Speed Dating [Archive] - Sheffield Forum

Jamie

30-08-2003, 18:42

You're totally spot on there DaBouncer.

It is all about self confidence and belief in yourself and very little to do with what you look like. Girls just love that self confidence and guys who are sure about themself ... I recon they they can smell it or something.

It isn't something you can put on either ... but it is something you can develop it i think ... just like anything else.

I am not a totally unconfident person ... only with the chatting up of the girlies that I struggle. I used to teach traditional chinese exercise ... standing in front of groups of people and shouting the odds = no problem ... just the thought of chatting to a cute girl = nervous wreck !!!

There must be loads of guys like me ... I am just totally 100% determined to change it ... cos it is just not fun.

I figure the speed dating thing will help me to feel relaxed and comfortable and be myself around women. Just what I need.

Will defo keep u all informed of progress Lindsy :) ... if you don't mind me rabbiting on that is !?

Lindseyw

30-08-2003, 19:06

I dont mind at all - and if me or bouncy boy can help we will !!

Spacehopper

30-08-2003, 20:13

8) Nah Den..........

Speed Dating, eh?

Ah yes, I tried that one once............

Snorted aif a gram up each nostril; then with my new found confidence, went over to talk the ladies. Now, I thought I was being a smooth talking, silver tongued cavalier. However, in actual fact, I was talking complete and utter b*ll*cks, chewing my cheeks, my nose kept running and I kept repeating myself!!!

Trust me, ar kid, never take speed if you wanna impress the ladies. Oh yeah, don't try wooing 'em with the old elephant trunk impression either.............as the WPC pointed out at the time, indecent exposure is not big and it is not clever and it is also against the law.

I hope this cautionary tale may steer you clear of any mishap or misfortune, Jamie!

Regards,

Spacehopper.

Lindseyw

30-08-2003, 20:21

Spacehopper ......... my dear love - you may want to read up on speed dating honey pie ;) :)

tinajones

31-08-2003, 01:17

so has anyone ever been speed dating then?

tinajones

31-08-2003, 01:18

cubanas has speeed dating for £35 which is a ripp=off! but then again going clubbing just meet w****** anyway...

Edited Swearing - Lickszz

Jamie

31-08-2003, 08:19

Hehehehe - thanks for that excellent tip Spacehopper dude :)

What do u mean 'clubbing just meet w******' tinajones !?

I go clubbing !!! :P (not very often tho)

Edited Swearing - Lickszz

Richman

31-08-2003, 10:08

JamieW - have you ever watched "Would Like To Meet" ? (Sunday, 9pm, BBC3, will be repeated on BBC2 in the autumn). Lots of dating and confidence tips on there!
Good luck!

Jamie

31-08-2003, 14:21

Yep ... have seen that a few times thanks Richman :)

Feeling pretty good today :) ...

Mawgan

31-08-2003, 16:43

It is frustratingly difficult to meet new people in general; ptoblme is that in pubs and clubs and so on its difficult to get to talk because of the music and background noise, so people *tend* to go on looks more than anything else.

What I thnk is a better strategy is to meet people throughthe things you do for fun, hobbies and so on. (Assumng that you do more than visit pubs and clubs that is..)

That said, the confidence building stuff does help a lot of people, but you have to be careful that its not taken too far. There is a fine line between assertive and agressive, same as with between just confident enough and OTT.. Just be yourself with a little extra confidence and I'm sure it will help..

Like the sound of the speed dating thing.. Heard of it, but never seen anything in town..

tinajones

31-08-2003, 16:48

did you see emmerdale the other night - ashley the vicar went speed dating.

Jamie

31-08-2003, 17:52

Hi Mawgan :)

I think confidence has a lot more to do with how you feel about yourself (i mean comfortable, relaxed and happy with who you are ... and accepting yourself ... a 'feeling thing') ... more than what you do.

Acting over confident and being OTT are really just ways in which people hide their insecurities ... IMHO.

For me personally ... I just need to feel like I am fine as I am (mostly I do feel like that) ... and aslo ... just talk to girls and not feel like I have to be anyone else other that who I am.

Agree with you on the meeting peeps in clubs ... very hard !! ... more than one way to skin a cat tho matey :lol:

Speed dating will (i hope) just be fun and a controlled way of helping me to get past my fear of women ... really don't expect anything other than that !!!

Am I a poor mis-guided fool !!? lol

Agree with you on the meeting people through what you do for fun thing too Mawgan.

Jamie

31-08-2003, 17:56

How did ashley get on tina ?

PaulTansley

31-08-2003, 18:31

He fell asleep, so my wife says.
On another note the most popular place to meet someone is in a supermarket, thats a fact, so i would'nt pull out your mums shopping trolly thats un cool, but go in and take your pick and kinda accidently bump into her./or him:blush: .
Can't be seen to be discriminate can i.

richard

31-08-2003, 19:12

dont buy tissues and beer though

Carolina

02-09-2003, 13:40

SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Belle

02-09-2003, 14:33

My tips to a shy man who wants a girlfriend would be;

1. Dont go to clubs, they are too noisy, too much alcohol makes people do things they later regret so it isnt much of a basis for a long-term thing and I hardly know a couple who met in a club. Work is a better place to find someone, or college, where you can develop a friendly relationship over a few weeks and then it is easier to suggest a drink or film or whatever.

2. Remember that the girl you want to chat up is probably nervous too. Imagine how you would like to be approached yourself and try that on her, no, ha ha, I changed my mind. She wouldnt want you to take all your clothes off and throw yourself at her feet.

Imagine what approach to you by a girl would make you feel most comfortable and try that.

3. If you are too shy to ask a girl out in person, you could always text her or email her where she cant see your blushes.

and good luck

Jamie

02-09-2003, 14:58

Hi Again Carolina :D

What do you mean Louise !!! ... women don't want me to take off all my clothes and throw myself at their feet !!!? ... *shocked* :o

lol

Thanks for the great advice though Louise ...

Have to agree on the clubs ... and plus ... am not that in to clubs anyway (i would only go in the hope of meeting someone) ... too loud and smokey ... yuk.

On point 3 ... how do you get her email addy of mobile number if your shy to ask her out person to person !?

I recon the best way is to bite the bullit ... and ask her straight out in spite of all them shy feelings and palputations !!! ... Just go through all that (and then prob get rejected) ... cos that is just so much better than doing nothing.

