What traits in a partner would you find impossible to live with?

For me it would have to be somebody who was uncommunicative. I just couldn't live with a person who sulks. If I have done something to hurt or upset AN other I need to know so that I can explain myself or say sorry. Silent treatment .... no thanks.

Any relationship where a partner bottled things up wouldn't last two minutes for me.

I have to let go. I tell my wife everything. I laugh, cry... I don't care.

The only time I could ever lie would be when I didn't want to tell the truth.

my ex-husband......oh no that me being bitter and twisted again init :D

Moon

if the guy was lazy, a slob, uncommunicative, not interested in his kids.......oh, hang on, thats why i just dumped my partner!!!!!!!

men:rolleyes: :loopy:

sue:D :D

At the moment, I think I would live with anyone.

I have to agree with you mo. Someone who doesn't communicate their feelings. I have to know what people are thinking and why they're upset to understand them. The same with friends, i can't get close to someone who keeps everything in, because you will never understand them or know how to deal with them.

Campness, stupidity and obesity

I couldn't live with someone who was like me... what a nightmare!

My ex partner lived on a completely different planet, one where it was ok to cheat on your partner, be abusive rahrahrah
that got impossible to live with, oh and he spent loads on JPG perfumes (what a girl!) but he still smelt bad most of the time, I think it was the rotting stink of his soul.

I woul'd not want to live with someone who did not like to travel and enjoy life,that to me woul'd be SO boring.
And I have to agree with spook lol
Oh and Sidla are you available lol,only joking dear.

I could live with just about anyone, especially if she was drop dead gorgeous and it was only a 1 bedroom place ;)

Yeah yeah, one track mind... But hey, I'm a bloke, it's what we do.

Originally posted by Rich
I could live with just about anyone, especially if she was drop dead gorgeous and it was only a 1 bedroom place ;)

Yeah yeah, one track mind... But hey, I'm a bloke, it's what we do.

Heh heh you pervy begger! :D

Actually gimme a man with dreads and I'd be saying the exact same thing!

Hmm a guy who always asks for sex would be a definate no-no. Also someone who always has to have your attention too. Plus a lack of confidence is a turn off. But then again so is a gobby lout ...

God Rusted Root sounds like you might be in for a long wait lol

Treachery, stabbing me in the back, siding with other people against me, all the time.

Loyalty in any relationship is paramount, anything less is a waste of time and effort.

As soon as my partner starts with the treachery, I don't want to k now them any more.

What is the point of staying with someone who is betraying you? and making you a laughing stock, contradicting.

Sneering, insulting, showing you up in front of friends, neighbours, when socialising, in shops, on holiday.

Watchineverything you do, asking in a loud voice when others are there, do you want to go to the toilet?

These people are too thick to know they are stupid and if you dare to tell them to shut up, there is a furious row. Thanks, but no thanks!!!

a bit of bitterness over ex's coming out here. You have to ask yourself why you ended up with them in the first place?

someone stupid would put me right off or bigotted or undereducated.

Things I don't like - No sense of humour, jealousy, racism, intolerance.

I was once shocked to be confronted by an ex's family get together where they were launching into tirade after tirade of pseudo Alf Garnett racist ramblings...until my EX said "oh...I just remembered...you can't slag off ***** in front of Sean, he likes them!" The whole family laughed and treated me as if I was crazy.

Sigh. We parted company nano-seconds after ;)

Hmm.. noted the number of bitter ladies in this one... BUT before I get stoned to death, duly noted it sounds like you had a lot of good reasons..

For me... hmm.. dishonesty, totally lack of communication skills (How I hate the whole ESP thing... Arrgggghhh! :mad: ) and an inability to step back, take deep breaths and laugh at yourself once in a while...

Actually to tell truth I found myself thinking of all the things I'd want.. weird that.. until now I couldn't have told you :D

I couldn't live with anyone who couldn't see both sides of the spectrum. If there's only one way to go about things and its their way, then they've got to go. There has to be a certain ammount of compromise in any relationship, whether its the relationships you have with your mates, or the intimate ones... But without compromise and give and take, it'd be awfully difficult for me to live with someone.

Nice to see all the girls again. I have a belief the the girls or women in Sheffield are the most warm hearted anywhere in Europe.

