my GF thinks i'm a rather huge girl because i cry at films and so on. I think shes an emotional cripple because she doesn't.

i'd like a little back up here, lads do you cry at films and if so which ones?

girls do you think less of us if we shed a tear at dumbo or something?

No. Absolutely not. If anything, I'd think more of a man who wasn't afraid to show how he's feeling.

It depends really, i've been know to watch a film and like it but not really emotionally connect and then i'll watching for a third time and be reduced to bawling my eyes out.

I find films aren't a good scale for crying as they might trigger reallife meories or not, they're totally subjective.

I don't cry much in adult life, I'm 22 now and can remember only 3 tuimes I've cried since i was 16 and all 3 were in the last year. One was my Uncle's ffuneral and the other was NUS related.

Wilf

EDIT: One was yesterday morning, it was a little happy cry which was great.

It depends really, i've been know to watch a film and like it but not really emotionally connect and then i'll watching for a third time and be reduced to bawling my eyes out.

I find films aren't a good scale for crying as they might trigger reallife meories or not, they're totally subjective.

I don't cry much in adult life, I'm 22 now and can remember only 3 tuimes I've cried since i was 16 and all 3 were in the last year.

Wilfi was like that, but i find as i get older (i'm 30) i get more emotional. indeed 'its a wonderful life' reduces me to floods of helpless tears, something i used to mock my dad for doing when i was younger

I'd feel worse about a man covering up his true emotions than I would about him crying at films.

I don't like to see men cry, its very upsetting, we all have feelings, but i think men are little stronger then us woman, if i see a man cry i am too.....

Films dont so it for me, Im not that easily manipulated. I dont cry often because I dont have reason to, plus once youve lost a loved one then it hardens you to a certain extent and that stops you crying so easily in future.

plus once youve lost a loved one then it hardens you to a certain extent and that stops you crying so easily in future.i disagree, my dad died last year and if anything i'm more emotional

i disagree, my dad died last year and if anything i'm more emotional
In my case it must have locked me down or something. Since I last cried at the death of my son in 2001 I havent shown a flicker.

In my case it must have locked me down or something. Since I last cried at the death of my son in 2001 I havent shown a flicker.really not sure how to respond to that!

really not sure how to respond to that!
Well usually I find a good old cackle suffices.

I have no problems with crying at all. Sometimes it's just the right thing to do. I've never had problems with it - my dad was quite 'up tight' about letting his feelings show, as was my mother util the last couple of years of her life, so I'm not sure where it coems from with me.

I get weepy at weird things as well as things I'm supposed to get weepy at, though.

My 'never fails to get a reaction' song is Johnny Cash's version of 'Hurt' - they once played this in the Leeds branch of Borders bookshop and I had to go in to a quiet corner and have my little cry.

Other weepy moments for me :

The last page of 'The House at Pooh Corner' where Christoper Robin is asking Pooh never to forget him.

The bit at the end of 'Blackadder Goes Forth' where they all go over the top in 'the big push'.

Various bits of the film 'Field of Dreams' - I'm assured this is very much a guy thing, as is the bit in 'Saving Private Ryan' where the 'older' Tom Hanks character is contemplating teh deaths of the young men under his command. :)

Sometimes I can watch something with no effects, but other times, if I'm feeling a bit emotional, I might get sniffly or deliberately avoid watching something. Years ago I saw the film Sommersby, and there were lots of people leaving the cinema with 'something in their eye'. :)

So doesnt anyone feel manipulated by the movie people if they cry ?

are you being serious, you cry while watching a movie LOL:loopy: :loopy:

are you being serious, you cry while watching a movie LOL:loopy: :loopy:absolutely serious. why wouldn't i?

So doesnt anyone feel manipulated by the movie people if they cry ?
No. It's possible that someone will be moved to tears by a song, a novel, a poem or a film. Just because an emotional scene is played out on the pages of a book, or on the cinema screen, doesn't lessen its impact.

