If you dont trust your partner because of past events would you consider relationship counselling to help build your relationship back up if you really loved them???

I suppose if you really loved them you would consider anything that could make the relationship work.

I think it would depend how old i was. Being 25 now I probably wouldn't as I think if it isn't working then don't force it and just find someone else it does work with.

I understand why people who may be married and in their late 30s + do, as it would be more important then to try and make it work.

Just my opinion though. :)

IMO once the trust has gone in a relationship then you won't get it back. Simple as.

By all means try everything you can to save the relationship, but if trust is the mani issue then i feel it would be better in the long run to find someone who you can trust and who trusts you implicitly.

If you go for it though, i wish you luck and i hope you prove me wrong :)

If you don't trust someone why the hell are you with them :confused:

Maybe Michelly meant how she'd been treated and/or how he had acted in PAST relationship/s, not this one? Please clear it up Michelly :)

i cant answer that as this isnt about me! thankfully!

Its my best friend who doesnt know what to do, and iv run out of things to say to her so thought you guys might help me out!

i cant answer that as this isnt about me! thankfully!

Its my best friend who doesnt know what to do, and iv run out of things to say to her so thought you guys might help me out!

Best friends agony aunt? Me 2 hun. Just give her the advice that you would do in the same situation. Honesty is the best policy.

I think deep down she know's what she has to do, but jus darent do it or admit it.

If she loves this guy then she should trust him, same goes for him. If she doesn't then she has to seriously think about finishin with him as it can escalate to jealousy, possesiveness etc, (i know as ive been thru it, and its not nice wat so ever)

No one can say for sure as every relationship is different, probably the most complex thing in the world to make work!

If you dont trust your partner because of past events would you consider relationship counselling to help build your relationship back up if you really loved them???
Chicken and egg.

If you love that person, you'd build up the trust again. If you trusted them, then it must means you love them. (Despite the flaws etc...)

Falling in love = blinkered view of a person's past, and go with immediate feelings and view.

Loving somebody = Gaining long-term (implicit) trust... discussing and viewing all sorts of topics including someone's past.