Anyway ... I am now enrolled on a 10 week confidence building course with the Sheffield college ... and have found some speed dating in Sheffield too ...

Can't wait !!! :D

Carolina

02-09-2003, 15:45

hellohellohellohellohello

Jamie

02-09-2003, 15:59

You don't look at all shy Carolina !!!

It's on the 23rd of September @ the Halcyon bar ...

http://www.rapiddating.co.uk/rapidevents/sheffield/index.asp

Actually Carolina ... they do a *VERY* good salsa class @ the Halcyon bar on monday evenings from 7.30 pm ... I was there last monday and the atmosphere is great ... very friendly :D

Carolina

02-09-2003, 16:12

hellohellohellohello?

Jamie

02-09-2003, 16:20

Yes ... the class is very friendly and also a very fun time had by all Carolina ... u should try it :D

And yes !!! ... I go on my own to the class ... and dance with girls.

Last night I actually enjoyed it too :o !!! ... although I still break out in to 'cold sweats' with the cuties and just feel really clumsy.

I defo have danced with girls that I liked a lot (and I have some funny stories too). But do you know how many times I have had the courage to ask one of them out eh !?

Carolina

02-09-2003, 16:34

hellohellohellohellohello

Mawgan

02-09-2003, 20:45

Originally posted by JamieW

Acting over confident and being OTT are really just ways in which people hide their insecurities ... IMHO.

For me personally ... I just need to feel like I am fine as I am (mostly I do feel like that) ... and aslo ... just talk to girls and not feel like I have to be anyone else other that who I am.

You are right about the insecurities bit..

Most people need a boost or two once in a while and its good that you recognise the need to be yourself. So many others try to be anything other than what they are and that never works..

Thanks for the speed dating link.. I'm seriously tempted. Only thing is, I'm likely to be away all that week. Shame, I really fancy trying one of these..

mr craig

02-09-2003, 21:27

23rd at the halcyon,might come down myself and give it a go.

Jamie

02-09-2003, 21:47

Did you say your a pshycologist before, Mawgan ?

There was also this 'dining to meet' thingy if your interested Mawgan ... it's advertised outside the pub in the center of town just across from mc donalds (top of moor).

Only £15 and they feed you too !! (not to the lions i hope). I have a telephone number for it if your interested. Might give it a go myself.

Yeah come on down mr craig ... what do u have to loose :D

Spacehopper

02-09-2003, 21:58

8) Nah Den Ace.........

This post has been censored by Spacehopper. I apologise for any inconvenience.

Regards,

Spacehopper.

Belle

04-09-2003, 13:50

I am told that Ha-ha's are now doing speed dating too, just off the Peace Gardens

Jamie

04-09-2003, 14:58

Nice one ... thanks Louise ... I'll have to give them a call ... Will have to be careful though ... at this rate I could actually end up with a girl-friend ... lol

Mawgan

05-09-2003, 11:37

Originally posted by JamieW
Did you say your a pshycologist before, Mawgan ?

There was also this 'dining to meet' thingy if your interested Mawgan ... it's advertised outside the pub in the center of town just across from mc donalds (top of moor).

Only £15 and they feed you too !! (not to the lions i hope). I have a telephone number for it if your interested. Might give it a go myself.

Yeah come on down mr craig ... what do u have to loose :D

Did I say I was a psychologist? Yup.. Thats probably blown my chances with any single girls here; for some reason it seems to scare people off..

Love to try the speed dating thing, I'm just busy and hardly in town at the moment.. Let us know how it goes..

sammyBoy

15-09-2003, 10:18

Date Express (http://www.datexpress.co.uk/)

Jamie

15-09-2003, 11:57

Thanks for the link sammyBoy ... like the look of that one. I've got the speed dating at the HaHa! Bar tommorow (tuesday) night ... *gulp* lol

Susana

15-09-2003, 20:44

Somebody told me about something called 'Dining to meet you', its at a place called Buskers in Sheffield I think. Apparently it costs £15 and the men move round to a different table for each course of the meal whilst the women just sit there and enjoy the food. Everyone then meets up in the bar afterwards and socialises. Sorry it's a bit vague, I haven't actually seen the leaflet my friend was talking about.

hullmackem

15-09-2003, 22:22

Originally posted by Susana
Somebody told me about something called 'Dining to meet you', its at a place called Buskers in Sheffield I think. Apparently it costs £15 and the men move round to a different table for each course of the meal whilst the women just sit there and enjoy the food. Everyone then meets up in the bar afterwards and socialises. Sorry it's a bit vague, I haven't actually seen the leaflet my friend was talking about.

My god that sounds scary :o :?

I'm absolutely garbage at chatting to women but that would scare me to death. Big respect to the people who can go and do that.

Carolina

16-09-2003, 17:27

hellohellohellohellohello

Jamie

16-09-2003, 21:28

Hiya Carolina!!! :)

Just back from speed dating @ HaHa Bar! ... wow lol

Very strange experience ... was quiet nervous to begin with but I soon relaxed in to it ... and all in all had a really fun time and met some really nice people.

Everyone had a little card and you have to tick the ladies you would like to get to know more. I was edging my bets and ticked them all ... (only joking ... was about 3 i didn't tick ... and 1 i defo didnt tick). Hopefully I will get some matches !!!

Didn't meet miss right. Didn't really matter though. Was just a fiun (and strange) night out and great to meet so many different and interesting people. I loved it. Just loved talking to people like that.

I recon your right about the salsa vs speed dating as a way to meet people of opposite sex carolina. Salsa is much more fun. This was good just to help me get over the shyness thing...

Carolina

18-09-2003, 17:55

hellohellohellohellohello

halevan

18-09-2003, 19:37

Originally posted by JamieW
Hi,

Hope this doesn't sound too bad (i mean desperate ... lol).

Does anyone know of any speed dating events in Sheffield ?

I'm a bit on the shy side with the ladies and it (speed dating) sounds like a good thing ...

Also, if any guys (or girls) on the forum, have any (good) tips for meeting girls ... do send em my way !!

Jamie

Blushing is very attractive!!!

Jamie

18-09-2003, 21:48

Hiya Carolina !!! ... I'm not over 40 hunni ... so make sure u have ur dancing shoesies on and I'll give u a whirl ......

Is blushing really attractive ? Maybe in women ...

Could be a good poll topic ? ...

I got 3 matches from the night ... I basically ticked em all and 3 ticked me ... not many I guess.