Knowing that the image 'isn't real' and is the result of a cunning interaction between screenwriter, director and editor is a rational response and one which is far removed from the immediacy of the scene's impact.

Films dont so it for me, Im not that easily manipulated. I dont cry often because I dont have reason to, plus once youve lost a loved one then it hardens you to a certain extent and that stops you crying so easily in future.

Disagree - I think I became more emotional after losing loved ones. I realsied that soemtiems it's 'better out thn in' as far as emotional upsets are concerned.

I'm not sure that crying at something in a book or film or whatever is because you're manipulated; I think it's more likely to be because it's a resonance - for example, the Blackadder piece does it for me because my Grandfather just avoided dying on the Somme. The Johnny Cash song because it's all about growing old, from a man who's living that process and KNOWING that he's dying. It's resonance. Stuff designed to make me cry fails miserably.

I think it was Oscar Wilde who said it takes a strong man to read of the death of Little Nell without sniggering'. :)

Other weepy moments for me :



The bit at the end of 'Blackadder Goes Forth' where they all go over the top in 'the big push'.

Various bits of the film 'Field of Dreams' - I'm assured this is very much a guy thing, as is the bit in 'Saving Private Ryan' where the 'older' Tom Hanks character is contemplating teh deaths of the young men under his command. :)

Sometimes I can watch something with no effects, but other times, if I'm feeling a bit emotional, I might get sniffly or deliberately avoid watching something. Years ago I saw the film Sommersby, and there were lots of people leaving the cinema with 'something in their eye'. :)

All three of those made me cry... particularly the Blackadder bit but then again i'm a woman.

I don't think it's wrong for ANYONE to cry, man or woman. It's a natural reaction to stress and upset and pain.

I do think some people cry too easily and so it is difficult to see when they are real, not crocodile tears. When I cry for myself these days it rarely is a proper cry fest - I tend to cover this up and try and push through it but if it's for some fluffy bunny on a film i'll blubber with the best of them.

I've seen men cry at films.....whats wrong with a guy showing his true feelings? lots of things make me cry, so why should it be any different for a guy.....good on you dd. :)

I nearly cried when I lost the last election,bloody gutted.:)

No. It's possible that someone will be moved to tears by a song, a novel, a poem or a film. Just because an emotional scene is played out on the pages of a book, or on the cinema screen, doesn't lessen its impact.

Knowing that the image 'isn't real' and is the result of a cunning interaction between screenwriter, director and editor is a rational response and one which is far removed from the immediacy of the scene's impact.
Must be something wrong with me then.
I went to see ET with a friend, Nigel, (you might remember him if you read the Cylinder story) and he was supposed to have been a rough, tough Manchunian and he sobbed like a baby while I sympathetically cackled at him.

Must be something wrong with me then. ...
I don't know about that. You've gone through a lot which by necessity must have hardened you to a certain extent. Maybe you've simply developed an unconscious method for removing yourself from the emotional impact of a situation, as a protective mechanism. You must have had to hide some of your feelings for the sake of your son. Maybe it's become an ingrained response.

are you being serious, you cry while watching a movie LOL:loopy: :loopy:

Why ever not? Course we're being serious - hardly post it up here otherwise! :)

I laugh at films (occasionally in the wrong places), am raised to anger by them, scared by them...why shouldn't I cry if they move me?

There's nothing wrong with being able to express strong feelings. Some men seem to believe that the only emotion they should express is some form of anger....a slightly wider display of emotion might make the world a pleasanter place to live in.

Must be something wrong with me then.
I went to see ET with a friend, Nigel, (you might remember him if you read the Cylinder story) and he was supposed to have been a rough, tough Manchunian and he sobbed like a baby while I sympathetically cackled at him.et doesn't bother me. its stuff like green mile and gladiator that does me.

I think it's really good that men and women can let their emotions out over a film or a book, or whatever. It's a very healthy emotional release, and a really good cry is supposed to be very good for you.

