Seeing all the threads on babies and kids, nappies and birthday parties, birth announcements and cries for help, I got to wondering if one of the groups in Sheffield Groups should be a Parent and Child group...though frankly there has to be a better name - I used to be a devoted member of the Bad Mother's Club, for instance.

Anyway, I put this suggestion forward to our lovely mods a few weeks ago (not a criticism!) and as I realise it takes some tme to set these things up, and it's quite difficult, I presume they need to know it's worth it. So...would anyone else be interested in this?

And if so, can you please think up a better name, lol? All suggestions welcome...

Seeing all the threads on babies and kids, nappies and birthday parties, birth announcements and cries for help, I got to wondering if one of the groups in Sheffield Groups should be a Parent and Child group...though frankly there has to be a better name - I used to be a devoted member of the Bad Mother's Club, for instance.

Anyway, I put this suggestion forward to our lovely mods a few weeks ago (not a criticism!) and as I realise it takes some tme to set these things up, and it's quite difficult, I presume they need to know it's worth it. So...would anyone else be interested in this?

And if so, can you please think up a better name, lol? All suggestions welcome...

I would - was thinking about something similar myself.

LisaH xxx

Hows about - parents paradise - a place to hide from the kids and find out you are actually quite a good parent and stop beating yourself over the head thinking you are doing something wrong and your child is suffering as a result. :P

Good idea though. A place for all child related issues be they 18mths or 18yrs.

Oh good, I'm not alone, lol.
Thing is, I didn't want to concentrate on the parental thing - what about parents-to-be and carers? Dear lord, I'm getting far too pc in my old age. And there was I raving about the Bad Mother's Club. But I think it should have that same feel - like you said, Fox, that it's a place to go and not be judged but be able to admit and laugh over your mistakes, get sound, guilt-free advice from other parents, and generally escape, enjoy, and enquire...

Parents Paradise...yeah, that could work...

Parents Paradise...yeah, that could work...

Get onto the Mods then cosy :) It would be nice to have a group where the non parentals wont go to slate us for not raising our offspring according to their personal preferences. :)

I did get onto the mods some time ago now...but I realise it takes quite a while, so I'm not planning on bothering them again for a while. We'll see how this goes, and if there's loads of interest and still no word from them, I'll give them a friendly reminder.

You're right - we'll have to make sure it's a non-judgemental place as far as possible.
I'll never forget finally admitting some accidents that happened when cosycub was tiny that I had felt soooo terrible about. I posted them on the BMC half expecting a slating, and was hugely relieved - and giggling my head off - when loads of other people posted right back about their stupid mistakes and hysterical accidents. Not one person said a nasty thing because they all recognised how hard it is to be a parent (especially a new one) and how easy it is to get it wrong and then flog yourself over the guilt instead of learning and laughing and forgiving yourself.

I'm also interested in providing a place for parents who find it isn't quite what they thought to be able to be open and honest about their experiences without people calling them freaks or ostracising them. I desperatly wanted the cosycub, he was planned and waited for impatiently. And then along came post-birth trauma, possible PND, definitely hormones, and a sudden realisation that life as I had known it was gone forever...I needed a place to be able to admit I wasn't actually all that impressed with the whole thing freely, and get support from other people's experiences.

And of course, where else should you go to learn how to make peanut butter playdough???

How have we ever survived without a parents group on here??? LOL.

Oooo I feel a thread coming on.. watch this space :hihi:

as a parent to be I would love to see this as a group, I have lots of questions and also have lots of good advice for those preparing ....although some of the stuff may be better coming from my wife :)

Get onto the Mods then cosy :) It would be nice to have a group where the non parentals wont go to slate us for not raising our offspring according to their personal preferences. :)

How does that work? I thought that groups' posts appear on the forum like everyone elses?

It would be a good idea though. My preferred title would be 'Sunshine & Sh*t", but each to their own.

How does that work? I thought that groups' posts appear on the forum like everyone elses?

It would be a good idea though. My preferred title would be 'Sunshine & Sh*t", but each to their own.

Well I look at the new posts section and not being a knitter ;) I disregard the kitting groups posts, so it could work.