Quite funny cos I have no idea who they are and I am engaging in email conversation with them ... lol.

Well ... 20 strange girls for 3 mins each ... how on earth am I supposed to remember their names ???

Carolina

19-09-2003, 18:09

hellohellohellohellohello

1Man&hisBMW

21-09-2003, 03:52

If the avatar is anything to go by Jamie looks alot younger than his 35 years, U shouldn't have much trouble in the pulling dept m8!

1Man&HisBMW

Jamie

21-09-2003, 09:52

Hi Carolina :)

Well I guess shy is good cos it generally means you're not full of *BS* like a lot of (more 'louder') people.

Hey mr 1Man&hisBMW ... cheers matey !!

Avatar is taken from a photo taken last october. I had just come back from holiday in Rhodes. Am not usually that brown, quite fair infact.

You'd be supprised how well you can knacker your chances when you're not all the confident and feel unsure about how to aproach the ladies. I really don't think looks matter that much to women, certainly not as much as confidence.

The funny thing is, I can be very confident and sure of myself at times. Put me in front of a nice looking woman ... POW ... bag of nerves ... lol. Maybe I feel like I have to be someone else with them (steve mcqueen ?) and not just me.

I am getting there though ... slowely :o

Mr. Teatime

21-09-2003, 20:55

Hiya, been reading this thread, speed dating sounds like somethign I should try. I know where the Ha Ha bar is, is there a website or list of something for events they have coming up? I am 21 and I am below the age groups for most of these things... they seem to think it's easy for a 21 year old to get a date! If only (I'm shy too).
Oh and what are those salse lessons again? Where are they, is there a website?
Thanks,
Jon

Jamie

21-09-2003, 21:55

You have to go in to the Haha Bar to get a ticket for the speed dating. Cost you 10 quid ... includes a free drink. I think they run it monthly.

Most people there were around your age ...

Try ...

http://www.atasteofsalsa.co.uk/

... for details of local salsa classes.

You're not alone with the shyness thing. Please let us know how u get on matey.

Good Luck,
Jamie

Mr. Teatime

21-09-2003, 22:13

Originally posted by JamieW
You have to go in to the Haha Bar to get a ticket for the speed dating. Cost you 10 quid ... includes a free drink. I think they run it monthly.

Most people there were around your age ...

Try ...

http://www.atasteofsalsa.co.uk/

... for details of local salsa classes.

You're not alone with the shyness thing. Please let us know how u get on matey.

Good Luck,
Jamie

Thank you Jamie, trouble with being shy is that so often you feel that you're the only one surrounded by people going out and having wild sex all the time.... well that's the impression I get as a student, and the media stereotypes and marketing things certainly don't help. Though I've learned to basically ignore everything the media says! I'll let you know how I get on, I'll probably go into ha ha tommorow. Any recommendations for salsa classes, I'm in Walkley and can get into the city centre...

Jamie

22-09-2003, 10:09

Welcome Dude,

Not sure about salsa @ walkley ... I know they have one at the crookes working mans club ... maybe that's too far ?

Well the media ... is a lot of advertising ... companies trying to convince you that you're inadequate (in various ways) and that you need to buy their products and services to feel ... happy ful-filled and GET SEX !!!

It is in their interest to stimulate feelings of inadequacy and unhappyness in people.

You don't feel good about yourself by buying stuff. That only comes from inside you ... am sure most people would agree.

*rant over*

I'm trying to figure out what's behind this shyness thing myself. I always have this feeling (when approaching girls) that I have to put some kind of act on and be better / different to who I am.

How about yourself Mr Teatime?

c_datexpress

22-09-2003, 13:51

Hi there singletons of Sheffield!

I have exactly what you're looking for! Speed dating in Sheffield that is safe, fun and professionally organised.

dateXpress is a new speed dating company offering people the opportunity to meet up to 25 singles in one evening. The events are organised by age range so at least you know all the people you will be meeting will be around the same age as you.

The events take place at the Bar & Brasserie, Greens Health Club, Napier Street, Sheffield. Our next event is for 25-35 year old professionals and will be held on 28 September 2003.

You will be greeted with a complimentary glass of sparkling wine and canapes will be served throughout the evening. Our hostesses on the night will be on hand to introduce you to the finer points of speed dating so there is no need to feel nervous.

If you want any further information, please feel free to visit our website at www.datexpress.co.uk or email me at cathy@datexpress.co.uk.

Hope this helps - look forward to seeing you there!

Cathy

Jamie

22-09-2003, 17:08

Hi Cathy,

Welcome to the forum :)

Are you intending to join in and make regular postings? ... or are you just a 'one message wonder' here for the free advertising!?

Only time will tell :o ........

c_datexpress

22-09-2003, 18:05

Well officially I'm just in it for the advertising!!! Although having read through quite a few of the messages it sounds like you're a pretty cool bunch.

I agree with the previous people that you won't have any problems getting a girly.... particularly if you use dateXpress (nothing like a cheap plug!).

Mr. Teatime

22-09-2003, 18:59

Originally posted by JamieW
Welcome Dude,

Not sure about salsa @ walkley ... I know they have one at the crookes working mans club ... maybe that's too far ?

Well the media ... is a lot of advertising ... companies trying to convince you that you're inadequate (in various ways) and that you need to buy their products and services to feel ... happy ful-filled and GET SEX !!!

It is in their interest to stimulate feelings of inadequacy and unhappyness in people.

You don't feel good about yourself by buying stuff. That only comes from inside you ... am sure most people would agree.

*rant over*

I'm trying to figure out what's behind this shyness thing myself. I always have this feeling (when approaching girls) that I have to put some kind of act on and be better / different to who I am.

How about yourself Mr Teatime?

Firstly I went to the Ha Ha bar today, they said their next one will be in about 3 weeks but can't say when.
Secondly, Cathy - do you do speed dating events for people in the 20-25 range? I keep getting the impression it's uncommon for someone in that age range to be using this sort of thing.
Anyway, regarding my shyness, I think it stems from a lot of things especially whilst I was growing up, I always felt seperate from other school pupils because I came from a different background (middle class I suppose, compared to much less well off people). Plus I was bullied quite a bit right up until 18 when I left school. I've never had a girlfriend, but I don't think that's as unusual as it sounds in a male in his 20s, I don't think as many men like to admit it though. Again I blame that on the media presenting the image of what we 'should' be like rather than how we actually are (also the wider culture around us, you're labelled as a wierdo if you're outside the norm).
Of course a LOT of it does come down to sex. We're often told to measure ourselves by how popular we are with members of the opposite sex, how many people we've slept with, most adverts are geared toward sex appeal (how many non comedy adverts are there where the female isn't some model or something), it can make one feel quite inadequate! It helped though when I realised what was going on, and looked at it in a more 'concrete' way rather than having vague feelings of shyness.