I don't like to cry much myself, so I can really go to town over a sad film, especially anything to do with animals. "Born Free" is a biggie for me, and I can barely listen to the song "Bright Eyes" without welling up, thinking of the rabbits. Oh, and "Tarka the Otter". And the "Long Journey Home", I think it's called.

It's funny though - some films like "Ghost" leave me really quite unmoved, and 'weepie-by-numbers' films that are designed to make you cry, usually just annoy me. While any film to do with dying for honour or something courageous like that, has me in floods.

The biggest weepie of all like that is "Sommersby" - it's definitely the biggest weepie I've ever seen. I'm surprised we didn't all have to literally wade our way out of the cinema, there were so many floods of tears! Not a dry eye in the house - loads of grown men desperately blowing their noses into huge hankies at throwing-out time!

StarSparkle

I cried buckets at my Dad's funeral 40 years ago. He was 53 when he died, so young. I was 23, had a wife and new baby son, who my Dad adored. I was distraught at my Dad's loss and my own son's loss at never knowing this wonderful man.

My beloved younger brother, unprompted, nastily took pleasure in telling me 28 years later, when we were out having a drink in a pub together, that the rest of the family mourners had commented that I had cried "crocodile" tears at my Dad's funeral.

My mother died 16 years ago. I went to her funeral, but would not go back to her house, the house she shared with my brother, who lived cheaply off her and never left the home she and Dad provided for him all his life. I no longer wished to mix with the rest of the "family".

I know it would not have been my mother who uttered these things.

I have not mixed with my family since, and I have never been to a family funeral on my side of the family following that remark, including the funeral of that same younger brother a couple of years ago.

I have no intention of doing so, other than, should God forbid it is connected with my own wife, children or grandchildren. I hope I never have to cry tears for them.

The rest of my family have always thought the sun shone out of my younger brother's ar*e, and still do. They deserved him and are welcome to their delusions.

For this I am an outcast in the family......

Family's eh, who'd have 'em. :(

Admittedly, there is one thing that can get to me though, even after almost 5 years.


This (http://i71.photobucket.com/albums/i159/Doppler1/RRicHHard_small.jpg)


My Sons Pic.

But thats all. Nothing else can get to me.

not even the theme tune to the hulk?

not even the theme tune to the hulk?
Yeah... ok that gets me too, I AM human after all!:D

I don't like to see men cry, its very upsetting, we all have feelings, but i think men are little stronger then us woman, if i see a man cry i am too.....
I know what you mean there, because men cry a lot less i find it very upsetting as well, but having said that i find it reassuring to see that men have feelings too and can be "touched" by things.
Wether man or woman if i see someones eyes well up mine are not far behind, it's a bit embarrassing at times to be honest i can easily end up more upset than them :hihi: , i'm just a big softy :blush:

Admittedly, there is one thing that can get to me though, even after almost 5 years.


This (http://i71.photobucket.com/albums/i159/Doppler1/RRicHHard_small.jpg)


My Sons Pic.

But thats all. Nothing else can get to me.
What a lovely picture of a beautiful little boy, a son to be proud of :)

Yeah... ok that gets me too, I AM human after all!:D

You show the best of humanity's qualities, Jabber. I know why you posted that picture.

I have tears in my eyes at your post, for you, his mother and in respect of your memories of your child......I mean it, and I am in no way joking in case other posters on here think I may be. :sad:

Dont let the sweet smile fool you.
He was a dangerous psycho at heart!:D

He was a lovely kid, but...a chip off the old block.

heh heh

I know you asked about men crying & I'm female but I have found the older I've got the more I cry at films. I even cry at sad episodes of eastenders or casualty. Where as my fella thinks I'm crazy & isn't moved at all by sad films.
Whenever theres something slightly sad on he'll look at me now & say are you alright, then laugh.

Discodown,

Same here - ET did nothing for me.

Gladiator moves me, but doesn't necessarily make me cry. This is one of those 'What sort of mood am I in?' films that I have to be careful with! Others in this category are Shawshank Redemption, Paths of Glory and The Fisher King.

