or do you think lifes what you make it.lots of people blame their childhood for how they have turned out.or sometimes people associate bad people on a bad childhood.well i think i was dragged up,but i think its affected me in some things,but not in others.whats your expieriance.

It's said you are a direct reflection of your childhood.

Take a leaf out of Freud's theory: childhood experiences affect you in later life, conscious and sub-consciously.

Some people have a crap child hood and learn from it. Like me, when I'm older, I'm not going to let my child hood haunt me forever, I'm just going to use it so I know what to do and what not to do with my kids :)

Some people have a crap child hood and learn from it. Like me, when I'm older, I'm not going to let my child hood haunt me forever, I'm just going to use it so I know what to do and what not to do with my kids :)

Yes but how has it affected your behaviour? this is the point.

Yes but how has it affected your behaviour? this is the point.

Yeah, but not only in bad ways is what I'm trying to say :)

I think it does. We're a product of our environment really. Even as adults, if someone is bad to us, we recall subconciously that hate. Else how do you explain some people's learn-ed behaviours ?

I think I know what you are getting at. Does it excuse a person's behaviour ? No. It just means that some of us have to battle harder for a better life than others. If our childhood doesn't affect us that much, then there wouldn't be a market for paid psychiatrists in the US.

"Now, let of yourself, and try to relax....we shall slowly begin... from the beginning.... " :D

We continue to take influence form our surroundings and experiences throughout life - that's why people 'mature' among other things.

The formative childhood years certainly do make us what we are, more than anything else.

Our views, outlook, sympathies, emotional strengths and attitudes are all based on a core known as the 'motivational value system'.

This is largely formed by the time we are about 8 years old, and though we can stretch a little one way or the other, it's what we are for the rest of our lives. The only way to fundamentally change us once this has been formed is to live through some sort of severe emotional trauma which can adjust our perception of those base values (near-death experience, difficult bereavement etc).

Get bringing up a kid wrong and the damage is done before it's 10.

So what went wrong with you then? Come on, share. Something must have happened.

So what went wrong with you then? Come on, share. Something must have happened.

Here we go, getting personal again. You disagree with my views, I disagree with yours. I accept that and find our opposing views interesting.
Could you please tell me when I last made a personal jibe at you, that was not in response to something (like this) that you initiated?

If you're sufficiently fascinated with me and my views to hijack a thread to have a go at me, it's very flattering, but a little sad.

Oh, an ex-colleague mentioned this briefly before too about some book on raising a child. Our brains do not mature fully until the age of 25. I presume he meant the growth development of the matters in our brain. I dunno how true that is, but it certainly makes sense if sometimes we behave in a way that is unexplainable, even to ourselves.

I had a crap School life, and that's why a lot of people consider me a bit agressive nowadays, because I have a lot of pent up rage inside of me and I just want to go on a big :rant: :rant: about how crap those days were.

Here we go, getting personal again. You disagree with my views, I disagree with yours. I accept that and find our opposing views interesting.
Could you please tell me when I last made a personal jibe at you, that was not in response to something (like this) that you initiated?

If you're sufficiently fascinated with me and my views to hijack a thread to have a go at me, it's very flattering, but a little sad.

I couldn't tell you that; you're not that interesting.

I couldn't tell you that; you're not that interesting.

My own personal stalker - makes me feel somewhat grand and important.

My own personal stalker - makes me feel somewhat grand and important.
That must be nice for you.

Yeah, but not only in bad ways is what I'm trying to say :)

Yes, exactly, so it has affected your behaviour!