Anyway I think speed dating would be good for me because the main problem I have is starting a conversation with a girl, especially if I don't know her. Speed dating kind of avoids that problem by forcing people together, or at least that's my hope. We'll see....

Jamie

22-09-2003, 20:16

Hi Cathy.

I do have problems getting a girly ... it sux !! ... hard to say where I go wrong ... being so incredibly gorgeous and such a lovely natured person (ooops cheap plug!).

Hope you do stay and use the forum Cathy :)

Hi Mr Teatime.

I agree with a lot you have to say ... and I think you're a star for being so brave and strong enough to admit some of your 'weaknesses' ... (which I don't think are really weaknesses at all).

"measure ourselves by how popular we are with members of the opposite sex" ... big NO NO ... what does it matter what any other human being thinks about you !? ... it has to come down to how you feel inside yourself matey :o

We are all so completely different anyway ... WOO HOO ... is that not a good thing ? ... should we all be the same ?

Jamie

c_datexpress

23-09-2003, 08:39

Hi Mr Teatime, Jamie

I find it odd to read men talking so candidly about the way they feel and also being able to relate that to media pressure - and you are both really young.

Women always assume they get the rough deal as we are supposed to be a size 10 honey with a J-Lo arse! (As you pointed out Mr Teatime!). Unfortunately we aren't all blessed with such superficial good points. It is definitely what's inside that counts - and also the way you portray yourself. It is true that if you put a brave face on the situation and give yourself a 'big up' then you will come across a lot more confident.

I know it really will sound like I am giving speed dating a really really cheap plug now but honestly, I feel so strongly that this whole way of dating takes out all the 'shyness' from the situation. You know everyone else there is there for the same reason as you and you don't have to worry about rejection or anything.

Mr Teatime I am sorry that you are finding it hard to find an event that will cater to your age group. We are really interested to hear your comments and if we get enough interest from people looking for that age group then we will definitely host one. Keep checking our site for further details.

We do hope to hold a Christmas Party for singles, so I will keep you posted on that and you would be more than welcome to attend.

Keep your chins up - it will happen when you least expect it!

Cathy

c_datexpress

23-09-2003, 16:49

If anyone's interested we are offering a launch price of £5.00 for the first night of each age group including a glass of bubbly.

Not advertising, just answering the original question.

speak to you soon!

Cathy

Jamie

24-09-2003, 00:10

Hiya Everyone :o

Just back from the speed dating night at the halcyon ... as run by www.rapiddating.co.uk.

... and it was really really really good !!

I had such a fun night. Once you relax it all comes so natural !! ... why did no-one tell me that before !?

I actually really enjoyed meeting all them gorgeous hotties !! and I used to be terrified of talking to women ... so it is such a shock for me that I actually relaxed and enjoyed it !! Hopefully I will get some matches and meet some of them again ... but whatever happens it's been an education and a success for me personally.

This was my second attempt at speed dating and it was much better than the one at the HAHA bar. I feel a lot more relaxed and myself and confident talking to women. All in all it has been a great exercise to help me get over the shyness thing ...

Jamie

c_datexpress

24-09-2003, 08:44

Excellent! Glad to hear you had a good night.

So come on then, tell us all more! What did you say? How many ladies did you meet? Do you think there were any 'connections'?

Fill us in on the gossip!!

Cathy

Jamie

24-09-2003, 12:01

Well Cathy !! ....

There were some really nice and attractive ladies there. I just hope I didn't put any off by drooling too much in to my drink !!

I met 18 ladies during the evening. There were more girls than guys, so sometimes the girls were just sat on their own (awww). Great fun for the guys though.

I met 3 girls that I was quite attracted to. One girl had the most amazing deep blue eyes (I was too chicken to tell her so ... doh).

Blonde gorgeous sexy and friendly !! what more could you want !?

So yeah I made some connexions (i hope so at least).

I also met some girls that I just got on with really well and had a right laff with. One just gave me her email addy and mobile # on the spot. So a lot of new avenues opening up for me.

As for what I said.

I didn't have anything planned. I just went with the flow, which worked really well and was fun and enjoyable.

I'm going to have a go at Cathy's speed dating night next. Hope I don't get addicted ...

Mr. Teatime

24-09-2003, 21:48

I need to try this out, on rapiddating.co.uk I can't see any events listed for Sheffield?

Jamie

25-09-2003, 10:01

Or you could try the HAHA bar ... a lot of young people there.

The www.rapiddating.co.uk night I went on was 22-35 ... and fun ... ask them if they have another night.

I think Cathy's company www.datexpress.co.uk seem to cater for 25 year old's minimum ... is that correct Cathy?

They also have a £5 introdutory offer on at the moment.

Whatever you do ... let us know how you get on Mr Teatime :)

c_datexpress

25-09-2003, 16:31

That's right Jamie. At present the starting age is 25 but we are more than willing to hold a night for say 18-25's if there is a market for it.

Obviously Mr Teatime would be interested which is a good start and if there are any other under 25's who would like to try it, let us know and we'll certainly try and get one organised.

I will keep my eyes and ears open though for you Mr Teatime in the meantime and if I hear of anything I'll let you know.

Cathy

simb

25-09-2003, 16:51

There was a speeddating night at the Halcyon Bar on Tuesday. I think this was through www.rapiddating.co.uk Hope this helps

Mr. Teatime

25-09-2003, 19:36

There was also one on Tuesday in the forum bar apparantly. I just need to know about these thigns in advance, and find out if they're for my age range.

timothy

25-09-2003, 21:16

Hi all,

Just looking through the forum and noticed a chat about speed-dating.

Maybe we can help. We offer events on a regular basis and hold them at the Halcyon Bar, Devonshire Street, Sheffield.
Our age ranges are 22-35, 30-45, 40-55, 55+.

We had a great event last Tuesday and the feedback was excellent. Like Cathy says everyone there is in the same situation, everyone is nervous, but hey they're all single!!

Check out the website and book your place for the next event.

Hope this is of help to you.

Tim.