There are some scenes in films that move me more than the film itself - the bit at the end of 'El Cid' where they put the dead knight on a horse and he 'leads' the soldiers in a victorious counterattack, or the bit at the end of the Cagney film 'Angels with Dirty Faces' where Cagney goes to the electric chair pretending to be a coward to put the youths who admire him off of a life of crime. And the bit where the old man likens the gunmen to the wind at the end of The Magnificent Seven. The scene at the end of 'Whistle down the Wind ' (the film, not the 'effing musical) where Dirk Bogarde is standing as if crucified on teh top of a hill as the police arrest him.

Aw, I think it's really sweet.

most women hate a man to be all macho and gruff and I'm sure they wouldnt mind if they show emotions, I cry at Desperate Housewives and Friends for gods sake, I don't know how I could laugh at anybody! :hihi:

Shoeshine, Jabberwocky - my thoughts with both of you.

One of the great 'wrongs' that fate can pull on people is for a parent to have to bear the death of their child. :(

Shoeshine - I'm similarly estranged from my family after the death of my father - it was made clear to me that I wasn't even welcome at the funeral, and I never ever knew why.

Aw, I think it's really sweet.

most women hate a man to be all macho and gruff and I'm sure they wouldnt mind if they show emotions, I cry at Desperate Housewives and Friends for gods sake, I don't know how I could laugh at anybody! :hihi:i cry at dumbo! i'm virtually a pre pubescent girl!

Shoeshine - I'm similarly estranged from my family after the death of my father - it was made clear to me that I wasn't even welcome at the funeral, and I never ever knew why.

I may at some stage write the full account of things relevent to my particular post here on the Writing Group sometime in the future. I just don't know yet. It may be a cathartic experience for me.

As for your situation Joe, it's unforgivable to be left with the question "why?" when someone could give you deserved enlightenment and no answer is forthcoming.

Dumbo is a sad film!

As for your situation Joe, it's unforgivable to be left with the question "why?" when someone could give you deserved enlightenment and no answer is forthcoming.

Everyone deserves closure in their lives.

For someone to be in a position where they can provide that for someone else and refuse to do it, is indeed unforgiveable, unless they have an INCREDIBLY good reason not to.

StarSparkle

As for your situation Joe, it's unforgivable to be left with the question "why?" when someone could give you deserved enlightenment and no answer is forthcoming.
Everybody deserves an answer...

Shoeshine, I dunno what else to say after I read your post. My immediate thought was that, "it's very harsh", to close down emotionally from that. I can actually relate to that..as there are other things which goes on in my life, which I'm distancing myself from with rgeards to family. Though, my biggest fear is to lose them entirely, than for me to bottle this resentment to them. Maybe time will heal all.

Everyone deserves closure in their lives.

For someone to be in a position where they can provide that for someone else and refuse to do it, is indeed unforgiveable, unless they have an INCREDIBLY good reason not to.

StarSparkle

There is no excuse, ever, for refusing an explanation which may lead to the closure of a family problem for the accused.

To do so is the equivalent of committing someone to a life sentence without benefit of a just trial and not knowing the charge brought against them.

I cry fairly regularly (though obviously in a manly way) when watching emotive films or reading emotive novels and so forth, my girlfriend seems very happy with this.

By far the saddest film I’ve seen thus far is ‘Grave of the Fireflies’ I don’t think I’ve known anybody not cry when watching it.

There is no excuse, ever, for refusing an explanation which may lead to the closure of a family problem for the accused.

To do so is the equivalent of committing someone to a life sentence without benefit of a just trial and not knowing the charge brought against them.

I completely and absolutely agree with you, Shoeshine - I understand the situation completely. I said in my posting that it is unforgiveable to withhold closure from someone else without having an incredibly good reason for refusing it.

By that I mean a case where the person wanting closure has done something very, very wicked, that by doing such a terrible thing they have forfeited the right to closure. I am not in any way referring to the 'average' sort of family estrangement, where, of course, it is totally unforgiveable to refuse to allow a fellow family member closure.

