Just seen this on the BBC.

Link (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4863770.stm)

I'm astounded ;)

Seriously though, when they referred to casual sex, I expected it to mean a casual, non-committal relationship, and not a one night stand. If it had been the former, I'm sure there would have been more positive results.

Any ladies care to comment? It's based on a survey by a team in Sheffield, so perhaps we even have some contributors here. The chances are pretty slim mind, the sample only seems to have been 46 women!!

23 - 83?

Maybe there was only a few younger women, and the rest were about 83 :hihi: :gag:

Just seen this on the BBC.

Link (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4863770.stm)

I'm astounded ;)

Seriously though, when they referred to casual sex, I expected it to mean a casual, non-committal relationship, and not a one night stand. If it had been the former, I'm sure there would have been more positive results.

Any ladies care to comment? It's based on a survey by a team in Sheffield, so perhaps we even have some contributors here. The chances are pretty slim mind, the sample only seems to have been 46 women!!

Why are you astounded? So not every woman is gagging for a s*** with the nearest bloke at the drop of a hat. Sex still means something special to some people.

9 out of 10 arent up for casual sex wonder where that 1 out of 10 is :hihi:

9 out of 10 arent up for casual sex wonder where that 1 out of 10 is :hihi:
:heyhey: :heyhey: & I promised I wouldn't tell either :hihi: :hihi:

Why are you astounded? So not every woman is gagging for a s*** with the nearest bloke at the drop of a hat. Sex still means something special to some people.

If you read my post, that's not what I said at all.

I questioned the definition of casual sex. To me a One Night Stand is just that; a casual relationship with someone is a relationship without commitment.

You also seem to have missed the point, in that this was a tongue-in-cheek thread.

Are any of you thinking, 'Oh I must go out on a date with Slimsid. He is such a georgous hunk'?

If you read my post, that's not what I said at all.

I questioned the definition of casual sex. To me a One Night Stand is just that; a casual relationship with someone is a relationship without commitment.

You also seem to have missed the point, in that this was a tongue-in-cheek thread.

I missed the point because the point is not clear. One night stands and casual relationships are just two types of casual sex - so why the need to question the definition. especially as the report refers to both kinds of casual sex. That's why I'm confused!

I agree! Would like to have something special before sleeping with someone...

Spooning on the other hand... eh Slimsid??? :hihi:

Are any of you thinking, 'Oh I must go out on a date with Slimsid. He is such a georgous hunk'?


Hmmmm...let me just check.....er, no, I'm not thinking that. Can't speak for the rest of us, mind... :P

I don't think that casual sex (or one night stands, however you want to define) is immoral, I just know that it's not for me- so maybe I'm in the 10%, but you still won't find me bed hopping.

I am not at all suprised by the survey sex is mainly a man thing girls prefer love,after all who finishes the sex? not you girls , a man has to perform a girl can fake .

I missed the point because the point is not clear. One night stands and casual relationships are just two types of casual sex - so why the need to question the definition. especially as the report refers to both kinds of casual sex. That's why I'm confused!

Seriously though, when they referred to casual sex, I expected it to mean a casual, non-committal relationship, and not a one night stand. If it had been the former, I'm sure there would have been more positive results.

I'm sorry if it wasn't clear enough for you, must be the way I write.

I wldn't expect Women to say they actively seek one night stands, even if they were garuanteed annonymity.

As I say, I think if the question was geared more towards casual relationships, the positive responses would have been higher.

As I say, I think if the question was geared more towards casual relationships, the positive responses would have been higher.

I'm sorry, Liencam, but that sounds more like male wishful-thinking than reality.

I'm very pleased by the results of the survey - just confirms to me that a lot of this ladette-type-behaviour is carried out by a very loud (small) minority, who do not represent the vast majority of women, most of whom (at least going by this survey) seem to regard casual sex as immoral.

Sorry - that was a VERY long sentence! :)

StarSparkle

I'm sorry, Liencam, but that sounds more like male wishful-thinking than reality.

I'm very pleased by the results of the survey - just confirms to me that a lot of this ladette-type-behaviour is carried out by a very loud (small) minority, who do not represent the vast majority of women, most of whom (at least going by this survey) seem to regard casual sex as immoral.

Sorry - that was a VERY long sentence! :)

StarSparkle

LOL - hardly StarSparkle, it's my genuine opinion. I couldn't care less what the majority of women chose to do - only the ones I like concern me :D

As I alluded to though, there is a difference to the way you conduct yourself, and who you tell about it. I'd wager that some girls, if asked would answer that it is immoral, despite views to the contrary.

In such a small sample though, this is unlikely to have happened. 46 is such an odd number. Perhaps a lot of ladies walked off without comment when approached. It would be interesting to see how many did so.

In such a small sample though, this is unlikely to have happened. 46 is such an odd number. Perhaps a lot of ladies walked off without comment when approached. It would be interesting to see how many did so.

It does seem a ridiculously small number to try to draw any conclusions from. The people doing the survey would have been better getting a lot more people to answer their questions - perhaps they had limited time available to them?