Jamie

25-09-2003, 22:25

Bloomin heck ... another speed dating company advertising on the forum !!

c_datexpress

26-09-2003, 07:33

Tim

Just to let you know there are no events on your website. I would try and get that sorted out pretty quickly as believe you and me peoples interest soon wanes!

Cathy

stvh

26-09-2003, 16:06

I tried a speed dating meal at "Buskers Bar" opposite McDonalds top of moor. Was a great nite!

£15 3 course meal, give them your name, turn up and there were about 20 or so "couples" moved on after courses and left to own devices at end of night.

Definitely not seedy or corny, all over 25, lots of different backgrounds, I met a lass we dated for a couple of months but still friends.

Go for it!

emma_uk

27-09-2003, 22:38

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Speed dating is marketed as a modern and sophisticated way to meet like-minded people in a safe environment, without the embarrassment of blind dates or the uncertainty of the internet.
A normal speed dating session works in roughly the same way as a game of musical chairs. The women are seated at small tables and the men move around the room meeting each one in turn.
The couples are allowed three or four minutes to chat before a bell sounds and the men move to the next table.
Each participant keeps a score sheet, and at the end of the night they hand them in to the organisers who compare scores to see if there are any matches.
Simon Pugh, chief executive of The Training Exchange in Dinnington, is organising some of the events in South Yorkshire.
He first attended a speed dating event in London, and enjoyed it so much he decided to organise events of his own.
"Speed dating doesn't have the tarnished image that dating agencies have," said Simon, whose spin-off company is called Lightning Speed Dating. "It's fun and most people get a match within two sessions.
"Some people worry that they won't get enough time to speak to someone they like, but we hold our sessions in bars or clubs with a late licence to allow people to socialise afterwards.
"The beauty of the time limit is that it means you're not stuck talking to someone you really don't like for hours, like on some disastrous first dates."
In effect, speed dating allows participants to "screen" a large number of people in a short space of time, before arranging a proper date, with someone they like, at their discretion.
Simon said: "We look at all the score cards at the end of the session to find matches. It's great because it takes away the embarrassment of asking someone out, only to find that they don't fancy you.
"We do all that for you, and we don't pass any contact details on without permission from both sides."
But with only three minutes to impress potential dates, how can you maximise your chances of making a good first impression?
The Training Exchange also offers its clients free one-to-one coaching, either over the phone or in person, before their speed dating experience.
Simon said: "The best piece of advice when trying to impress someone new is to smile, lean towards them a little and be really open and friendly with your gestures."
Another new Sheffield speed dating company, dateXpress, has taken a different approach by using Green's gym and health club on Napier Street, Sheffield.
Director Catherine Hinsley said: "The venue is very important in order to set the scene for the rest of the evening. We spent six months looking for the right place and turned down those that other companies are using."
DateXpress is also one of the only companies that breaks its clients down into different age groups, and encourages clients in their 50s and 60s as well as younger people.
"I think there are a lot of people out there who may be divorced, widowed, or have kids and want to meet like-minded singles," said Catherine.
"In fact, these are often the people who may have been out of the social scene for a while and find it hard to meet potential partners."
To try speed dating for yourself contact The Training Exchange on 0845 6009050 or dateXpress on 07764 182804. You can also log on to www.datexpress.co.uk

27 September 2003

tinajones

27-09-2003, 22:44

it all sounds rather inorganic and expensive. how do you know people are single - what if attached people are just shopping around?! i think i'll wait for fate and destiny....

rs6060

12-11-2003, 04:45

Hi Jamie

Read your posting from a while ago regarding Speed Dating.... did you give it a go? I am considering going to one of the nights if you fancy poping down.

On another subject, I know you !!! lol

I'm Richard S, the guy who worked at Alternative Software years ago. You did a conversion of a game I did (Dead Or Alive).

How's it going?

Rich

Martin_s

12-11-2003, 12:24

Well I'll be honest I never thought I'd be reading this thread and thinking ok, this sounds interesting but having been newly dumped after 3 years (cue: long, tear jerking story *yawn*) I'm wondering whether it'd be something worth trying...

Have to admit though, I'm in the "I don't want a relationship" stage of things so friends (I tend to get on better with ladies... and the not so ladylike ;)) is more important..

Do you get people going to these things just to meet people and have a laugh or is it more for the "want a partner" type of person?

Just curious, and not thinking seriously about it honest :thumbsup:

Mawgan

13-11-2003, 19:07

Intersting night at the Halcyon a little while ago, not least because it was the last place my ex and I went to before she became my ex.. :rolleyes:

When they say speed dating, it really is speedy; 3 minutes is just about long enough to sit down, a few pleasantries either side then you need to move on. In a couple of cases, that was a blessed relief, in a couple more not so..

Worth thinking about the age range if you are going to do one of these things, I'm 34 and went to a 30-45 event and about 50% of potential matches I reckon will have ruled each other out immediately because of the better part of 15 years age difference..

Worth thinking about fairly open questions; if you ask 'what was the last great film you saw' to someone that doesn't like films you are onto a looser before you start.

All in all, not a bad night out. Nothing has come of it, but think I'll try again.. We should maybe organise a forum trip to one, at least there would be a few like minded souls drowning their sorrows after.. :D

Jack Yerbody

13-11-2003, 19:18

I've tried this speed dating thing in London (you know the script, lots of people with v little time), and it was quite a giggle. But, being honest, my friend and I were just "shopping around", and it proved to be a far cheaper way of getting some phone numbers for future use than hanging around in bars. Not many got a second phone call...

Beware of men. Especially ones you meet at speed dating nights

Mawgan

13-11-2003, 19:23

Originally posted by Jack Yerbody
Beware of men. Especially ones you meet at speed dating nights

Think you are right to a point; there were definately some odd and sad characters around..

Some of the women weren't much better.. :loopy:

MichaelTravis

13-11-2003, 19:38

This speed dating business sounds horrific.

Does anyone know of a scheme where intelligent, beautiful women with low expectations and standards can be delivered to my sofa?

Ta.

Jack Yerbody

13-11-2003, 19:39

I believe they are known as "escorts" in the trade - although quite why one would compare these beauties to a crappy Ford car is beyond me...

MichaelTravis

13-11-2003, 19:44

I was thinking a bit more long term than that...

Escafeld1889

13-11-2003, 19:47

Originally posted by MichaelTravis
This speed dating business sounds horrific.

Does anyone know of a scheme where intelligent, beautiful women with low expectations and standards can be delivered to my sofa?