People can be so unnecessarily cruel - I simply don't understand why. :confused:

StarSparkle

Everybody deserves an answer...

Shoeshine, I dunno what else to say after I read your post. My immediate thought was that, "it's very harsh", to close down emotionally from that. I can actually relate to that..as there are other things which goes on in my life, which I'm distancing myself from with rgeards to family. Though, my biggest fear is to lose them entirely, than for me to bottle this resentment to them. Maybe time will heal all.

The only funeral I will ever attend, with the exceptions mentioned in my previous post if needs be, will be that of my lovely Aunty, who is 80 if she dies before me.

I will attend the service at the back of the congregation and leave immediately afterwards, as I did at my mother's funeral.

I don't wish to be in the same room as the rest of the shower I am related too, ever.

If there is a Hell. I am sure my Mum and Dad will be on hand to plead my case with Old Nick.

I nearly cried when I lost the last election,bloody gutted.:)

You'll be more prepared next time then! ;)

:)

Why shouldn't men cry? Reading this thread reminded me of a time when I cried unashamedly. I've posted about this on an old thread, and have just looked it up. Now I'm batting back tears at this very moment in time having just re-lived that dreadful week in the lives of our family........

The phone came out of the blue at 21.30 on Saturday night. I was staying in Hull. Steven, my lad, was in hospital. He was a qualified diving instructor, and had become unwell after a routine dive that morning in a quarry in Tamworth. He'd driven himself to his local hospital, in Worcester, despite gradually losing all sensation in his hands, and on arrival his legs gave way. He had been flown by police helicopter to a decompression unit on The Wirral.

I returned home to Sheffield immediately, where I waited for the hospital to ring me. The call came at 03.40. The doctor explained that Steven had not responded to treatment, and was being transferred to another hospital for scans. I asked what was wrong. The doctor said he was paralysed from the waist down, and both his arms were also paralysed.

I drove through the night, (taking a long detour as Snake Pass was closed, due to heavy snow). I got to the hospital at 07.30 -only to find Steven was now being transferred to a neurological hospital in Liverpool for more tests & scans. Although he was recovering some movement in his hands, his legs were dead. At 17.30, the consultant confimed he had the bends, and Steven was immediately taken back to the decompression unit. He stayed in the unit until midnight. No change in his condition.

The doctors explained to us all, and Steven, that this is how he now was. They would continue with daily decomprsssion and intensive phsysiotherapy, but said that as he had made no recovery in his legs, we must not build up our hopes that he would ever walk again. He was a month off his 23rd. birthday.

Decompression continued in the morning, and as he was taken in a wheelchair for his first physio session, he cheerily said to the nurse "You've got until Friday to get me out of this wheelchair, and then I'm racing you round the block - and watch me win". Such optimism. Such hope. He had only recovered the use of his arms and hands. The medics prepared us for the worst - we must expect that our lad would never walk again. There had been no change in his legs for over 48 hours, and for any hope of recovery the norm was under 24 hours. We had to be brave for Steven though, as he never stopped smiling, never stopped joking and laughing, and kept talking to his legs, telling them to stop being stupid and to get a move on - he had a race to win on Friday.

The days passed without any change in his condition. The treatment continued relentlessly. All afternoon and evening, Steven practised his physio routines. Then, on the Wednesday night, he noticed he could wiggle the toes on one foot. Thursday came. He could stand holding a zimmer, but could not move, but he wiggled his toes and laughed aloud that he was on his way to winning the race.....tomorrow.

He came out of decompression on Friday morning, when he was again propped up on a zimmer, and he announced it was time for his race. The nursing staff took away the zimmer. He stood unaided, but motionless, constantly grinning. The nurses stood in front and behind him. "Come on then" said the nurse in front of him, "walk towards me - we'll catch you if you fall". He carried on grinning. "My legs won't listen to me" he said. "Tell the legs to walk" said the nurse. More grinning. "They won't move - but I'm supposed to be in race today". "How about walking before you run" said the nurse, adding, with urgency in his voice "Now bloody well walk towards me, and do it now!". "Ok" said Steven, and made a faltering step. Then another. And another. And continued doing it, laughing and grinning as he wobbled all over the place.

