no loyalty...no friendships...just...Me Me Me ME Me.....

SAD HUH!

Originally posted by jessycar
In all respect, people talk about each other because it's what they have common & it's interesting :p Why are soaps so popular? ;)

Soaps are popular because 18 millions people in this country are nosey star ******, who's lives are so culturally devoid and lack interest that they have to watch second rate rubbish to while away the hours until they die.

It appeals to the lowest common demoninator. I wonder how many soap watcher vote labour, there's the basis of a thesis there

Originally posted by DerekH
Hey! You hit the nail on the head.......People are in general....Lousy backstabbing people who only think about themselves......no loyalty...no friendships...just...Me Me Me ME Me.....

SAD HUH!

I wouldn't go to the extent of their being no loyalty or friendships, just that I bet at some point you've slagged a friend off when they've annoyed u & vice versa. It's only normal for you to get annoyed by someone at some point, especially if you spend a lot of time in each other presence.


Originally posted by dylan_61

Soaps are popular because 18 millions people in this country are nosey star ******, who's lives are so culturally devoid and lack interest that they have to watch second rate rubbish to while away the hours until they die. .

That's my point, we're intrigued with other people's lives thus us talking about them.

they're probably just jealous!
some people get carried away with their lies, and eventually start to believe them, and it just starts to come naturally to them.

you need to confront them, if they are supposed to be your mate they shouldn't be doing that, it'll just make them not have ANY friends and they'll soon regret it,

maybe one day these people will come to their sences, but unforunatly they might not, you should always 'watch your back' around these people and find them out when they lie,

and a bit of revenge is always a good option if they've done something really bad!!!

:mad:

That's what happened to me a 'so called mate' got off with my boyfriend and she didn't even have the guts to tell me, it was him that told me, I was steaming at the time, she said he told me you had split up, I said, didn't you think of asking me first? She didn't care anyway, she wasn't really a good mate anyway. They are still together now and that was about 3 years ago, and I and all my mates that were friends with her at the time (and that's nearly all the friends she had) have never spoken to her/him hardly (apart from embarrasing him in front of his mates since)! More fool them, I wouldn't go back out with him or be friends with her again ever.

Karma...
Live by the sword, die by the sword.
It can take time - but really terrible things tend to happen to people who've stabbed me in the back.
Trouble is - by the time Karma happens, I’ve kind of forgiven/forgotten the betrayal... and the apparent Karma seems excessive, you know, things you wouldn't wish on your worse enemy sort of stuff.

Trust is something that is earned... but friendship is hard to find so sometimes we overlook the test of time and trust. Its inevitable that we feel hurt when we're betrayed... but there are good folk out there... you have to sift through the dross to find tham...

But in the mean time you should just try to forget/forgive and never wish vengeance - it can make you feel like a jerk when something rotten does happen - even when their character might apparently bring it onto themselves, because it’s often their families that suffer too.

Some people learn from their mistakes - some don't.