Ta. :headbang:

if only eh?

:wow:

vivien

13-11-2003, 20:40

jamie firstly the pics of the forum meet did not do you justice
secondly i apologize for calling you a skinhead and last of all you will find someone or they will find you like the man says dont look for it i have been on my own for 2 years nearly and get very lonely but i will stay lonely for a long time cos ive got kids and i woudnt want anything to hurt them. so just wait and see what the stars throw your way and be lucky:thumbsup: :P

Jamie

13-11-2003, 21:11

hi vivien,

thanks for your post ! ... i wasn't at all upset by the skinhead comments tho ... and actually I think I am due for a hairdo ... lol.

i wonder what makes you think the forum pics don't do me justice tho ... ?

i agree with you (and tinajones also commented) ... about leaving it all to 'fate' ...

:)

the speed dating thing (for me) has been a great way to build up my confidence with women ... and in that sense it's been worth it ...

Sidla

14-11-2003, 14:40

But are you still single?

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 11:58

Undoubtedly.

Jamie

15-11-2003, 16:07

Originally posted by Jack Yerbody
Undoubtedly.

lol .. why undoubtedly ?

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 16:26

Nah, man, just jesting. I'm just a bit sceptical of meeting miss right at a speed-dating event.

But happy hunting, nonetheless.

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:03

Me too ... I wouldn't do another one ... speed dating for me has served it's purpose ......

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 17:08

"Served its purpose"!!! lol. Is that a roundabout way of saying you got your oats

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:19

NO !! ... not at all ... u suspicious man you !! ...

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 17:20

Nah, I've just been on this speed-dating lark, and know what it's like!!

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:22

I guess it's different for different people Jack ...

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 17:32

Too true.

Incidentally, just clicked on to your website - didn't realise you were the GENIUS behind Nitro!! Used to play that to death on the old Amiga 500. Well done sir.

I'm thinking of buying a GBA - largely to get "Wings" - any recommendations?

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:41

Wow ... that's cool Jack ... and thanks !!

It's always nice when someone enjoys something I created ...

:)

Gameboy Advance is a really cool piece of kit.

Unfortunately hardly any UK developers / publishers are making games for it ... because Nintendo are greedy and take too big a slice of the profits ...

What kind / genre of games are you into Jack ?

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 17:42

Most, really, apart from first-person shooters, and out-and-out strategy/war games.

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:51

Usually the games produced in Japan are the best.

Anything that says mario ... etc ... fantastic.

There's a great platform / puzzle game with baby mario and some dinosaur he rides (forget name).

But basically ... a world of difference between games produced my japanese companies and ones done 'over here'.

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 17:57

Cheers mate. Who you working for now?

Jamie

15-11-2003, 17:59

Sadly I'm looking for work ...

Not much out there, with the current (icey) climate, there is no demand for top class (modest) GBA developers like myself !!

I keep looking though.

May have to change careers ...

max

15-11-2003, 18:14

Read in tonight's Star that the speed dating was a bit of a wash out. Seems that 5 times as many women as men showed up. The group behind it are saying they may hold one more at Christmas. Perhaps the speed daters should come to the forum meets?

Mawgan

15-11-2003, 18:50

Originally posted by max
Read in tonight's Star that the speed dating was a bit of a wash out. Seems that 5 times as many women as men showed up. The group behind it are saying they may hold one more at Christmas. Perhaps the speed daters should come to the forum meets?

Thats a wash out? I'd have thought that the odds were pretty good for us chaps then.. :D

That said, I am skeptical about people meeting the right partner for each other at these things, but it seems to me to me that they are out there somewhere and the only way to find them is to increase your chances of so doing by getting out and about..

If that makes any sense..
:)

Jamie

15-11-2003, 18:56

That star article sounds like nonsense to me.

I have went on 3 seperate speed dating events with 3 seperate companies ... all in Sheffield...

On all 3 occastions there was 50/50 men women ... ok, the first had 3 less men than women (20 men ... 17 women).

Do not believe everything u read.

Jack Yerbody

15-11-2003, 18:58

Good luck - stick with it, and I'm sufre you'll be sweet. Hell, you bloody created Nitro!

Almost makes me want to get my copy of Easy AMOS out the loft...

Mawgan

15-11-2003, 19:19

tinajones

16-11-2003, 23:19

Originally posted by JamieW
That star article sounds like nonsense to me.

I have went on 3 seperate speed dating events with 3 seperate companies ... all in Sheffield...

On all 3 occastions there was 50/50 men women ... ok, the first had 3 less men than women (20 men ... 17 women).

Do not believe everything u read.

i have actually tried to have a go at speed dating a couple of times for a laugh and both times i rang up to book they said the ladies list was fully booked! so i've still never been.

i'm still scepticle tho - i mean sheffield isn't really a city with loads of busy people who simply don't have the time to meet people - except for me of course, working full time and doing my masters has been knackering. well thats my excuse for being single anyway!!!

Mawgan

19-11-2003, 09:30

Originally posted by tinajones
i have actually tried to have a go at speed dating a couple of times for a laugh and both times i rang up to book they said the ladies list was fully booked! so i've still never been.

i'm still scepticle tho - i mean sheffield isn't really a city with loads of busy people who simply don't have the time to meet people - except for me of course, working full time and doing my masters has been knackering. well thats my excuse for being single anyway!!!

Erm.. And me.. Hardly ever here as I work away a lot and there seems to be quite a few people around where I live that are in a similar position.. The ladies being booked up before the guys does seem to be typical from what I've heard. Makes me wonder where all the single ladies are when I actually do manage to venture into town for an evening..

Moonolt

19-11-2003, 14:38

I was chatting to the girl in the paternoster lift in the Uni Arts Tower with me as we were going down this afternoon. She'd just been to a Speed Dating session (she named the website, I forget what it was though) and really enjoyed it. The age range was 23-30, but with some people being a bit younger or a bit older...

Sharon

24-11-2003, 12:21

Been reading all the replies to this thread with interest. I too am rather shy when it comes to meeting the opposite sex. And as I get older, the opportunities to meet anyone at all seem to get fewer and fewer (friends all paired off etc).