Where did his strength of conviction come from that he would be walking (if not running) by Friday? When all the odds were stacked against him - when the doctors had told us that unless he showed some recovery within 24-48 hours, there was almost no hope he would ever walk again? Steven had never faltered in his belief that he would be out of the wheelchair by Friday. He had constantly smiled, grinned, joked, laughed and bantered throughout. Never despaired, never allowed a thought in his head that all would not be alright by Friday.

After a couple of dozen steps, he fell, but was caught. Lifted back into the wheelchair, they wheeled him away to remove the cathater. When he was wheeled back, he grinned that grin of his at me, as tears poured down my face. "Dad - I told the nurse she'd only got until today to get me out of this wheelchair, but would you go and tell her the race around the block is postponed until next Friday, as I need to train a bit more".

Incredibly, Steven was discharged the following Friday - and he walked out of the hospital.

Why shouldn't men cry? Reading this thread reminded me of a time when I cried unashamedly. I've posted about this on an old thread, and have just looked it up. Now I'm batting back tears at this very moment in time having just re-lived that dreadful week in the lives of our family........
Oooh, that's a tear jerker, red. So glad it had a happy ending.

my GF thinks i'm a rather huge girl because i cry at films and so on. I think shes an emotional cripple because she doesn't.

i'd like a little back up here, lads do you cry at films and if so which ones?

girls do you think less of us if we shed a tear at dumbo or something?

Dont be ashamed mate!!
I cry quite openly at many different things- I never used to until the birth of my daughter many moons ago and it was as if my emotion switch got flicked into overdrive :)

I cant watch The Green Mile or Jack & Sarah now without blubbing away- but its go for you to have that release now and again rather than keep it hidden away.

Its good for the soul mate :hihi:

Dont be ashamed mate!!
I cry quite openly at many different things- I never used to until the birth of my daughter many moons ago and it was as if my emotion switch got flicked into overdrive :)

I cant watch The Green Mile or Jack & Sarah now without blubbing away- but its go for you to have that release now and again rather than keep it hidden away.

Its good for the soul mate :hihi:i'm not ashamed, its most definitely a good thing. its quite a tension reliever.

sadly though i can't watch the green mile for fear i may dehydrate through crying!

i'm not ashamed, its most definitely a good thing. its quite a tension reliever.

sadly though i can't watch the green mile for fear i may dehydrate through crying!

We should start our own 'films that make you blub thread' warning other blokes of such films as the green mile and give them blubbing ratings out of 5 so that other blokes can make up their minds whether to watch them or not :hihi:

We should start our own 'films that make you blub thread' warning other blokes of such films as the green mile and give them blubbing ratings out of 5 so that other blokes can make up their minds whether to watch them or not :hihi:green mile
scrooged
dumbo
its a wonderful life
the list goes on and on...

To answer the OP very honestly, and openly... to me, it depends. It depends on the situation, who it is, and their relationship to me.

I used to think that if a guy is more girly than me, I just can't bear to date them. Cos I'd feel I'll be mothering them, y'know ?

Then again, I have seen a guy cried in front of me. I'm sure they didn't want to, but the situation that surrounded us at the time was one that was emotionally charged, and I really respected that guy for being so honest, and open about it. I was very overwhelmed by it. It's made me think that, we shouldn't hold back our emotions. Basically, it was a cry of friendship, I think.

However, I guess within the context of how socially others see us, and how our closed ones see us. I would not mind people that are close to me, see me cry. Cos crying, is also a personal thing. Though, I don't think I can, (and this I do try), to cry so openly socially, especially when it's with people I don't particularly feel close to.

