A friend of mine recently found her biological father on the internet,she has never seen him and after the initial shock they began to correspond.The problem is he has suddenly stopped messaging her back and reading her emails,even though he has been going onto the site where they met.What should she do,keep trying or give up on the whole thing and decide that he's just not a nice person really and that she is better off not getting to know him?

I have recently had a similar problem that I have not resolved. I received 2 blank emails from the person involved. I'm still not sure why or what to do. It could have been a technical problem but i am too scared to try and email to find out so I have just left it.

Perhaps if your friend wrote an email with "Do you wish to still have contact with me, if not it's fine" in the title she may get a response. If not she could be sure the person at least read that part.

Thanks,she's done that but the problem is, it's through this forum and the titles don't come up until the msgs are opened.Will try anyway.

Have you given any thought to the fact that this guy might be scared to death?
I know two guys who have lost contact with their children thru one reason or another. They have chosen to stay away because their children have lives and do not wish to upset their stability and so they have continued with their own lives.

Despite the fact that yes he is her biological father, it is a life changing event having children without complications, so to suddenly have your daughter contact you will be a bit of shock.

Give him some time and then try again. He may contact her when he has had time to think about things

Moon Maide

I agree that time may be all it needs. I've now been waiting months, sadly I am giving up things.

As far as her friend goes though she did say after the intial shock they had been having contact.

A relative of mine met her biological father for the first time last year when she was 18.

She saw him a few times, I even went with her sometimes. It was extremely uncomfortable for all involved. Imagine trying to catch up on 18 years of someone's life.

Anyway the contact fizzled out after a couple of months. He hasn't called her and she hasn't called him.

He had his own family, a wife and a new daughter. I think it was easier for him to just let his life go back to the way it had been before he met his long lost daughter.

It's a horrible situation for anyone to be in. I think the best thing to do is make one last effort of contact and if there is no response just leave it be.

Thankyou for all your comments and suggestions.

Yeah I imagine it's uncomfortable.
I think that is the reason that I am giving up. It would have been nice to form some history but I think thats about all I could get from my situation and I'm ok as I am.

I do feel for people in this situation on both sides.

My friend is giving up too,it is quite painful for her but she thimks it's probably for the best,it's a shame 'cos she met him through this forum.Life goes on.