I love my partner very much but he depends on me to much. He worships the ground I walk on and is very happy to admit it. He texts me the same text every morning and we speak at 9.30pm for 30 mins. I feel like I'm living groundhog day but when I tell him how I feel he says sorry and gets upset.
How can I break this pattern?

Isn't the guy in the Army?
He probably just misses his loved one and having to speak to him for half an our every evening shouldnt be a chore.

I'm not sure sheffieldforum.co.uk is the best place for all this relationship advice, to be honest...

Have you ever considered going on Trisha? :D

Have an affair or tell him that he's not the father of your children. That works for most women

As I said above

Originally posted by jackthedog
I'm not sure sheffieldforum.co.uk is the best place for all this relationship advice, to be honest...

Sounds to me that you are bored with his attention which shouldn't be the case if you really love someone. You should relish the time spent chatting on the phone etc. If I'm wrong and you really do love him then why don't you try and break the pattern by sending him a text before he get's the chance or maybe call him when he's not expecting it etc.

Originally posted by Dick Dastardly
Sounds to me that you are bored with his attention why don't you try and break the pattern by sending him a text before he get's the chance or maybe call him when he's not expecting it etc.

I do try. When he comes home I take him fishing (which he loves) and take him out doing different things but its hard as he's such a quiet person and doesnt really talk. He is younger than me and maybe this is one of the problems

Originally posted by jackthedog

I'm not sure sheffieldforum.co.uk is the best place for all this relationship advice, to be honest...

Have you ever considered going on Trisha? :D

Bet yet people can talk about tooth problems or what sweets are nicer?

It seems to me that you are stifled by all this, so you kissed the barman the other night, now feel bad.......but your current relationship isn't suiting you. The fact you are posting your thoughts on here suggests that you are seeking confirmation that things ain't all that rosey.....although the folks on here are more likely to support you than anything else. I see storm clouds ahead....!;)

Ring him and say..."welcome to Dumpsville...population you"

(thanks to Homer J for the quote)

Originally posted by hotbombshell
I do try. When he comes home I take him fishing (which he loves) and take him out doing different things but its hard as he's such a quiet person and doesnt really talk. He is younger than me and maybe this is one of the problems

Maybe you should seriously consider whether this relationship is right for you. Sounds to me like you have different agendas with regards to the relationship and I get the impression that you are not happy cos of this.

My advice would be to do the best for YOU and if that means being selfish then so be it.

my wife often says im 2 clingy and posesive, thats how some people are when they love someone. i think in my case its insercurity what causes it but thats how iam. isnt it better than treating someone like **** and not caring at all.

sheesh! all the bleating on another post about how much I love my fella and I'm really gutted about kissing another bloke and now this?

Put the poor sod out of his misery as you're obviously not interested! :loopy:

I'm afraid I have to agree with the majority here - sounds like pre-breakup behaviour going on and you just want someone to tell you what you already know...

you don't love him. If you kissed someone else you obviously don't care enough for him for it to be love.

I have discovered recently that the term 'i love you' is banded about as much as 'how are you?' i.e a lot and with as much interest and meaning.

Moon Maiden
bitter and twisted

ooooooo hope everything's ok moon :(

Blimey Moon, but I do tend to agree.

I've spoken to my fella over the phone as much as I hated it but he's not home until friday and he needs to know now.
I mentioned that i was being chatted up by that guy and i enjoyed the attention which shouldnt be the way it is. weve spoken about things and are going to try and put spark back as i agree with other people on here and think its cos im bored with how things are with us.
i may be sad to many of you but believe it or not what all of you have said has helped me - thank you

All the luck in the world to ya hotbombshell...really...every single ounce of it!

Love
Moon

here's hoping he doesn't have a look at sheffieldforum then! :P

I may alienate some women on here with what I have got to say, but here goes my HONEST opinion on the original question to this thread.

I believe (from experience - mine and others) that women likes a man to be attentive but defiantly not clingy. When I mean clingy I think a women likes a man to be a proper man. Yes show your sensitive side but not to often. Treat them mean keep them keen is a kind of a good saying, although when I refer to the word mean I do not mean nastiness in any shape or form but for the guy to have an edge/mysteriousness about him. For the guy to be able to stand up for himself and her. To a certain extent women like to see a father figure in their bloke.


There you go I have said it. Like all statements about a group of people (this time broken down by gender) it does not apply to all within that group for various reasons but I believe my thoughts are true. Shoot me down if you want, but I am only being honest and truthful.

I agree about the attentive but not clingy but I wouldn't be complaining if someone loved me too much!

What women want from a fella....moon<--wishing for the days when men were men and women were glad of it.

Moon

Good relationship:

Have a laugh, dont take things to seriously (only when needed) smile, argue and have great naughty sex along the way!!!! :)

Oh Yes!!!!!!!

wots sex...never mind the naughty variety???

sorry ignore me...I am having a moment

Moon

You might do him some good by splitting up with him. He may already have sensed your disatisfaction - it's possible his over-attentiveness is his attempt to keep the two of you together. If you're bored and it's over then you might just want to do the decent thing. Good luck - hope it ain't too painful.

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
I may alienate some women on here with what I have got to say, but here goes my HONEST opinion on the original question to this thread.

I believe (from experience - mine and others) that women likes a man to be attentive but defiantly not clingy. When I mean clingy I think a women likes a man to be a proper man. Yes show your sensitive side but not to often. Treat them mean keep them keen is a kind of a good saying, although when I refer to the word mean I do not mean nastiness in any shape or form but for the guy to have an edge/mysteriousness about him. For the guy to be able to stand up for himself and her. To a certain extent women like to see a father figure in their bloke.


There you go I have said it. Like all statements about a group of people (this time broken down by gender) it does not apply to all within that group for various reasons but I believe my thoughts are true. Shoot me down if you want, but I am only being honest and truthful.

I agree ... and I can't see why that would that alienate any ladies on the forum !!? ...

It is possible for a guy to be gentle kind and loving without being a push over ... and to be strong (mentally emotionally and physically) without being 'hard' and cruel.

I've been thinking ....

Some people will only act like they love you ... when infact they love what you give them / do for them ... and so they act in a way to get you to give them what they want ... not really the same thing as really loving you (and having your best interests at heart) ...

hotbombshell:

Maybe you'll find the answers you're looking for in your own heart ... more than on here !?

Originally posted by Jamie
hotbombshell:

Maybe you'll find the answers you're looking for in your own heart ... more than on here !?

This sounds like good advice to me.