PM me if you want but dont tell Ilaria.

Originally posted by Hadron
snip nice incite to find and stone me to death type comment
... I feel sure none of the ladies here would feel inclined to let you mess with them either..

Ok, now then, where were we... :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Hadron
Nice to see the girls moaning again, just to make a change. I have a belief the the girls or women in Sheffield are the most cold hearted anywhere in Europe.

You wouldn't get me messing around with any of these witches

Well I for one am very warm hearted and I'm sure all the other forum ladies are too!

The most impossible trait for me to live with in a relationship has to be the "whatever" / "yes dear" syndrome.

Womany question - are northern men better / different to southern men. From my own humble point of view I have to say woo and yay for northern men, my husband is a geordie and is a million times better person than any of the southern girlie men i went out with. A lot of men down south seem to have a problem with being real men, then again i always picked really lousy boyfriends, my actual male friends were of course very cool!

Originally posted by elf
I have to say woo and yay for northern men

woo and yay - hmm do you read www.b3ta.com? ;)

yeh i could probably live with just about anyone, well i thought anyways untill my x started keeping me under lock and key!!! Wasnt good!!!

Originally posted by Hadron
Nice to see the girls moaning again, just to make a change. I have a belief the the girls or women in Sheffield are the most cold hearted anywhere in Europe.

You wouldn't get me messing around with any of these witches


Never been to Doncaster then? :D

I couldn't handle being with a guy who has no idea how to pick up after himself, cook a meal or do house work. I had two kids and have no desire to get myself another one.
By the way, I do take care of all those things in the home but I also know my husband is quite capable of taking care of himself,
and me if need be.

I am a Southern girl who has just moved North and i would say that what i have seen of Northern men is very refreshing... Southern people dont give you the time of day whereas i am finding Northern people do... maybe i have been lucky? Who knows!?

I was once with a guy who needed mothering... I cant be doing with that again lol I like a man who can look after himself and me should i ever feel i need looking after... lol

Originally posted by Hadron
Nice to see the girls moaning again, just to make a change. I have a belief the the girls or women in Sheffield are the most cold hearted anywhere in Europe.

You wouldn't get me messing around with any of these witches

It's a good job that you'd not get a look-in with me, then.........

Coz I don't get mad, I get even..............

P "cold hearts look positively hot compared to me!" T

I cant be doing with guys who think they are God's gift to womenkind... the kind with the big superiority complex and the little brain.
Also the selfish types where you do whatever they want to do and do it peacefully but when you want to do something different they tag along sulking dropping in a few patronising remarks about your choice of night out and making occasional digs at your friends...
Compromise is the key my dears :D

Originally posted by beckb
Well I for one am very warm hearted and I'm sure all the other forum ladies are too!

The most impossible trait for me to live with in a relationship has to be the "whatever" / "yes dear" syndrome.

I spent three weeks on holiday with a couple like that. I can see why you can't live with it aswell Beckb:o Every day for three weeks it took nearly an hour just to decide where to go for breakfast:loopy:, little trivial things like that all the way through. Needless to say I was on my own in minutes doing my own thing.

This has to be the one thing I would never be able to live with in a relationship.

Originally posted by Angel05
I am a Southern girl who has just moved North and i would say that what i have seen of Northern men is very refreshing... Southern people dont give you the time of day whereas i am finding Northern people do... maybe i have been lucky? Who knows!?

I was once with a guy who needed mothering... I cant be doing with that again lol I like a man who can look after himself and me should i ever feel i need looking after... lol

Nice to find someone who likes the northern men:P

I have been with someone who who wanted looking after nearly 24/7. Now I can look after myself just, with a bit of effort. But to do that again with someone else on your back....no thanks.

i wouldnt be able to live with anyone who treats us women nice at first then like dirt,i,ve been with 6 guys they all treated me like dirt and just used me for one night stands im now seeing someone who i,ve been with for 7mnths and things were great at first then they went down hill when his ex wife found out bout us through one of hes kids told her.


then i had problems with trusting him, and started tyo hassle him he got fed up and started talking to a girl on internet even got her number and should of met her in rotherham but instead he and i made up now its great im trusting him more and letting him do his own things.