Plus, of course, it's down to the people who use the group to supply support to others and dissuade non-constructive criticism. I don't think it should be a members-only thing, and will mostly be self-weeding. People who dislike children won't go there, and people who feel very judgemental about others will be able to say their piece and either be agreed with, refuted or ignored. It's about the culture you grow with your introduction and your posts.

Cosy, I'm already on it! Would like a co-mod though, how about it?

pretty please smelly cheese can we have a parenting group :D

Zebra's on the case, and has kindly asked me to co-mod. Thank you, Zebra, good work, and yes I'd be pleased to accept.

Hoorah!

OK....well, if someone wants to float it up to the Helpdesk, we'll nudge it in Geoff's direction and he'll take it from there.

Sounds good to me, though!

:)

Joe, I believe we've both put this idea forward to the powers that be (separately). So do we need to go through the process again?

Okay, we're on it.

Could still use some good name ideas, tho, unless you have one, Zebra?

So far:
Parent's Paradise
Parent and Children Group

Let me go and take a look tonight and I'll draw it all together. :)

I'll also point geoff at this thread as well.

Let me go and take a look tonight and I'll draw it all together. :)

I'll also point geoff at this thread as well.


Thank you! Yippeee!

HOw about...

Sheffield Bumps, Babies and Little Monsters

Down-to-earth, good-humoured chat and advice for parents and carers with kids of all ages....

Jellytots? (also the name of a drop in coffee/social/playgroup I'm trying to open in the city centre for parents/carers and their charges).
Little Livewires?
I like Sheffield Bumps, Babies and Little Monsters/Angels!
Not too fussy what it's called so long as we have one.
Geoff did send me a message a couple of days ago in response to a reminder from me about having such a group and asked who else would mod it y'see.
I've also mentioned this thread in yet another response to Geoff so I'm guessing he will be overwhelmed :D
Roll on!

hows about it being called dirty bums and stressed mums lol cack i know but made me chuckle :P

Good idea though. A place for all child related issues be they 18mths or 18yrs.

Err, why the age limit? As a parent myself, I wouldn't mind a bit of advice and guidance from time to time ...... even though Suprasteve is now 28! :hihi:

sounds good to me :thumbsup:

hows about it being called dirty bums and stressed mums lol cack i know but made me chuckle :P
Hehe, that's funny. It would be a goer for me but it doesn't encapsulate fathers as well sadly!
Good one though.

Hehe, that's funny. It would be a goer for me but it doesn't encapsulate fathers as well sadly!
Good one though.
yeh i never thought of that and carers too :)

Would people who are trying to conceive be welcome too?? :wink:

how about from pregnancy upwards? that way any questions pregnant women may have - they can benefit from everyone elses experiences.

The reason I suggested Bumps, Babies and Little Monsters is because it encompasses all kiddy stuff without the problem with mentioning parents/carers, etc. Also, Redrobbo may be able to confirm this - but I'm pretty sure parents with grown up kids still think of them as little monsters, lol. My mum seems to, at least...

Plus I don't see why there wouldn't be a thread for TTC as well.

What do you think, Zebra?

Yep, all sounds good to me. I think TTC (trying to conceive) is important too.
I don;t see the harm in keping it open to all kids/parenting stuff, I'm sure the majority of interest will be the families with little ones but the range will be open.
Just waiting to hear back from Geoff or Joe to see where and when.

Brilliant idea Zebra and Cosywolf.

It would be great to share the highs and lows and everything in-between.

Hels x

Tots,Tearaways,Teddies,Tears & Tickles!

Or "From here to Maternity....and a bit more!"



Great idea, and good to see Zebra also considering us dads!

Jim:thumbsup:

Err, why the age limit? As a parent myself, I wouldn't mind a bit of advice and guidance from time to time ...... even though Suprasteve is now 28! :hihi:

If you need advice on how to put suprasteve across your knee Red we welcome you with open arms. ;)

hi, i only just joined the forums yesterday, but i'd be interested in the parent group stuff :) sounds good

I think we're just waiting for Admin to sort things out...watch this space.

Yeah, any day now!

id join the club:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

Here we are:
http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?t=132527