Are we better forming relationships with people who share our likes, passions, interests, politics etc or is it much more interesting to be with somebody who is the opposite of yourself?

Surely you need to have some common ground or am I wrong?

i think common ground certainly helps to an extent and sharing the same interests as somebody else helps at first - but long term it's someones personality that keeps you together regardless of what their interests etc

but do opposites attract - i don't necessarily think they do - i prefer someone that's more like me
i.e i'm quite a confident, assertive, happy go lucky kind of person and look for the same in a potential g/f
shy and timid women are a big no no for me :nono:

Well, I have little experience in the matter, but I always feel more attracted to girls who are almost my exact opposite.

Opposites do attract but need a little common ground to stay together.If your partner is exactly same or exactly opposite it tends to fall apart.

I am the complete and utter opposite of my boyfriend and we both admit that if we werent together we would hate each other cos im the sort of girl he used to hate and hes the sort of person i generally find irritating and dont get on with or understand. Weve been together for 4 years so opposites must attract.

My husband and I are often described as chalk and cheese. Our opinions on many many things are opposing, but we do share common interests one of which got us together in the first place.

I have dated guys with whom we would appear the perfect match but I get bored with being agreed with all the time.

Moon

i like the challenge of being with someone who doesn't think the same way as me, i learn new things and teach new things. being with someone who's into the same things and thinks the same ways gets boring very quickly.

My ex-gf had similar interests and goals as I, but our personalities were totally different.

The things we had in common were not enough to save the relationship, as our personalities were so different.

Although I think you can be very different, but you both have to be equal. Relationships where one person is particularly strong while the other is less so can be quite unhealthy.

I think that an 'equal balance' is more important than any similarities between people. I think a partner needs to be someone you can kind of 'bounce off'.

Does that rambling make sense?

blimey after reading all this i seem to be the odd one out - no wonder i'm still bloody single!!

*makes a note* 'opposites attract' !! :D

Originally posted by jackthedog
I think a partner needs to be someone you can kind of 'bounce off'.
There's not many people who don't bounce off me.

Originally posted by Bedhead
blimey after reading all this i seem to be the odd one out - no wonder i'm still bloody single!!

*makes a note* 'opposites attract' !! :D
I'm single too but am more attracted to my opposites. I probably need to modify the target of my attractions...

Originally posted by Bedhead
blimey after reading all this i seem to be the odd one out - no wonder i'm still bloody single!!

*makes a note* 'opposites attract' !! :D

Lol. Snap, I have experienced both types someone who had the same kind of interest, but we were together all the time and ended up arguing a lot, and someone who had different interests and we couldn't even listen to music together because we couldn't stand each others taste. But I think you have to have common ground there but not be axactly the same.

I gather so!!!
Chris and I have been together 19 months now... He's into computers, fiddling around with anything technical and virtual reality games... I'm into shopping, having a good gossip and living in this world!!! (Would never dream of spending an afternoon playing a comp game!!) Yet still we get along...

I do find it hard to take an interest in his interests, as the world of computers is baffling and he may as well be speaking a foreign language to me, when describing the insides of a computer... However in saying that, I do find it attractive that he knows lots of things I don't and never will know and it provides me with a sense of security that if my computer ever did go wrong, he'd be my knight in shining armour and rescue me lol!!!

He is definately more relaxed than me, about life... I'm more "come on... lets plan this... lets go there..." kind of thing, where as he's more chilled out taking life as it comes... I guess out differences compliment eachother...

Personality is a different issue with us though, we're both of a sensetive temprement, loving and gentle (aaah!) and we always find outselves doing cute couply things like bringing up the same topic at the same time, or both coming up with similar ideas. Our time together makes us what we are together, but our time apart is very different, he has his things, I have mine and thats how it is... But it works! :D

There is a very cute fitting animation here

http://www.sambakza.net/

Click on view next to the image with the fish/carrot and cat. if that doesn't work try downloading the flash file and upzip it.

Broadband recommended as it is 1.9Meg in size.

Enjoy.

i generally like lads who are more confident than myself etc. but then having some things in common is always good, gives ya something to talk about and do!! i dont have anything in common with ma bf by way of interests and likes/dislikes i dont think, maybe why we rarely find anywhere to go together. all good though :P

Opposites can attract but I think it's an advantage if there is some likenesses.

well !! my bloke is the complete opposite of me, and weve been together 13months, and it works really really well, the thing is you arent gonna find someone the oppsite of you easily if you think about it, so if your single, best thing is to stop looking altogheter, theyll find their way to you. seriously! it just happens :D
mimi
x

Originally posted by mimicraze
if your single, best thing is to stop looking altogheter, theyll find their way to you. seriously! it just happens :D
That doesn't work.

well it has for me several times :)

Maybe you need to be female for it to work. It never has for me :(

Originally posted by Sidla
Maybe you need to be female for it to work. It never has for me :(

Agreed sid :(

I think mimi has something ....

If you're looking for it ... all you get is anxiety and tension.

If you're not looking (but open to finding) ... then you're much more relaxed open and natural ... and in a state (emotionally) much more attractive to the opposite sex.

Just like lots of things ... it works better if you DON'T try ...

yeh, youll find that your sexier, as your not lookin around, your confident, laid back, relaxed, and thats really really appealing for the opposite sex. its not just women that it works for. if i saw two guys in a cafe lets say, both gorgeous, one sat there getting on wioth his mates having a laugh and not atall noticing me and the other sat with his mates having a good time but looking at me, and hes tense and edgy, id go for the first one, hes the mroe fun one, the happier one. thats attractive and thats sexy :)

Originally posted by Sidla
There's not many people who don't bounce off me.

How do you mean Sid? :confused:

Originally posted by jackthedog
How do you mean Sid? :confused:
I mean if you walked into me, you'd probably bounce off...

And I don't agree that not looking works. I've never really been looking for love, and I've never had it, so people who say it'll just happen when you aren't looking are clearly wrong.

As I said, it might work if you're female, but it's never worked for me.