I've dropped my wife of down town tonight as she is meeting a couple of friends for a meal and a rink. The thing is, I cant take my mind off worrying about her. You here of so many awful things happening and I cant seem to settle.

all her friends arevery sensible and look out for each other, but that doesn't help.....

I've dropped my wife of down town tonight as she is meeting a couple of friends for a meal and a rink. The thing is, I cant take my mind off worrying about her. You here of so many awful things happening and I cant seem to settle.

all her friends arevery sensible and look out for each other, but that doesn't help.....


Where did you drop her off ?

Well, it's good to be concerned about your loved ones; it's natural. It's oly when it gets excessive that it can be problematic.

Sheffield on a Saturday night isn't Baghdad or South Central Los Angeles.

Look at things logically - she's with friends, at least one of them (I'd expect) will have a cell phone. There are plenty of taxis around until quite late. I'm sure that she'll be fine.

Excuse me for asking, but in your heart are you concerned about her safety of her behaviour?

Near vodka revoulution. I saw her meet her friends and had a couple of texts through the night,still cant relax though.

Excuse me for asking, but in your heart are you concerned about her safety of her behaviour?

No, thats one thing I am confidant of, and her frineds aren't into pulling men either, so at least thats one worry gone.

Well, it's good to be concerned about your loved ones; it's natural. It's oly when it gets excessive that it can be problematic.

Sheffield on a Saturday night isn't Baghdad or South Central Los Angeles.

Look at things logically - she's with friends, at least one of them (I'd expect) will have a cell phone. There are plenty of taxis around until quite late. I'm sure that she'll be fine.

Excuse me for asking, but in your heart are you concerned about her safety of her behaviour?


Cell phone ? Moby:D

Youre going to spend all night whittling for nothing.
Been there, done that, bought the kalms.
nothing will happen.

I think you could really do with cutting yourself some slack for caring. It's OK to worry about people you love, what will make you ill is the worrying about the worrying.

It might not help you tonight, but for next time (and if you love her and want her to be happy and have a nice time with her friends there WILL be a next time) how about organising something nice for yourself too, that will take your mind off the fact that she's out? Anything that will absorb your full attention- from decorating to going bowling, it doesn't really matter what, as long as it distracts you.

Then maybe follow that up with a reward for yourself for not panicking too much- that way you will begin to associate your wife going out and having a good time with you having a pleasant time too, not with you being distressed and fretful.

I'm sure she wouldn't take unnecessary risks, and as Joe already said, Sheffield's not exactly downtown Beirut, so anything that gets you through is a valid coping strategy.

it's really nice you care about her!! i can go into town and my fiance donesn't care at all - won't reply to my texts or anything. he will also dissapear off (although he hasn't done it for a while now) straight after work appearing home at 1 in morning with no text/ call to tell me where he is or when he'll be home. won't answer my texts or calls to him either. and on one occasion he has said he'll be home at 10 - turned up at 4 in morning!! i'd even rung his mum to see if she'd heard from him - i was worried sick and he didn't even care!!!

Thanks for that Medusa. I've always been a worrier, and I do realise that a lot of what we hear about is rare, thats why it makes the headlines, but I do find myself worrying. The idea about keeping myself occupied is a good one. I've tried watching a film tonight, but couldn't get into it.

This is your wife, not your teenage daughter - didn't she ever go out with her friends before you two were married? I'm sure as an adult she's quite capable of looking after herself.

I know we read about drinks spiking in clubs and pubs but I'm sure they'll all be looking out for one another. It's probably just a bit of jealousy you're manifesting that she might be enjoying herself without you. Chill!

You sound just like Peter Griffin, go see a counceller or take some advice from the dog! :hihi:

Well its the day after the night before now....So we should learn soon if his worries were founded or not.
ill say they werent.

id be more worried about the way u spelt STUPID

:huh:

id be more worried about the way u spelt STUPID

:huh:

I'd be more worried about how you spelt 'you'........touche! (and i'd, just to be more pedantic)

I'd be more worried about how you spelt 'you'........touche! (and i'd, just to be more pedantic)


:huh: at least its been edited now :hihi:

looks like im (i'm even), off my head.:suspect:

:huh: at least its been edited now :hihi:

looks like im (i'm even), off my head.:suspect:

I'm..tut tut ;)

it's really nice you care about her!! i can go into town and my fiance donesn't care at all - won't reply to my texts or anything. he will also dissapear off (although he hasn't done it for a while now) straight after work appearing home at 1 in morning with no text/ call to tell me where he is or when he'll be home. won't answer my texts or calls to him either. and on one occasion he has said he'll be home at 10 - turned up at 4 in morning!! i'd even rung his mum to see if she'd heard from him - i was worried sick and he didn't even care!!!

and you've agreed to marry someone who behaves like that.:huh:

I'm..tut tut ;)


:hihi: :rolleyes: :hihi:

Dont worry about anything, your wife is fine with me in town any1

**** ME she is a grown woman (I take it) and not sum plant u have been growin in a pot for yrs!!!!!! lol

Kids of 13 go out on a night - I would be seriosuly angry with you If I was your wife for sayin this - dont u go out yourself luv??

I've dropped my wife of down town tonight as she is meeting a couple of friends for a meal and a rink. The thing is, I cant take my mind off worrying about her. You here of so many awful things happening and I cant seem to settle.

all her friends arevery sensible and look out for each other, but that doesn't help.....

I hear that white slave traders are in Sheffield tonight looking for unsuspecting women to pick up and ship out to Morocan harems.

I saw Papa Lazarou heading down West St last night witha load of women in a cage - he was shouting "You're my wife now!"

It's sweet that you care but it's also way over the top!
When I am in realtionships I go out seperately from them ALL the time as they do too. Maybe it's different when you are married but I can't see how.
Do you just stay in together allllllllllllllll the time or something? I have lost many friends to marriage and it does my nut in - life doesn't stop when you get married you know.

Near vodka revoulution. I saw her meet her friends and had a couple of texts through the night,still cant relax though.
get over it she will be fine

get over it she will be fine

Actually, if she's still out there, i'd be a bit worried, it's been 5 days since the OP afterall.

**** ME she is a grown woman (I take it) and not sum plant u have been growin in a pot for yrs!!!!!! lol

Kids of 13 go out on a night - I would be seriosuly angry with you If I was your wife for sayin this - dont u go out yourself luv??


Bit harsh. But I deffo agree with you.

:)
I think it's "sweet".
Just don't let it become a 'nag' by letting her know...
We womenfolk can sense the difference between caring, and controlling. They come from different areas of the heart.

My ex once worried about me on a train. I didn't get why at the time when he txtd me and everything, but I learn later that he genuinely cared for me. He thought I'd be squished like people in the tube in London. Whereas I was on a train, and had room to stand. (Not the same really.) Actually, I told him off at the time ! lol... Cos it was rather patronising what he txt to me at the time. It baffled me somewhat. I asked him later, and I understood.

If you're uncertain about what it is like out there for your wife. Why don't you ask her about her night, and find out where she went was safe or not ? i.e. any fighting, or dodgy people about etc ? That will set your mind at least, and you'll let her know that u care for her so.