So I bit the bullet and attended one of the Speed dating events at The Halycon Bar (run by rapid dating). After a bit of a nervous start, I actually had a really good time. I felt very relaxed and met some very nice people. A few of who I even ticked "yes" on my piece of paper! I liked one guy in particular who I chatted to for *ages* before the event even began. We got on so well! Or so I thought. Turns out he was a friend of the organiser who was brought over to talk to me because I was sat all on my own. And as he didn't turn up on my matches that must have been the only reason he spoke to me (Thanks a lot. I *so* enjoy being pitied)

Once the "Speed dating" was over and the organiser announced that it was time to mingle and have a few drinks, I seemed to turn into the invisible woman. Totally ignored by all. So after sitting their for a while feeling like an idiot, I left.

Then to add to my humiliation, the results I received from the organisers turned up no matches. Not one of the men I liked was interested. So what little self confidence I had has been completely crushed.

Needless to say I won't be going speed dating again :(

Funky Dave

24-11-2003, 18:49

Maybe you were unlucky Sharon? Don't let it damage your confidence - Mr Right was obviously not around that day. I'm sure that speed dating has its success stories. Would you be able to take a friend along next time? That way, even if you don't meet anyone, you can still enjoy yourself, not feel lonely, and perhaps have a laugh about it afterwards?

Sharon

24-11-2003, 20:48

I'm afraid all my friends are scattered around the country. I only have one friend who lives in Sheffield and she already has a boyfriend so I rarely see her anymore. This is why I had to go speed dating on my own in the first place.

Anyone got any suggestions? I don't really like going out clubbing (and even if I did, there's no one to go with) And don't say online dating because I tried that for months and it was a complete washout!

Sorry about just turning up on here having a moan btw. I'm not normally such a misery but the experience really got me down.

tinajones

24-11-2003, 22:55

Originally posted by Sharon

So I bit the bullet and attended one of the Speed dating events at The Halycon Bar (run by rapid dating)....

Needless to say I won't be going speed dating again :(

what an awful story! can't say i'm au fait with the speed dating phenomena so i can't offer you any tips, other than have an extra glass of wine if you try it again and get stuck in! (easier said than done i guess.)

i saw an advert in todays Metro that might be of interest to some of the people on this thread. its inviting 20-35 yr olds who are genuinely looking for romance to take part in a new dating programme for BBC TV. there are 'auditions' on friday at the novotel i think. (i will check it tomorrow to add times and edit if details are wrong.)

having promoted that i'm not sure that TV presents people fairly or in a favourable light so i definatley wouldn't dare go on! - taking the **** out of contestants makes the best TV innit!!!

Mr. Teatime

25-11-2003, 00:25

I enquired with a few speed dating places, and they were all out of my age range (I'm 21). Being a shy sort already, I'd feel pretty stupid being 21 when everyone else was 25 or older. The BBC audition thing sounds like a 'street mate' type program (which I hate), or one of those programs where they take a 'loser' character and transform them (which I hate even more, as I don't think there's anythign fundamentally wrong with me anyway, although clearly I'm not normal in the love life type area....). ugh.

kirky

25-11-2003, 11:47

Boy 007.

25-11-2003, 13:05

I hear there is going to be a regular night at the Hilton, about £30 a night. I think it will be every week.

Its a pretty cool night, i did one in london in the summer and had quite a few dates since as a result, the only problem is it is addictive, cos unlike when you go clubbing and try it on with loads of 'taken' girls, and end up going home with Miss Russia 1996, then chewing your arm off to leave in the morning, the girls, and guys i guess, are all like minded and pretty easy going.

I know £30 sounds alot, but when you think about it, its about £1 a date, and you dont feel obliged to buy any drinks.

i am pretty confident with the girls and have no problems approaching in night clubs and bars, but the hit ratio is fairly slim.

If i hear about when and where i will let you know. as it is a friend who is setting it up here in Sheffield.

Funky Dave

25-11-2003, 17:59

Kirky, does the "treat 'em mean keep 'em keen" approach really work? And why does it? I'd feel like a right scumbag doing that to someone.

Jamie

26-11-2003, 13:16

hehe ... thanks for the tip kirby !!!

so next time i spot an attractive lady, i should blank (ignore?) her huh ...?

does that really work ...?

Martin_s

26-11-2003, 14:08

Luke: be yourself luke... :)

Who knows what works and what doesn't... I figure be honest, be yourself and hope/pray lots :D

... of course I recently lost my GF of 3 years so take this all with a HUGE pinch of salt (eg: the entire contents of the dead sea!)

MichaelTravis

27-11-2003, 16:53

Originally posted by Boy 007.
... and end up going home with Miss Russia 1996

I can't work out whether Miss Russia 1996 is supposed to be attractive or the opposite

Moonolt

27-11-2003, 17:27

Originally posted by MichaelTravis
I can't work out whether Miss Russia 1996 is supposed to be attractive or the opposite See for yourself (http://www.1stnetllc.com/russianwife1/MissRussia/AlexandraPetrova). Personally, I wouldn't say no...

Jamie

27-11-2003, 19:08

She does'nt look too unattractive from where I'm sitting ...

Mawgan

28-11-2003, 12:18

Originally posted by JamieW
hehe ... thanks for the tip kirby !!!

so next time i spot an attractive lady, i should blank (ignore?) her huh ...?

does that really work ...?

I strongly suspect that would increase my chances at decrease yours.. :D If you see someone nice and ignore her, she's not likely to come rushing over and talk to you, more likely to show an interest in someone that might show an interest in her.

Never been one for the treat them mean and keep them keen thing..

Back to speed dating, still think there could be something in it. 30ish minidates perhaps gives you a better chance of meeting someone you click with than a good few less snatched conversations where you can hardly hear yourself think and half the conversation involves each of you yelling what? at eachg other..

Final thought, there is a big difference between speed dating and dating someone on speed. Recent experience suggests there are some rare isotopes around that are more stable and predictable. :loopy:

slimsid2000

10-06-2004, 14:08

I'm considering speed dating but don't really have much idea what it is all about or how reliable it is.

Among my questions would be:

.How much does it cost (or better still does anywhere do it for free)?

.What sort of people go to speed dating, ie are they looking for relationships or just one night stands?

I would welcome any help people can give.

mr.blaze

10-06-2004, 14:11

There was a post a couple of days ago by someone stating upcoming speed dating nights and events. I think your prolly talking about a fiver.

