OK now I got you in here all angry that I'm claaing this forum sad, that's not what I mean - so you can breathe deeply and calm down again =D

Seems like a good, strong community going here, and I plan on hanging round here now I've found it. What I mean by "sad" is that there is no sense of community "In Real Life". So by sad I mean that there's actually a NEED for an online forum instead of face-to-face chat, and social interaction with neighbours I'm sure a lot of you know each other quite well, but how many of you actually know your neighbours more than one or two doors away, and how many actually chat to THEM, rather than your Sheffield neighbours online? Because I do feel that community spirit is sadly lacking in many areas in the age of spoon-fed entertainment through the TV etc. Could you ask your neighbours for help if you really needed it? Would you help if they asked? And would you be able to approach them if there was a problem, knowing that you'd be able to discuss it in a civil manner?

Originally posted by Squiggs
Could you ask your neighbours for help if you really needed it? Would you help if they asked? And would you be able to approach them if there was a problem, knowing that you'd be able to discuss it in a civil manner?


Yes, yes, and yes.

S e e m s like a good comunity in here.
sure it is ok, but in real life some of us will end up fighting, arguing or at least not taking a liking strangers as people do in real life.

it really is great when you meet a stranger and just click straight away. i have made 2 good friends of late, it was acceptance all round.
on the other hand i have customers in my shop i wouldn't mind not seeing again. just life really.

real life meets can be awkward sometimes
just look at reality tv

I've never spoken to any of the neighbours on one side apart from to say high. The only reason I speak to the other side is because they run a corner shop, so i go around for things we run out of now and then.

I have a busy life and plenty of friends elsewhere, as far as I know apart from living on the same road I have nothing in common with my neighbours, nor do i expect to live here for the rest of my life, or even the rest of this decade. So why make the effort.

Originally posted by Cyclone
So why make the effort.


Tut, tut, tut :nono: :shakes:

No offence Cyclone, but...

Originally posted by Cyclone
So why make the effort.


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If all the people who ever said "Why should I try, i'm only one person, I can't affect the outcome" had taken a stance, the world would be a better place.

kinda contradictory no?

and Mikosavi, I wouldn't know, I've never partaken in a real life meet of any internet group I've ever been involved with, no matter how many hours I've spent on forums or IRC....but I suppose the thing of being behinnd a computer screen "loosens up" some people to be more forthcoming and chatty.

To be honest, I'm as guilty as anyone of not making an effort with neighbours etc, but I was more wondering than actually starting a serious debate

Originally posted by Squiggs
What I mean by "sad" is that there is no sense of community "In Real Life". So by sad I mean that there's actually a NEED for an online forum instead of face-to-face chat, and social interaction with neighbours I'm sure a lot of you know each other quite well, but how many of you actually know your neighbours more than one or two doors away, and how many actually chat to THEM, rather than your Sheffield neighbours online? .....

Chatting on a forum is totally different to chatting with neighbours. You discuss things on here that you wouldn't dream of talking about with people who live on the same street. On here you can remain totally anonymous. It gives everyone an opportunity to voice their opinions, which may or may not be too favourable to people who are within walking distance of your front door. Forum friends don't always agree either and there have been plenty of "knock down-drag out" arguments. I hardly think that some of the topics that we discuss on here are appropriate for neighbourly chit chats over the garden fence.
Some people should be glad that no one knows their identity because it allows them to be outspoken, opinionated, offensive, bullheaded, and even prejudiced. True feelings are revealed.

Futhermore, I am too far away to converse with my friends in Sheffield. I don't have the opportunity for "social interaction" So the forum gives people like me a chance to keep in touch, make new friends, talk to people from all over the world.

You are missing the point of the forum. It cannot be compared to face to face chats with "THEM"

Personally I'm not sad; in fact I'm quite happy.
So sit back and relax, you're among friends now.
Love Funke

not contradictory.

The sig is about making a difference, my question was about what i personally would gain.
To make a difference it has to be something you think is worth making a difference too. Talking to my neighbours would cost me time and effort without any payoff for me.

i am always friendly towards my neighbours but theyre not interested, just ignorant rude people! moving soon i hope. i have had my fair share of absolute nightmare neighbours tho

The majority of people on my road and on the houses behind the back gardens are 60+ I have lived on the road for 11years now and there is hardly anyone you don't walk past or see without stopping and having a chat to.

I live in a terrace and the neighbours I share the yard with are absolutley fine.On the other side,we used to have a really good relationship with.But,last year we had a problem with a wasps nest on their eaves.
When I approached him about it,telling him I could get him a ladder,and I had already bought the wasp killing gear,he flew off the handle.He said that it was always the same,that we couldn't leave anything alone,and that he was going to'knock me out'if I didn't f**k off out of his face now.
Well I was taken aback.Up untill this point,we used to go out occasionally,have them round to all our BBQ's in summer and just generally have a good laugh with them.What brought on this change of attitude is still a mystery to this day.
Anyway,he didn't knock me out because I just laughed in his face and invited him to try and he just mumbled something under his breathe.
It just shows that no matter how hard you try with your neighbours,they are not really your friends,just people that you live next door to.You only have to tolerate them.

We know our neighbours really well and have shared barbeques on occassions. I guess this is helped by the fact that two of my hubbies relatives now live in our yard so i guess I cheat on that one.

Moon

I've lived in a different student house for the last two years and on both occasions have got to know the neighbours well. Last year it was another group of students and this year it's a young couple. It's nice knowing that there's someone around if anything major happens. I think the fact we share a terraced alley way helps. It would be really rude ignoring each other.

As for at home, we've lived in the same street for 9 years and know everybody well. Having said that it's not the same as it was. We used to have street parties and stuff but now the little kids would think that was saaaaaaaaaaaaa-aaaad. Still, my parents always make the effort to introduce themselves to new people who move in. My Auntie chose her house on the basis of the neighbour. She was torn between two places and was having a second viewing. She was really pregnant at the time and it was a boiling hot day, the woman next door saw she looked tired and offered her a seat and a cup of tea. When you know you'll be around friendly people like that it can make all the difference.

Please consider this offering written by myself on the very subject in question.


Those Cup-Of-Sugar Days
by
Sam Miguel

All for each
one for one
those cup-of-sugar-days are gone.
Locked in boxes
self-inflicted
to soaps and tabloids become
addicted.
Be the DJ
the landlord
the microwave chef
pour out another as you scream at
the ref.
Electronic wallets
cashless
DD’s
pick up the phone ring shoppers TV.
Conversation gone
no need for chat
cosy
warm
just stay where you’re sat.
We’ve sewn the seeds
that strangle the mind
self centered hunger
ravenous
blind.
One for each
all for one
those-cup-of-sugar-days are gone

^ sums up what I meant quite well ^_^

What do you mean quite well? I just wrote that on a fag packet in honour of your statement and all you can say is that it sums up what you think, quite well.

It took me several seconds to write that, with you in mind, and all the praise I receive is a neutral laid-back statement such as that.

Cor blimey. I may lay down my bookies pen and fag packet f'rever.

that's not it at all, I was, obviously, so gobsmacked by the sheer talent and literary genious that I just couldn't find the words...

..hopes that he dug himself out of that hole..

Right. I believe you. Thanks for being a fan.