I once cried at work, and I wish I didn't. I had to go elsewhere, and sort myself out, and bring myself back into the situation, cos it was too much to bare. It was more of an anguish cry, than an emotional-sentimental cry. I didn't want to get too angry, cos I don't want to emotionally close down too. Otherwise people close to me would also get the brunt of it.

By far the saddest film I’ve seen thus far is ‘Grave of the Fireflies’ I don’t think I’ve known anybody not cry when watching it.
Yes, that is a really well made animation. Even though, to some, it may be said to be 'just a cartoon', but it's sentiments are strong.

I remember having this on the tv once, and my grandma was there, and she sobbed her eyes out ! >.< It just made me wanna hug her... I didn't know whether it reminded her of something she went through too when she was that kind of age.

:hihi: We should start our own 'films that make you blub thread' warning other blokes of such films as the green mile and give them blubbing ratings out of 5 so that other blokes can make up their minds whether to watch them or not :hihi:

No matter how many times I watch 'Schindler's List', I always cry.

Poetry can also get me crying, e.g., "The Abortion" (Anne Sexton), 'Futility' (Wilfred Owen), 'Death Of A Son' (Jon Silkin).

Although not religious, there are a couple of hymns that make me cry, i.e., 'My Song Is Love Unknown', and especially 'Abide With Me' - when sung at a funeral.

I often cry buckets most Saturday nights.....when once more I discover I've not won the Big Lottery! :rolleyes: :hihi:

Yes, that is a really well made animation. Even though, to some, it may be said to be 'just a cartoon', but it's sentiments are strong.

I remember having this on the tv once, and my grandma was there, and she sobbed her eyes out ! >.< It just made me wanna hug her... I didn't know whether it reminded her of something she went through too when she was that kind of age.
If anybody attempts to mock me for being a fan of anime, saying that ‘cartoons are just for kids’ or whatever, I simply make them watch 'Grave of the Fireflies'.

After they've been reduced to tears by what has to be one of the most powerful films ever they find it much harder to disrespect animated films.

edit: for your Grandma's sake I hope it was the raw power of the film rather than any similarity to her own experiences that upset her.

Poetry can also get me crying, e.g., "The Abortion" (Anne Sexton)


Oh bloody hell, I had to punish myself and google it and now I'm blubbering like a baby :(

Think it's time for me to go to bed.

xxx

I’m very sensitive emotionally, but I find it hard to ‘let go’ and cry. If a film gets me going, I tend to cross my legs, then my arms, sniff and gulp and fidget, sitting there all hunched up and resisting.

The only occasions when I really let go were:

At the birth of my son last year – after he was delivered he was immediately placed on Longshanks (Mrs Ds) tummy.
We both instinctively said ‘hello’ and started crying – except I was making more noise than ‘shanks – I was crying and sobbing :blush:

The other time was after a long and protracted house/chain/moving situation after moving to an area we never should have, whilst trying to get back to where we had come from.
The Solicotor called Friday at 4:55 and said ‘the house is yours, you've exchanged contracts’ :clap:

I took the dog for a walk and cried most of the way, in the street :blush:
And cried for about an hour after getting home, tears streaming - so very unlike me :confused:

Longshanks said 'are you sure you want to go out tonight'

:roll: too true! Beer and a celebration :)

I still crack up when I see a photo of my doggy who died in May last year, and whenever I think of him. I still cannot get over his death and I find myself in floods of tears a couple of times a week, more or less whenever I think of him.

Redrobbo, what you wrote about what happened to your son brought tears to my eyes. So glad it had a happy ending.



I think its good for men to cry, like others have said, why shouldn't men cry? they are human with feelings too. Nothing to be ashamed of.

i cry at films.

Watch "the Notebook"....if you DONT cry at that....you are officially dead inside....

What about "Million Dollar Baby", i was a completely emotional wreck for a couple of hours after watching and we went to the cinema, everytime i thought about i sobbed, really sobbed, my bf was quite concerned i think!