Having never been to one or known anyone who has I can only think the people that go are of an older age and mostly looking for relationships. If they were just looking for a quickie surely there are easier ways?

mimicraze

10-06-2004, 14:11

hiya my main man!

havent been speed dating (not single) but know a couple of poeple that have, and most of were divorced and lookin for companions/relationships, not one night stand, but obviously theres oging to be people looking for all different things so bit of a silly question :)

mimi
x

Jamie

10-06-2004, 14:13

I seem to remember there has already been on thread on speed dating in Sheffield ...

Anyway ...

As far as I know ...

There are a few places along west street that do speed dating (forgot which ones).

Date xpress do a night at greens: http://www.datexpress.co.uk/

HAHA bar have stopped there speed dating night.

Good luck !!

beckb

10-06-2004, 14:14

Not sure I could cope with that much rejection in one evening!

:(

Sidla

10-06-2004, 14:16

LOL Beck that sounds like the sort of mentality I'd have.

You're right Jim, there was another speed dating thread, so merged it.

evildrneil

10-06-2004, 14:25

Speed dating is fun, if you keep it nice and light! Remember though its more "speed breaking the ice" rather than speed dating! Of course if no-one is interested in you thats a bit of a downer - but hey sh*t happens as they say (didn't stop me sulking though!) Anyway I went to one recently in the Longe Bar - its relaxed, laid back, serves a good mid way platter and is a mere £2 a ticket :o

slimsid2000

10-06-2004, 14:33

Originally posted by evildrneil
Speed dating is fun, if you keep it nice and light! Remember though its more "speed breaking the ice" rather than speed dating! Of course if no-one is interested in you thats a bit of a downer - but hey sh*t happens as they say (didn't stop me sulking though!) Anyway I went to one recently in the Longe Bar - its relaxed, laid back, serves a good mid way platter and is a mere £2 a ticket :o

Thanks. Where is the Lounge Bar please?

evildrneil

10-06-2004, 14:39

Its up on West Street, roughly opposite the Swim Inn...

sarah_d

10-06-2004, 14:58

Let us know how it goes.

Titian

11-06-2004, 07:50

try
www.fusiondate.co.uk

It was my company but I sold it and it is still running as far as I know.

One of the couples on my last event are very much together adn recently bought a cat and named it after me....aaaaahhh

slimsid2000

15-06-2004, 15:16

I've been to the Lounge Bar and asked about their speed dating. Apparently they have a night of it every month with about 20 men and 20 women aged between about 23-35.

I'm still a little unsure about how it all works though. Am i right to say you go round each person in turn and spend about 2 mins with each one?

What happens at the end of the night though? What if you meet someone you loike and would like to see again?

Does anyone here have experience of speed dating and can say if it was a good or bad experience?

I would welcome any information on the points above.

cheers

slimsid2000

21-06-2004, 13:41

Does anyone know of other bars etc that do speed dating in Sheffield just so I can compare them with Lounge.

Cheers

sid

robbie

26-06-2004, 21:04

I think Revolution does it upstairs on Wednesdays (although I'd hate to think what its like)

Jamie

07-09-2004, 11:07

Where (and when) are any speed dating nights held in Sheffield?

I'd like to give it another go ...

slimsid2000

07-09-2004, 13:19

The Lounge Bar have one on the last Thursday of every month.

Draggletail

08-09-2004, 00:03

Originally posted by kirky
when you see a nice bird in a boozer and she looks at ya..blank her.......works nearly every time...
This is probably the most sensible advice so far:bigsmile:
BUT, I suppose you have to have the self confidence and therefore the observation to realise that Quote: a 'nice bird' is looking at you...

Titian

08-09-2004, 07:38

You could try

www.fusiondate.co.uk

It was my company but I sold it.

Has a good reputation and was covered by the telegraph. One of my couples are planning to get married soon too.

Jamie

08-09-2004, 09:20

Originally posted by draggletail
This is probably the most sensible advice so far:bigsmile:
BUT, I suppose you have to have the self confidence and therefore the observation to realise that Quote: a 'nice bird' is looking at you...

What does this mean ... nice bird is looking at you .... ?

Draggletail

08-09-2004, 13:45

Originally posted by Jamie
What does this mean ... nice bird is looking at you .... ?
'Nice bird' originally posted by Kirky - but I think you are been ironic jamie? If so, why? - you are a good looking bloke.
Kirkie's plan seemed good, but I had just come back from the pub... 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen does work for some blokes, but I'ts never been my approach. Most people meet there future partners through work, or mutual friends, I think (allthough I understand from previous post you work from home - difficult)

These salsa events sound promising though:thumbsup:

Pauly

08-09-2004, 18:35

Originally posted by slimsid2000
I've been to the Lounge Bar and asked about their speed dating. Apparently they have a night of it every month with about 20 men and 20 women aged between about 23-35.

I'm still a little unsure about how it all works though. Am i right to say you go round each person in turn and spend about 2 mins with each one?

What happens at the end of the night though? What if you meet someone you loike and would like to see again?

Does anyone here have experience of speed dating and can say if it was a good or bad experience?

I would welcome any information on the points above.

cheers

I did a speed dating night at HaHa's last February (2003) and it was an ok night. Nothing to shout about really. 3 mins with each person, a bell rings and then you move onto the next. Write down the number (1, 2, 3 etc) of the people you like and if they happen to put you down as well then you've given each other's contact details the following day, Some people were easy to talk to and some were like a brick wall.

I was emailed 3 phone numbers the next day from the company and chose to contact one of them. We had a nice date but it didn't go any further than a one night stand. That's life sometimes.

Two of my housemates went with me that night. One of them got no phone numbers (poor bloke) and the other ended up meeting a guy and they stayed together for quite a while. I've lost touch with them now but last time I knew they were still a couple and getting on famously. :D The experience is different for everyone. Just have a go.

Jamie

08-09-2004, 21:04

Originally posted by draggletail
Kirkie's plan seemed good, but I had just come back from the pub... 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen does work for some blokes, but I'ts never been my approach ... These salsa events sound promising though:thumbsup:

Kirkies plan !!???

Personaly I don't think much to the "treat em mean keep em keen" concept and I think women who go for guys like that are lacking in intelligence and self respect (so who cares about them anyways?).

On the other hand ... being a push over and overly nice is a very bad idea too.

Much better to just be your natural self and smile.

Salsa is fantastic and I totally love the dancing and it's a great way to make friends and talk to people (both men and women).

To be honest ... I'm having so much fun dancing that I don't really care if I meet anyone or not (although it would be nice).

If I do decide to go speed dating again it will just be for fun.

p.s. I do work from home but am looking in to getting some shared office space.