StarSparkle

"They found that although participants thought one-night stands were immoral, they did not condemn women for having them as many of them had indulged themselves."
True. Each to their own.

"But there was a view that those that did had "something lacking in their lives".
Maybe it's a case of, the women that do go for casual sex do not think of the lack of emotional fullfillment that they obviously is seeking. In a steady relationship, the emotional needs are more likely to be met.

"She said the results did not fit in with images of today's independent woman who can go out and get sexual fulfilment without the ties of a relationship.

The results of the research appear to clash with the results of a national survey in 2000 which found Britons are more promiscuous than ever before."
Well, I do think that the statistic isn't a good representation of the nation, since only 46 women were involved. I mean, if you did the study in London, it may skew the stats, cos there's more singletons in London, and the lifestyle dictactes that people are less likely to hold down a steady relationship cos of the fast pace of life there. On that point, I don't think the stats were well represented. If they said that, women in SHEFFIELD is not following the national trend, then maybe that's more accurate.

It's not surprising to me that many women do know what you are likely to get in a steady relationship, than one that is casual. Just because a girl is being a bit of a 'laddette', does NOT mean that she is looking for casual sex either. I think the men have to understand this point. Maybe she's out for the flirting, but when it comes to sex, it's a whole different kettle of fish altogether. Sex in the City is based in the US, in New York. Where people are less likely to have families, everything is on the go. It's a singleton's paradise really. So why do males in this country thinks that people in Britain will want that ?

Just seen this on the BBC.

Link (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4863770.stm)

I'm astounded ;)

Seriously though, when they referred to casual sex, I expected it to mean a casual, non-committal relationship, and not a one night stand. If it had been the former, I'm sure there would have been more positive results.

Any ladies care to comment? It's based on a survey by a team in Sheffield, so perhaps we even have some contributors here. The chances are pretty slim mind, the sample only seems to have been 46 women!!

:hihi: DR "TUPPY" OWENS

Pffft! Well, tup me!

Pffft! Well, tup me!

I'm glad I'm not the only jeuvenile person on here! :thumbsup:

Or the only cultured on either :hihi:

I notice I didn't get any offers... :(

Not sure about the immorality, but I can kind of see where they're coming from with the something missing in their lives bit, and I'm not even female!

I am not at all suprised by the survey sex is mainly a man thing girls prefer love,after all who finishes the sex? not you girls , a man has to perform a girl can fake .

That's a bit general isn't it? I find sex with someone I care about usually ruins a perfectly good friendship! And I don't *do* love...

As for who finishes it? Well I would hope that both people do, otherwise there's very little point starting it!

Only 46 women surveyed...that's certainly not enough for a representative sample and a strange number to pick. I'm surprised they could publish anything with such a low number. Perhaps it was a pilot study. But with an age range of 60 years to cover, sampling only 46 people isn't going to give a reliable result. Wonder where they got the sample from....a church?

As for people believing there is something missing from someone's life if they have casual sex, there is...arguments, boredom, nagging, pretending you like their idiot friends...;)

Or the only cultured on either :hihi:

I notice I didn't get any offers... :(
Must have passed them by....whooooosh!

Immoral? I wouldnt quite say that...
Personally I'd say it "cheapens" the experience of sex/love making as most of us know how really special it is when you're with someone you really love...
Fair enough it gives you more experience for when you do find "the one" but it could give you a whole lot more than you bargained for if you're not careful :gag:

I'm sorry, Liencam, but that sounds more like male wishful-thinking than reality.



Well said Starsparkle!

I am not at all suprised by the survey sex is mainly a man thing girls prefer love,after all who finishes the sex? not you girls , a man has to perform a girl can fake .

If the girl has had to fake then the man hasn't performed! Maybe sex would be more of a girl thing if they didn't need to fake? Would men be so keen on sex if they knew the chances were they wouldn't have an orgasm by the end of it?

does anyone really know what goes on in the mind of a woman? :o

If the girl has had to fake then the man hasn't performed! Maybe sex would be more of a girl thing if they didn't need to fake? Would men be so keen on sex if they knew the chances were they wouldn't have an orgasm by the end of it?
Of course not,but the girl has the choice, and you are very lucky if you both finish at the same time or i have just probably been crap at it, but ive really enjoyed it, however i am always willing to learn any offers?

i think if two consenting adults both fancy a quickie with no strings attached then thats up to them. i have had my fair share of them (when i was younger i dont do it anymore of course) and no i do not find them to be immoral but thats my opinion. and its up to everyone else if this is how they choose to indulge in their sexual preferances.

The term and act quickie never really appealed to me, i like comfort,i would have thought it would appeal even less to girls,who usually take longer to get there.Unless they have already started of course.

Of course not,but the girl has the choice,


Exactly - hence the 'I've got a headache' syndrome! Unfortunately many women are lucky to 'finish' (as you put it) at all.

This is a strange thread.

With a few exceptions the talk has been of the sex, whereas no-one's talking about how you end up there, i.e. the chase, the flirting, not knowing how things will turn out or how far to go, undressing someone for the first time etc. Exciting stuff if I remember correctly :|

Anyway, aren't all sexual relationships 'one-night-stands' until the second night?