opposites attract, but my philosophy would be .allways tell it the way it is....if your upset let me know........if you dont agree explain why.....dont goto bed not smiling or talking...never in front of the kids.. say"i love you" before leaving the house...it helps

Originally posted by ilaria
i wouldnt be able to live with anyone who treats us women nice at first then like dirt,i,ve been with 6 guys they all treated me like dirt and just used me for one night stands im now seeing someone who i,ve been with for 7mnths and things were great at first then they went down hill when his ex wife found out bout us through one of hes kids told her.


then i had problems with trusting him, and started tyo hassle him he got fed up and started talking to a girl on internet even got her number and should of met her in rotherham but instead he and i made up now its great im trusting him more and letting him do his own things.

Sounds like you ought to stop picking that wound.

Originally posted by Xtro
woo and yay - hmm do you read www.b3ta.com? ;)

I do but haven't read it for ages - you've reminded to look at it ;)

Alex

Originally posted by Rich
I could live with just about anyone, especially if she was drop dead gorgeous and it was only a 1 bedroom place ;)

Yeah yeah, one track mind... But hey, I'm a bloke, it's what we do.

You failed to mention the fact she's got really bad breath, she does loud bottom burps, she snores, she swears like a trucker and she's as rampant as a rabbit but not with you
Basically though if you 'love' the person you'll put up with anything how ever horrendous or damaging to yourself

Originally posted by Rusted Root

Hmm a guy who always asks for sex would be a definate no-no. Also someone who always has to have your attention too. Plus a lack of confidence is a turn off. But then again so is a gobby lout ...
Ey up, RR - is your avatar doing what I think he's doing?:o :D :o

An uncomummunicative drunken slob who only thinks about work and drink and little else.
Failing that an untidy male chauvenist pig who thinks women were put on this earth to run around after men!:clap:

Originally posted by ilaria
i wouldnt be able to live with anyone who treats us women nice at first then like dirt,i,ve been with 6 guys they all treated me like dirt and just used me for one night stands im now seeing someone who i,ve been with for 7mnths and things were great at first then they went down hill when his ex wife found out bout us through one of hes kids told her.


then i had problems with trusting him, and started tyo hassle him he got fed up and started talking to a girl on internet even got her number and should of met her in rotherham but instead he and i made up now its great im trusting him more and letting him do his own things.

So that'll mean your trusting him to be with his mates when he's actually with Rotherham girl then?

Please don't fall for that old trick. Dump him before you get really hurt. This subject I know plenty about!

I am a firm believer in fidelity. I have been out with a couple of blokes who were "love rats" (as the sun type rags describe them) and I think that what they did was lower than the belly of a snake. (to be truthful) and theey went out of the window, quicker than you can say "Jack Robinson!".

What's the saying?

"when a Mistress marries her lover, she creates a vacancy?"

If the person you are with, was cheating on his/ her partner, with you, what are the odds that they will fairly soon be cheating on you with someone else? Qiute high. in fact it's often a "dead-cert".

I had a relationship with a bloke, who assured me that he was split up from his partner. Very shortly, his lies were found out, and I discovered that he was still living with this woman, and stilll in the relationship. I was fuming, and wanted nothing more to do with the louse.

The next time he turned up, unannounced, on my doorstep, I could see his shadow through the frosted glass in my door. I thought to myself "aye-aye, what's his game, then?"

So I simply played it "daft" and put the chain on the door before opening.
I thought "If you think you are puting a foot over my doorstep, you are mistaken!"

He was saying, quite casually, "Oh, I was just passing, and I thought I'd call in and see how you were..."

I could't believe the gall of the low-lifed so-and-so.

I undid the chain, and opened the door, in order that he could see me, and I said

"here you are, you can see me, and you can see that I am perfectly well, thankyou....

"you said that you were passing?

well, tell you what..... do me a favour...

KEEP PASSING!!"

Slam!! The door was shut, firmly, in his face!

(cue the pathetic, plaintive shouts from "it" through the letterbox "Plain! Aww, Plain, open the door! Plain! Come on!" But, sod that for a game of soldiers! he was not getting past my door!!)

I give my partner 100% fidelity, and I expect nothing less in return.

PT